The "dark side"

[El Diablo]

... in response to Age, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 24, 2002

You'll get no flame from me, eighteen or nineteen is way too young IMO.  Any guy, I dont care if he's 25 or 40 is playing latin roulette with only one chamber open when he gets involved with such a young gal.

El Diablo

[Cali vet]

... in response to The "dark side", posted by El Diablo on Feb 23, 2002

Thanks Diablo that's quite a horror story. We know there are all kinds of machinations that go on in Cali. I was wondering about accounts that take place on US soil. I get the impression that there are quite a few situations where for one reason or another the marriage doesn't work but the girl does't return to Colombia.

[El Diablo]

... in response to Re: The "dark side", posted by Cali vet on Feb 23, 2002

I was writing so quickly that I don't think I made it clear, the shenanigans started in Cali and they continued when she came to the U.S. after her marriage.  Once in the U.S. she started making connections with her network here and was contacting several gringos while living with her husband.  I'm not sure what precipitated it but at some point she just took off alone to Europe to meet up with the Spanaird.  But her Visa was not proper and the authorities sent her back to the United States.  She must have contacted the spousal abuse group before arriving as I believe they were waiting for at the airport or soon after.  

I think once the dust settled, the gringo filed for divorce and the gal returned to Cali.  It doesn't sound like the goal was the United States but rather money and adventure.  I think when all was said and done, she came away with a good sum of money.

[H2Oh]

... in response to Re: The "dark side", posted by Cali vet on Feb 23, 2002

I think this is a great topic you bring up. I know of 2 or 3 gringo's  that have married women from Cali and these women have little desire to go back to Colombia when it didn't work. Let's remember that most of the agency girls join because they want to get out of Colombia, find a way to help support their family in Colombia or really want to find a good husband.
I see many nieve guys go down to Colombia and think that some beautiful girl that's 20 years younger then them really wants to come back to the states with them for nothing else then love. How many chicas come here and find out that the gringo they married is just an average wage earner, not the Bill Gates they thought they where marrying?
Money means alot to most of these ladies, and they are here to get it one way or another.
I would guess that 25 to 35% of the marriages from Colombia don't last past 2 years. Yes these are better odds then marrying an AW but it more expensive and time consuming to end a marriage to a Colombian.
As I tell everyone, TAKE YOUR TIME AND BE VERY CAREFUL.

My 2 cents,  H2-Oh

[Hoda]

... in response to Re: Re: The "dark side", posted by H2Oh on Feb 23, 2002


Unless one has FACTS of EVERY marriage to a lady that was a member of an agency. Generalizing "MOST" of these ladies is silly & useless to say the least. Your "GUESSING" serves no real purpose. And in regards to the cost of marriage. I've spent more here, financially & emotionally. Than what I've spent going south. I will agree whole-heartedly, that one should take their time in their search. But, I will support a guy, if he honestly feels he's found & been found by love in a short period of time. There is no "One" path towards success.

My 50 pesos.....

p.s. If you bleed in the water, the sharks will come$$$$$

[pastilla100]

... in response to Re: Re: The "dark side", posted by H2Oh on Feb 23, 2002

When you say "25 to 35% of the marriages from Colombia" don't last are you talking about Colombia in general or Cali?  I went to Cali once and my impression was that the place was one big red flag and I wasn't going back.  That's why I'm planning my next trip to Bogota.  I am also working my connections in Mexico, but that takes a lot longer since there is little agency support.

[Hoda]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: The "dark side", posted by pastilla100 on Feb 24, 2002

Do tell us why....

I do hate these blanket generalizations about ANY city! One visit & you're ready to cover Cali, with a "Red Flag"?

Please.....

[Onephd]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: The "dark side", posted by pastilla100 on Feb 24, 2002

What were the red flags you saw?

Please inform us!!