Any ideas on this?

[Bobby Orr]

... in response to Any ideas on this?, posted by Ramblin on Feb 28, 2002

Many of the girls have very hard lives.  They really do not have the time to write that often.  They are more interested in the here and now - since their existence really is more day to day.  Forget the one who was "sick in the hospital in Poland."  She is full of you know what.  The other three I believe are very much interested in you.  They want to see some hardware already ie. you.

[Natalya]

... in response to Re: Any ideas on this?, posted by Bobby Orr on Feb 28, 2002

Everybody here tried to find different excuses for RW for not writing you back as working hard, don't have a time, cost of internet.I can say that most of this excuses are bullcrap except of course cost for internet access. IMHO you should ask them about internet expences and offer them financial help( of course if RW will accept it).Second .If RW attracted to you SHE WILL ALWAYS FIND TIME TO WRITE BACK! And she'd write you more frquently then before your visit there.IMHO these RW just don't really care for you anymore.Now it is time for you to rethink what possibly in your attitude, behavior, appearence, manners in time of your meeting with these RW could be cause of RW not to be interested in correspondence with you anymore.There is always two sides of coins.And so far I heard only bunch of excuses for RW.How about yourself?Nobody is perfect.Maybe RW just didn't like you.As simple as that.Don't forget that majority of RW would never show or tell this to you at time of meeting.But they stop corresponding afterwards.Maybe you should ask them about it so next time you go you won't make the same mistake.Something  what you did or in you definetely turn these women off.Try to figure this one.

[WmGo]

... in response to Interesting question,Ramblin., posted by Natalya on Feb 28, 2002

I congratulate you on your excellent command of the popular American phrase "bullcrap".

[JohnL]

... in response to Re: Interesting, posted by WmGo on Feb 28, 2002

called "verbal diarrhoea" (and I had to get the dictionary out just to be sure on the Queen's English there) we here in O'z would never say what you just said in a place of Public Opinion !

Good to see you and and a few others like Karl peering out from under the "barrage" again ! Yep, Karl it is safe to come out again, you make me laugh Mate !!

When Y'a going over again William? Wouldnt mind joining you Bro !!

J

[WmGo]

... in response to No William, No ..... it's ..., posted by JohnL on Mar 1, 2002

Hey John,

yeah, being a little naughty. Just thought it was funny the way the FSU lady picked up on and actually used the phrase on a public forum.

I hope to go back over this summer.

Best regards!

w

[Ramblin]

... in response to Interesting question,Ramblin., posted by Natalya on Feb 28, 2002

Yeah, or maybe they found a bigger and better deal.  One of them said that she got a new job and works from 9 to 9 and falls on her bed exhausted when she gets home, but she still has the weekend and still has time to plaster new photos of herself all over the internet.  She probably got some new handsome guy visiting her.

[Natalya]

... in response to Re: Interesting question,Ramblin., posted by Ramblin on Feb 28, 2002

about these problems.Please keep your attitide positive and you will find the right one.I don't know your age neither age of RW you are looking for, but if you do want to be succesful in your search try to be realistic with age difference.This whole process is very hard time consuming task and if you have to wake up early in the morning to call your RW then you just have to do it "I was sleepy" is not excuse for RW for not calling her

[Ramblin]

... in response to Ramblin, you sound pretty bitter, posted by Natalya on Feb 28, 2002

If she's full of bullcrap, why should I call her?

[Zink]

... in response to Interesting question,Ramblin., posted by Natalya on Feb 28, 2002

"Something what you did or in you definetely turn these women off.Try to figure this one."

Good point, Natalya. But speaking from experience it's hard to know exactly what went wrong if the lady quits communicating. I'm willing to learn from my mistakes but RWs are famous for never talking about problems. So naive guys like myself believe everything is just fine until she disappears. Most RWs will never tell a man, "this is what I don't like about you" or  "this is what I do like about you". And afterwards we sit and second guess ever move we made, trying to decide if that was a mistake.

My ex-girlfriend informed me that I wasn't doing everything that a man should do for her. But I could never get her to tell me exactly what it was that I wasn't doing. I know I made a lot of mistakes. I know most of what I did wrong. But I've never figured out what I didn't do that I was supposed to. But then maybe that was just her. Other people who knew her said that she wasn't doing enough for me either.

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Interesting question,Ramblin., posted by Zink on Feb 28, 2002

Zinc wrote: "My ex-girlfriend informed me that I wasn't doing everything that a man should do for her. But I could never get her to tell me exactly what it was that I wasn't doing. I know I made a lot of mistakes. I know most of what I did wrong. But I've never figured out what I didn't do that I was supposed to. But then maybe that was just her. Other people who knew her said that she wasn't doing enough for me either."

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I've heard this one before: They expect you to read their minds. You are supposed to be mystically in tune to their needs, even though they won't even drop a hint. An enigma wrapped in a mystery.. yadda, yadda, yadda. I am also told by the native women about their fellow natives that they "expect the man to give them the world"-- end quote. This is their culture. And if you do try to give them the world, don't expect much in return (I guess that's only logical because there's only one world-- if you are giving her the world, there's isn't much left for her to give you in return, even her time).

I wonder if financial support was among the things she expected. That's something she'd never ask you for, but yet would hold it against you. A couple hundred bucks a month to make her life better...

Note: We have to take a break from writing stuff like this on March 8th. There will be a 24-hour truce.

[KenC]

... in response to Interesting question,Ramblin., posted by Natalya on Feb 28, 2002

Natalya,
I agree with your opinion. If the desire is there, people will do whatever is necessary to accomplish their goal. My wife was never much of a letter writer, but we communicated almost daily via the phone. No matter where she was or what she was doing, she would be home at our designated time for my phone call. She never missed a call. If she was not going to be home, she would let me know in advance.
The other side of the coin was also true. We "met" via the phone late October/early November and by the end of December I was on my way to meet her in person. I was back in Russia to be with her by March and she came to America in July. When you know it is right, you take action.
KenC

[JGG]

... in response to Love will find a way, posted by KenC on Feb 28, 2002

My time line was very similar to yours.  I met my fiancee in September,  we called or emailed each other daily.  In  mid December, I visited her for 1 month.  She was everything we spoke about.  I am going back in 3 weeks for another 2.5 weeks.  We have filed K-1 visa and I haope to have her here in July.

Jan

[KenC]

... in response to Re: Love will find a way, posted by JGG on Feb 28, 2002

n/t

[tim360z]

... in response to Interesting question,Ramblin., posted by Natalya on Feb 28, 2002

experience...if the girl wants to make the effort--she will.  If she is not so interested...she won't.  And it is not too difficult for them to send you a card or letter on postal mail.