The following article really explains why so many men choose to look outside the USA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The Bachelor Trap
Men today have slim pickings when it comes to women
By Nancy Ann Jeffrey / Wall Street Journal December, 2001
Adam Rosen has a law degree from Villanova and trained in psychology at Harvard. He's also handsome and has a passion for social causes. But there's one thing the 30-something bachelor doesn't have in his life: candidates to be Mrs. Rosen. "I thought I'd be married by 30," says the Boston therapist. "This is a great divergence from what I imagined my life would be."
There's a new biological clock out there -- the one ticking inside bachelors. After decades in which men statistically had the upper hand in the dating world, the demographics have reversed: For a big chunk of the dating pool -- people ages 30-44 -- the number of single men and women are now about even, or in some cases, slightly tipped in women's favor. The odds are especially dismal for men looking for younger mates: By 2010, according to the United States Census Bureau, men in their late 30s and early 40s will outnumber women five to 10 years younger by 2-1.
What's happening here is a subtle, but significant, change in the birthrate. While the numbers of boys and girls born every year are roughly the same, the overall birthrate dropped 40 percent from 1955 to 1973. Because more than half of all men marry younger women, that means their pool of prospects shrinks a bit every year.
Matchmakers and dating companies are already seeing the impact. Social Circles, a New York singles group, has seen membership among men age 35 and older soar 25-fold since it started in 1997, while women in the same age group grew at about half that rate. At It's Just Lunch, which pairs professionals, the percentage of female membership dropped 9 percent in the last three years. And online firm Match.com is so eager to recruit women, it started a new ad campaign to find more. The pitch: Women no longer have to rely on "fate" or "destiny" to find the right mate.
"We're all chasing after the same women," says Jim Hague, a 33-year-old web designer from California, who says he got only a handful of daily e-mails from some online services. His female friends, however, got 200 e-mails a day. "They can easily delete you," Hague says. This is a significant shift from the 1980s. At the start of that decade, for example, there were about 1.3 women for every eligible man from 35-44. The odds were even better for the narrower group of men in their late 30s dating women in their early 30s: Almost 2 women for every single man.
In the years since, the odds have gotten worse for the one-time supermale. Far from an abundance of bachelorettes, today there's a small shortage -- for every million thirtysomething women, there is a surplus of 80,000 men of the same age. Men looking for younger women will find even more competition: Within nine years, there will be 1 woman that's 30-34 for every 2 men 35-44, according to one set of projections by the U.S. Census Bureau.
How did this shift occur? For starters, with more women than men on the dating scene, men played the field and postponed marriage -- sometimes until their 40s, much later than previous generations. (The percentage of 35- to 44-year-old bachelors almost tripled from 1980 to 2000, according to the census bureau's Current Population Surveys. Thinking they had tons of options, especially as divorce rates grew, some men got pickier, too, demanding not only good looks but also good jobs from their mates. That narrowed the field even more:
By one estimate, men in their early 30s making $75,000 or more outnumber women of the same earning power two to one. All the while, pop culture only perpetuated the belief that men had the advantage, with shows like Sex and the City and novels like Bridget Jones's Diary harping on themes of the desperate, single woman. And lots of people still believe it. But slowly, evidence of the shift is cropping up.
Take personal ads, the quintessential dating device of the '80s and '90s. While the ratio of men to women placing ads varies from city to city, many towns are seeing notable jumps in male advertisers. At Chicago magazine, for example, the percent of personals placed by women skidded 38 percent in just two years. During the past three years, the percentage of men placing personal ads in the Cleveland Plain Dealer jumped 14 percent, according to People2People Group, a firm that creates personals.
Other men are going where experts say they need to -- older women. When Match.com polled its members earlier this year, the company discovered that its average male client is now willing to date a woman three years his senior, up from two a few years ago. At It's Just Lunch, men 35 to 43 are now asking to date women 36 to 40 -- up about four years from a decade ago.
Indeed, once either shy or scornful about blind dates, men are becoming more aggressive about asking to be set up, matchmakers say. They also have become much more open about the fact they use dating services. A study by It's Just Lunch shows that eight years ago, the average male client kept his membership a secret from his male friends; today, the typical male customer tells three of his friends.
So when will things get better for members of the lonely hearts men's club? Not until the generation born in the late 1970s and early 1980s comes of marriageable age, according to demographers. By then, higher birthrates will tip the scales back in men's favor. About 2005, experts say it'll be rich pickings for men who now are in their early 20s.
