The "dark side"

[Hoda]

... in response to Re: Questions about DCF, posted by FenixRises on Feb 26, 2002


Those SOB'S in NYC are asking for $175! I haven't decided yet if I'm gonna pitch a *itch, in regards to the cost. Especially, after you posted that you got yours for free!!!

Grrrrr....Hoda (lol)

[FenixRises]

... in response to Marriage Visa for Free??, posted by Hoda on Feb 26, 2002

Hey Hoda,
I should add that the day I went for the visa I had both feet in casts, was in a wheel chair and in a fair amount of pain. Also my mom and sister were with me. I think maybe the lady in the office took pity on me? But do not know for sure.
The information letter they sent me said it would take 72 hours or more for the visa and that there would be a charge for the visa. But the amount wouldn't be calculated until I was at the embassy. Makes me wonder exactly who gets the fee and how it is calculated. Since you have to present your tax earning records it is impossible to fake being poor.
So go figure!!!
Fred

[jo12208]

... in response to Marriage Visa for Free??, posted by Hoda on Feb 26, 2002

I got my matriomonial visa through the mail at the consulate in Chicago.  I mailed them my passport.  It took about one week.  No fees then.  December of 2000.  I did not have to go in person.  I live in a nearby state.

[Hoda]

... in response to Try the Colombian Consulate in Chiacago, posted by jo12208 on Feb 26, 2002

For the consulate in NYC, I have to be present with 2/family members or long-time friends to sign/verify that I'm single also. Along with my birth certificate & a few notarized documents from Stivalis. Ahhh, Dec of 2000! I shouldn't be surprised at the tighter requirements/proof that is now being requested. I can deal with different document requirements. But this nonsense about the visa being free in California & $175 balls in NYC...OH HELL NO!!! Somebody is gonna have to explain that to s*#$ to me!!! If I have to, I'll pay it. But if I don't, the $$$$$ stays in my pocket to pay for other things....Lawd knows, THERE WILL BE OTHER THINGS...LOL

Thanks for the feedback....Hoda

[FenixRises]

... in response to Re: Questions about DCF, posted by FenixRises on Feb 26, 2002

We had the first appointment on Jan 14th. The second appointment was on Feb 1st.

[Hoda]

... in response to Re: The "dark side", posted by FenixRises on Feb 25, 2002


How many times has it been said here, that the quest starts with looking in the mirror. Thanks much for bringing "that" back to the top of the chart.

Wishing you & yours the best....

[Hoda]

... in response to The "dark side", posted by Cali vet on Feb 23, 2002


Hey CV,

would the "elsewhere" you mentioned, be on another list? I personally haven't heard of such accounts. I'm not denying that it hasn't happened. I'm just curious about the dynamics. Many of us, have heard of similar incidents on the Russian forum, but I can't recall a "real" one here. Keep in mind, when things go wrong & I mean really go wrong (not some troll-trash-tale), a guy may want to chill & lick his wounds or even disappear from MOB radar all together. From what you know (personally or third party), were there any signs before hand, that these err...ladies would pull some shyt like this?

[Cali vet]

... in response to Re: The "dark side", posted by Hoda on Feb 25, 2002

No, I don't follow any other lists. My elsewhere just refers to the two guys I know personally and as I said third party accounts by one of those two who networks with others who have married via agency introductions. I am jumping the gun here but I also know personally of a third case through the girlfriend of the "perpetrater" that's about to occur. It's like this: I met a 26 year old woman in B/quilla who I dated a few times before realizing things weren't right. However I became good friends with her girlfriend (had novio colombiano) and remain so. In fact I always stay at her familys house now when I'm in that city. Anyway the "perp" found a 28 yr old guy on the net and invited him down a four months ago. He hadn't dated previously in the states and fell head over heals. They plan to marry in June. The problem is that the perp has a full time boyfriend in B/q and even talks to him in front of the gringo (little Spanish) on the cel phone the gringo bought at her insistence. What's more she wants him to rent her an apt. in B/q after they marry so she can finish her studies before she goes to join him in the states eight months later. My friend tells me he is buying all of this. Of course like I said, the marriage hasn't happened yet so maybe he'll get a clue and save himself. Signs? Everywhere!!!

[Aaron]

... in response to Re: Re: The "dark side" & ..., posted by Cali vet on Feb 25, 2002

I'll say it again....

AHI YIKES !!!!!!!!!!

Aaron

[Hoda]

... in response to Re: Re: The "dark side" & ..., posted by Cali vet on Feb 25, 2002


No one deserves this, secure your place heaven. SAVE HIM!!!

[Tai]

... in response to Re: Re: The "dark side" & ..., posted by Cali vet on Feb 25, 2002

We may have a winner for the most red flags in one story.

She wants and apartment for AFTER they get married? That apartment and tuition money is likely planned to rent and furnish a house for the "perp" and her Colombian boyfriend.

Cali vet...when you say he hasn't dated in the states, do you mean that as in the guy has never had a girlfriend before?

Jeez, talking to her Colombian boyfriend right in front of the gringo...on a cellular phone that the gringo bought?  

She is definitely up for a nomination for "Pimp of the Year".

-Tai

A few quotes are brought to mind by this tale:

"There's a sucker born every minute."

"A fool and his money are soon parted."

"If you're bleeding in the water, the sharks will come."

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Somebody call Guinness..., posted by Tai on Feb 25, 2002

A fool and his money...

... were lucky to get together in the first place!

[Hoda]

... in response to Re: Re: The "dark side" & ..., posted by Cali vet on Feb 25, 2002

No sense in allowing a tragedy to happen.... The guy may get pissed off at first, but better now, then later....

[Cali vet]

... in response to Hit 'em with a "WAKE-UP STICK"..., posted by Hoda on Feb 25, 2002

To some of the above questions/comments, yes apparently the guy has not dated in the states, has no experience with women and is exteremely religious. Maybe he just thinks all women must behave like her. I have no way to warn him, only the perp has his number and address. All I know from my friend is that he lives in California. The only hope for him that I can see is that his mother and father and other family are going to Barranquilla for the wedding and moms are pretty good at smelling a rat. But wait, theres more. He sends her $200 a month but that's nothing. The first time he went down his plane was late. My friend and the perp went to meet him but after waiting a long time the perp said "come on lets go, he can find his way to the hotel". It was the guy's first time out of the states and hardly any Spanish! My friend convinced the perp to stay and they did meet him. When I went out with her she told me many stories one of which was that at 18 and 19 she had been a model in Bogota. My friend told me later the perp has never been on a plane in her life. Turned out everything she told me was made up. On a later trip the gringo novio wanted to call a cab to get him to the airport the required two hours early for his return flight and she talked him out of it, said there was plenty of time, no need to go and just wait around. Turns out she thought it was taking a bus, you just go to airport with your ticket and walk on the plane and go. Of course he missed his flight and had to stay another week in Barranquilla since everthing was booked and buy a new ticket. Must have done wonders for his job. My friend, the  perps girlfriend likes to write. I'm going to ask her to keep a journal on this match made in heaven and I'll translate it. Anyhow this is all true, I haven't embellished a thing.

[Colonialjd]

... in response to The "dark side", posted by Cali vet on Feb 23, 2002

I recently read of such a couple of failures in another forum -- Latin-Women-L.  On guy had posted how his wife liked to go out dancing without him.  Other subscribers cautioned him and investigation revealed prevarication regarding her behavior and activities.  He found out she was seeing another man.  

The second guy kind of hit me harder.  He is a former contributor to this forum and from his comments a very hard driving, confident guy.  He loudly sang the praises of Colombian womenhood, particularly those from the coast.  He seemed very open and even went so far as to post wedding pictures on his website.  

He announced the arrival of his wife in "The States" and looked forward to a rewarding life: children, career success, a good women,...  

After this he posted less frequently.  His comments took the tone that his wife was struggling to adjust, but things were OK.  And then nothing for a long time.

Tonight I read where he sent his condolences to the other guy and shared that he was divorcing after just 4 months of marriage.  The tone of his E-Mail led one to believe that the divorce would be highly adverserial.  

This guy sounds like a tough guy who will rebound.  Maybe we will hear from him so he can warn the rest of us.  

People use the term -- "Red Flag".  If you see any signs of lousy character -- proceed with caution.  

Enough Said,

Colonial