Question for Georgina

[stezo]

Hello. These guys warnings have got me thinking. I have in fact discussed some of the potential issues that could become problems w/ my fiance (such as sending money to family etc)but not really in detail. I speak a little spanish and she speaks a little english so we can communicate but not about complicated in depth issues.
 I would like to either write her a letter or even better discuss on the phone any concerns/expectations I or she have before we make such a huge step. I would like to know if you would be interested in helping me out and of course I would pay you for your time which we could also work out. I think that not only could you get across everything in detail but also put in a way where its not offensive.
It also would be real convenient because we both live in Seattle. Anyway if you are interested can you email me @ stezo71@nospam.com? If you are not can you recommend someone else who lives in Seattle that could help me out? Thank you.

[denvermike]

... in response to Question for Georgina, posted by stezo on Nov 21, 2001

Hi Again,

If you obtain a translator you will have to handle some of the questions you have for her like a diplomat. You must be very honest about her new life style to be. Yes you make a lot money compared to people in Colombia but guess what it costs a lot more to live here also. You should talk about the family situation. What are her expections about her family. As example, you could commit to one trip home per year for her and that's it.  You can go with her once in awhile for a week or so and then let her stay for an extended stay, especially after the baby!!.

Another typical financial issue is the long distance phone bills, you must establish a budget, or otherwise it will look like a BMW car payment ( a direct quote from my friend ).

Take a close look at her family, such as how many brothers and sisters are there, how many are married, does her father still live with her mother, are any of them already in the USA (guess who will be living with you someday!).  Get to know the family real well yourself to understand what you will be dealing with after the honeymoon is over and the reality of marriage sets in (gulp). Blood is thicker than water buddy, and you will lose any battle over her family.

I may sound negative, but these are only a small sampling of the issues that can bite you in the butt. Remember she is on her best behavior right now until that contract is signed!

Best of luck!
mike