ATM Working

[Peter Lee]

Just a note to tell you that the getting an ATM card for my fiance and sending it too her, works great.   I am a little puzzled that there are no charges on the account.  I was told $2 dollars each time it is used in a different ATM than the banks.  Also I was told that a transaction fee of $3.50 for the exchange would be charged.  My fiancee also has checked how much was in the account serveral times, I have not seen any charges for that either.   No charges at all, what gives?   This if it continious is unbelievable.  The ATM in the PI that she uses must be affiliated with my bank somehow?  She did tell me that she tried another ATM and it didn't let her withdraw any money.  You guys have saved me tons of money with this!  I had sent money using Western Union before.  Thanks!

[greg]

... in response to ATM Working, posted by Peter Lee on Mar 15, 2003

Anyway..there is no divorce in RP, only annulment of marriage. Not sure if You can divorce a Pinay in America that you married in the Philippines. Peter Lee you have courted this child for less than two weeks in person..Slow down man..Food for your thoughts, just becuz a Pinay is good to you in RP, doesn't mean she would be good here. Btw, I agree with Bro Bear's post, Grrrrrrrrr

[Peter Lee]

... in response to Don't send a Dime, posted by greg on Mar 16, 2003

I  hear ya Greg

The risk is all mine!  Thanks for the input.  I am looking for the red flags and I am not married yet.  It was 20 days of courtship not less than 2 weeks.  It has been 3 months of phone calls and yahoo chats that seem productive.  So far so good.  My personal opinion is a face to face meeting is better that a year of e mails.  What does slow down mean to you please give me details.  I could meet in June and instead of marrying visit for 2 months go home and apply for a fiancé visa?  But that would be faster!  Another way to slow it down would be to meet again at Christmas and hold hands in the Mall again LOL.  I never seen her as being good to me.  We just seemed to click, if that means anything.

[Dave H]

... in response to Don't send a Dime, posted by greg on Mar 16, 2003

Hi Greg,

You can divorce a Pinay in America that you married in the Philippines. Peter met his lady and is still courting her. As I recall, there are several members of P-L who courted their fiancees only by Internet, mail, and phone without having met in person. They married shortly after meeting in person and now have very happy and successful marriages. I would say Peter is taking more time than that, after having already met his fiancee in person. Money in and of itself is not evil. It depends on how and why it was given and how it was used. I wouldn't consider college tuition, wedding arrangements, Visa expenses, medical expenses, home repairs, or money to eat, an unwise or gold digging use of money, especially if that was the intent it was given. Or even an occasional meal at Jollybee's and a movie. Most of us living here in luxury would like and can provide our fiancees or wives and their families a better life before they arrive here, at very little cost to us. I am not saying to send huge sums of money...it doesn't take much. It is important to remember that all Filipinas who receive and accept assistance shouldn't be lumped in with "gold diggers." In general, I would stay clear of women who ask for money.

Dave H.

[Esiang]

... in response to Why?, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2003

In general, I would stay clear of women who ask for money.

that's right ......

[greg]

... in response to Why?, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2003

my Post is based on Her age a 19 yrs old brat while he's in his 50's. High Risk marriage, especially since Pete only socialized with this child for less than 2 weeks. He needs more time courting her in Person. A Guy can almost marry any Pinay in RP, that doesn't mean that she loves nor want Him. Best for him to run her thur tests instead of showering her with money and gifts. Setting himself up for a fall with her and her family. Their eyes are now filled with $$$$$$$$$$ signs(we hit the jackpot with a rich Kano, later we can all quit our jobs and live off Him). In their eyes we are all rich, Not Joking

[Esiang]

... in response to Hi Dave, posted by greg on Mar 16, 2003

Let Peter decide if his 19 year old fiancee is a brat...or is he showering her with lots of gold?

If I may ask all of you guys here on the board, How many months and days do you guys courted a filipina in person?
I mean really in person.......

we hit the jackpot with a rich Kano, later we can all quit our jobs and live off Him). In their eyes we are all rich, Not Joking

That is just so oa....

[SteveG]

... in response to how many days kano courted a pinay, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003

Esiang,
 I started writing Melly in Dec 92 and went to visit in Nov 93.  Went back in late July 94 and we got married on that trip.  We only spent 8 days together the first trip and about 5 or 6 days in person on the 2nd trip before getting married.  It must have been enough because that was a long time ago and we are still happy!

                SteveG

[Peter Lee]

... in response to how many days kano courted a pinay, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003

Hi Esiang,

I was a little confused with you last statement.  I would safely say she is not a brat.  I've seen her work for her Aunt doing so many chores I hardly had time to see her.  She never complained, and kept on working.  I can also say that this family is better off than most.  The Uncle is a chief engineer on a ship and take home pay is more that what some of us take home here in the US.  About the ladies I emailed for months, they did not look the same as there pictures and we just didn't click together.  The mind for true romance needs more input that a phone call and written email.  Face to face is the only way I can relate to someone.  Sure the rest were nice but if they brought a friend along who I never emailed they would look just as attractive. I can't explain it this one seemed like this is the one.  I didn't even know what I was looking for till I met her.  I am not showering her with gold.  The ATM card has $200 in it, I did it to see what would happen.  She itemized what she spent it on and took out 1000 pesos per month for email, transportation, expenses while she was still going to school.  I felt for a fiancé who I will marry in the near future that would be appropriate.  She offered to go to work in Manila if there ever was a money problem.  I thought that was testing me but her cousin was there from Manila that said she could come and work in the same company than he does.  She will be going back to Lanao in Mindanao after her graduation.  We plan on her coming back to Cebu in late April and planning the wedding with her Mom.  You know it is hard for me to see any red flags coz I am in love.  That is why I am on this board so I can make informed decisions later.  I have not sensed what everyone has warned me about, family looking for a hand out.   It seems so far that most of the family members are all in good paying positions.   It was not easy to get them to accept me in the beginning.  The message I got from the whole family was that they wanted her to have a good husband that would not mistreat her and take good care of her.  Once they got to know me they liked me.   Aunty has two new jeepnees in the front yard with the two drivers sleeping in a separate quarters.  All the kids have a cell phone, except her, I got her one before I left.  That didn’t seem to unusual when I read the other letters from this forum.  So lets see what I can do to do more tests or spot red flags.

[Esiang]

... in response to Re: how many days kano courted a pinay, posted by Peter Lee on Mar 18, 2003

Good, I knew it's only you who would knew if she's a brat or not, co'z I just hate greg's statement:" a 19 year old brat and the guy is in his 50's" as if greg knew her already...

[Dave H]

... in response to how many days kano courted a pinay, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003

Hi Esiang,

Wrote and called for for 3 months, went to visit for just over 2 weeks and became engaged in less than a week, seperated 10 months before receiving Visa, together 1 month before wedding. I knew she was the one, before I ever stepped off the plane and met in person! Married 1.5 years and no regrets!

Dave H.

[Peter Lee]

... in response to Not Many!, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2003

Hey Dave,

After your last post

I should go and make it an April wedding LOL  

[Esiang]

... in response to Not Many!, posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2003

My Kano wrote and called for 7 months before we meet,come February he started courting sending flowers from Us to phils..he..he...Then we meet finally in person by may(after my graduation in College) for only 2 weeks,less than a week my Kano proposed, at first I did not say yes but gosh when he's leaving on a jet plane...

Anyway I didn't really wanna rush into marriage not until I'm sure it's him....My Man....

Months passed and I couldn't take it anymore....finally we got married on a nice simple chapel that I always liked since I was in High School.It's been 1 1/2 years since worltrade tragedy, our marriage is truly very alive and Osama Bin laden is still nowhere to be found.

Now My Kano and I have known each other for almost 3 years...

[Peter Lee]

... in response to Re: Not Many!, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003

There is hope for me yet - thanks

[Ray]

... in response to Re: Not Many!, posted by Esiang on Mar 16, 2003

Hey cousin, did you get married in Surigao?

Ray