Looking for input

[KenC]

Let me introduce myself.  I am KenC a long long time member here and at RWD.  Back in the days when Dan was just another dude here looking for answers and giving some too.   Long story short (as possible) I married a stunning RW back in 99.  Had quite a good long run but it all ended in 2008.  We parted friendly without a lot of drama.  The root of our troubles IMO was her changing her mind to have childrem while I did not.  It was a hell of a run for our age difference of 26 years again IMO.

So now after a couple of years of pure hell in my life (divorce, business going down the crapper and severe health issues) I am back on my feet and wanting female companionship.  Love if I can find it.   

After briefly dipping my toes into the American dating pool, I wanted to kill myself! Yuck!  Dan has always advocated Asian women and I had always turned a blind eye to it.  No more.  I realized that Asia women tend to age much better than AW and RW.  Of course I am still attracted to the hot youngins too (Who isn't) but do not want to repeat my past mistakes (wanting kids).

Any way, here I am 58 and snooping into Cherry Blossoms (again at the suggestion of Dan).  Please keep in mind while I am a total rookie to the Asian scene I have been involved with international dating for over 12 years now.  I am sure the Asian scammers have no more trick going for them than the Ruskis do.   After joining CB I have been totally slammed with responses.  I am talking like 400 in just a few days.  Holy sh!t!  Any way, I am now in this up to my neck now.

At first I was looking for an "age appropriate" woman to bring here to America.  I know the drill with that.  But then  began to develop a half azzed plan that seems kind of "out there" even for me.  In researching the PI, I came across a lot of info about relocating there.  I would only consider PI because of the language issue FYI.  I am looking to you, more experienced men here, to give me the straight dope on things.  Here is some of my first questions to you all:

Can a guy live well there for a limited amount of money?  I have a retirement now, above average but not huge numbers like I earned before.

Where would be a good place to live there?  Not looking for an urban lifestyle that is go go go and if a beach front is involved GREAT!

Any input into living there would be appreciated greatly.

Any info regarding medical care and costs there would also be very helpful to me.  I am fine now, but after my past episodes I need to be more concerned now.

Not to ruffle any PC feathers here, but are these women as compliant as they appear?  I mean I am in shock coming from the high maintenance RW.

I guess that is a good start for now.  I am planning on a visit most probably in November too.  So anyone with helpful tips on staying there for 2 to 4 weeks would also be great.

Have at it, guys.
KenC

[z_k_g]

Welcome to P-L.

Spend some quality time reading the latest posts here and the archives, you will get a lot of info and links from here.

Also, try these few sites

www.harrythehorse.com
www.livingincebuforums.com
www.filipinawives.com
www.livinginthephilippines.com

Each of the sites have links and further reading, you should be very busy over the next few months getting up to speed on the RP.

When you have questions, or get started on your actual search, P-L members can give you up to date info and guidance.

Good luck

Zulu

[Ray]

…are these women as compliant as they appear?

Only in public.

Hi Ken,

A couple of points:

Most all Filipina ladies will want to have children, regardless of what they say up front. I would concentrate on the older (40+) ladies who are somewhat less likely to be fertile or thinking of children. Tell all of them up front that you definitely do not want children and/or get yourself snipped now.

If health care is a big concern, then your only logical choice will be living in one of the larger cities, preferably across the street from a major private hospital. Living in the provinces in a beachfront home is not very expensive and probably much better for your health in the long run, but if you should ever have a heart attack or major stroke for example, just consider yourself dead because there will likely not be any sort of adequate emergency care available.

You can live quite comfortably on $1,500-$2,000/month.

Now I’ll let Dave H fill you in on all the facts…  

Ray

[z_k_g]

Most all Filipina ladies will want to have children, regardless of what they say up front. I would concentrate on the older (40+) ladies who are somewhat less likely to be fertile or thinking of children. Tell all of them up front that you definitely do not want children and/or get yourself snipped now.

Most?  

Try pretty much ALL,     if they don't have kids!  Pinays love children and their family will never understand you and your wife not having them!  Family is the center of Filipino life.

Find an older Pinay or marry one with kids!

Zulu

[fathertime]

Wow KenC, you are truely a PL dinosaur!   
Congrats on the good run you had with the Russian gal, and good luck with your new Asian adventures!

Changing one's mind on wanting or not wanting a child is definitely a marriage killer.  It speaks well of you, that she wanted to have the child with you and give you that opportunity before the breakup.  As Vin Scully were posting here he would say, 'The best laid plans of mice and men', if you can remember that story!

Fathertime! 

[Jeff S]

Hey Ken. I remember you from the old days. Welcome back. I'll let the PI pros fill you in on the specifics, but I'm sure you'll find Asia extremely different from the FSU, and you're right, the babushka gene in Asian women doesn't kick in until they're in their 70s or 80s.

[KenC]

Welcome to P-L.

Spend some quality time reading the latest posts here and the archives, you will get a lot of info and links from here.

Also, try these few sites

www.harrythehorse.com
www.livingincebuforums.com
www.filipinawives.com
www.livinginthephilippines.com

Each of the sites have links and further reading, you should be very busy over the next few months getting up to speed on the RP.

When you have questions, or get started on your actual search, P-L members can give you up to date info and guidance.

Good luck

Zulu

Thanks man!  Harry the horse site is a trip!  The filipinawives was very informative and I have already seen the livinginfilipines site, which is where I got most my info from.  Still need to study the Cebu one.
KenC

[KenC]

Only in public.

Hi Ken,

A couple of points:

Most all Filipina ladies will want to have children, regardless of what they say up front. I would concentrate on the older (40+) ladies who are somewhat less likely to be fertile or thinking of children. Tell all of them up front that you definitely do not want children and/or get yourself snipped now.

If health care is a big concern, then your only logical choice will be living in one of the larger cities, preferably across the street from a major private hospital. Living in the provinces in a beachfront home is not very expensive and probably much better for your health in the long run, but if you should ever have a heart attack or major stroke for example, just consider yourself dead because there will likely not be any sort of adequate emergency care available.

You can live quite comfortably on $1,500-$2,000/month.

Now I’ll let Dave H fill you in on all the facts…  

Ray

Ray,
All good points made by you.  I have already sent Dave H a PM before posting here (as per Dan's suggestion)  Been snipped many a year ago and the concept of kids will certainly be addressed up front.  As for the health care, my problems need to be monitored on a semi-monthly basis and emergency care can always come up, of course, but will not be related to the current issues.  So as long as I can get tested every month or so, I should be cool.  Thanks for the input.
KenC

[KenC]

Most?  

Try pretty much ALL,     if they don't have kids!  Pinays love children and their family will never understand you and your wife not having them!  Family is the center of Filipino life.

Find and older Pinays or marry one with kids!

Zulu

Duly noted Zulu.
KenC

[KenC]

Wow KenC, you are truely a PL dinosaur!  
Congrats on the good run you had with the Russian gal, and good luck with your new Asian adventures!

Changing one's mind on wanting or not wanting a child is definitely a marriage killer.  It speaks well of you, that she wanted to have the child with you and give you that opportunity before the breakup.  As Vin Scully were posting here he would say, 'The best laid plans of mice and men', if you can remember that story!

Fathertime!  

Thanks for the compliment (?).  Makes me feel all warm and gooey.  And yet YOU are Father time?
KenC

[KenC]

Hey Ken. I remember you from the old days. Welcome back. I'll let the PI pros fill you in on the specifics, but I'm sure you'll find Asia extremely different from the FSU, and you're right, the babushka gene in Asian women doesn't kick in until they're in their 70s or 80s.

Thanks for the warm welcome

[robert angel]

Welcome back, KenC,

Hope this place fits you again like a favorite old shoe and that you find some more sweetness with a pretty girl from distant shores!

[piglett]

Can a guy live well there for a limited amount of money?  I have a retirement now, above average but not huge numbers like I earned before.
Where would be a good place to live there?  Not looking for an urban lifestyle that is go go go and if a beach front is involved GREAT!
Any input into living there would be appreciated greatly.
Any info regarding medical care and costs there would also be very helpful to me.  I am fine now, but after my past episodes I need to be more concerned now.
I guess that is a good start for now.  I am planning on a visit most probably in November too.  So anyone with helpful tips on staying there for 2 to 4 weeks would also be great.
Have at it, guys.

KenC
Well good to have ya here Ken.
sounds to me like a late 30's province lady mite fit you to a T
how about a nurse? there are thousands of them there that mite want to take you home & treat you like a king!
on the small island where my wife is from you can rent a house rite in town for $100 a month
it's just a short walk to the beach. i was told by one of the long time retired Germans that resides there that if you own a house there you can live quite nicely on about $300 a month.
FYI: a new house rite on the beach can be had for 120k or less in the province
I myself would rather be 1/2 way up the hill overlooking the beach
that way the yearly typhoons will not cause me any trouble.



piglett

[fathertime]

Thanks for the compliment (?).  Makes me feel all warm and gooey.  And yet YOU are Father time?
KenC

yeah it was a compliment!  I'm sorta a dinosaur too, but I pale in comparison to you!   It is much better to be labeled a dinosaur than Zon's favorite branding 'wife hunter'! 

Good hunting in Asia!

Fathertime!

[z_k_g]

Zon the Wifehunter

Sounds kinda hollywood but with a wild side like Crocodile Dundee, Tarzan the Apeman 

Think bout their babes!!

Zulu

[Ray]

I myself would rather be 1/2 way up the hill overlooking the beach
that way the yearly typhoons will not cause me any trouble.

Bad idea!

Most Filipinos killed from typhoons usually die in mud slides caused by the heavy rains.

You do not want to be half way up on a hillside or below one unless you want to get buried alive.

Ray

[robert angel]

Ahhh--to live near the sea and to worry about perishing or leaving and losing your 'stuff' to the mud or out with the tide....

At least on Mindanao, they don't get those horrific typhoons and Bohol doesn't get them as bad as places closer to Luzon...


"If the lightning don't get you, then the thunder will"

[Bob_S]

Wow.  KenC is a name I haven't heard in a long time.  Welcome back!  Though sorry it is under such circumstances.  Yeah, those Russkaya can be stubborn and high maintenance.  You'll be pleased as the difference I think with East Asian women.

I can't imagine any childless Asian girl ever willing to go without having children at some time.  And if you do find some girl on-line willing to say "sure, I'm okay with never having kids", run, because she is setting you up for a visa shark scam.  As soon as she gets her green card, she'll pull a runner and find some guy who does want kids.
Your best bet is a woman who is not more than 20 years your junior who is either entering menopause or already has older children (preferably grown so are no longer dependent on mama).  Not to worry though, an Asian woman in her late 30's or early 40's will still look like she's in her 20's.  Do you see that teenager sitting next to Robert in his profile pic?  She's actually 50!  I'm tellin' ya.  He's been arrested twice for lewd behavior with a minor for engaging in smoochie PDA's with his wife at the mall. 

[KenC]

  Not to worry though, an Asian woman in her late 30's or early 40's will still look like she's in her 20's. 

Bingo!  Now you know why I am here 

Just FYI, in a VERY preliminary stage, I "met" a gorgous 44 yo that looks like a 24yo.  At this point of my life I am done raising kids.  I did 3 so far, 2 I fathered and one I married.

Anyone got any inside info on Cagayan De Oro?
KenC

[Ray]

Anyone got any inside info on Cagayan De Oro?

It's been a while since I was there, but Dave H goes there often.

Lots of info on the Web or do a forum search for "Cagayan" and "CDO"

Ray

[KenC]

It's been a while since I was there, but Dave H goes there often.

Lots of info on the Web or do a forum search for "Cagayan" and "CDO"

Ray

Ray,
Have already researched it on the web: "Paris of the Philipines, $2 billion new sea port being built, 5 malls bla bla bla.  Just wanted more of an insiders view of it.  As far as Dave H is concerned, so far I think he is just an urban legen here because I have not seen hide nor hair of the man.
KenC

[Jeff S]

Well, it doesn't surprise me that you haven't seen hair of him - no one else has either. But you should see lotsa hide pretty soon.

[piglett]

Bad idea!

Most Filipinos killed from typhoons usually die in mud slides caused by the heavy rains.

You do not want to be half way up on a hillside or below one unless you want to get buried alive.

Ray

I would make sure that there was one hell of a big ditch further up the hill so the water would run down it.
also a couple of good stout retaining walls further up the hill might not be a bad plan either.

piglett

[KenC]

Piglett,
Better put a good drainage system in your plans including French drains or you cannot build a was "stout" enough to save you.   
KenC

[piglett]

Piglett,
Better put a good drainage system in your plans including French drains or you cannot build a was "stout" enough to save you.   
KenC

lots of 6" pipes & a sh*t load of crushed stone, sounds good to me.


pig