hard truth part 2 h2-oh advice please

[young gun]

      well when last i posted my novia and i were having trouble keeping in contact.
well today guess what comes in the mail my approval letter for her k-i visa, the hard times just keep coming. now i feel press to really get into this topic with my lady. my heart tells me not to throw away are relationship, but my gut tells me that this relationship is not going to end well. i don't want to hurt my novia but i don't feel she is as in love with me as i am with her. but she say she loves me an want to marry me,  i know i have to put the hard questions to her an be willing to walk away for her that is going to be hard.

h2-oh you and i meet in lat march early aprilat norms places, my novia an i had dinner with you an joanna an had drinks with in your apt.i need some good advice

[buzzy]

... in response to hard truth part 2   h2-oh advice please, posted by young gun on Sep 12, 2001

I think that if you go and be with her for awhile you'll get the courage to tell her the truth about your gut feelings.  When you're in love or intimately involved it's very difficult to tell someone by letter or phone that you are cutting everything off.  A personal encounter in her presence will allow her to see your eyes, your body language, your hesitation, and your discomfort.  She will know the score before you even open your mouth.  You don't want to hurt her ...but you're really saying, YOU don't want to hurt...to suffer the pain of separation ..the pain of letting go. This trip to be with her will make it easier for you...and her. If you don't have the courage to tell her the truth....run!...hide!..she'll get the message by default.  It's better to do nothing than to move forward and commit a huge mistake!

[Jes]

... in response to hard truth part 2   h2-oh advice please, posted by young gun on Sep 12, 2001

You are asking for advice, but frankly you are one confused guy that is difficult to advise to, not to mention how confusing it is to know where you really stand, and what you really want. At first, her height was a real turn off for you. If it is or was, then you are not in love and you never were. Now you are posting that you love her but you think she might just be taking you for a ride.
My gut feeling is that both of you are neither interested in each other nor is there a shred of love for each other. She was just someone you initially liked, and she saw on you a convenient way to get some vacation time. And, that is all you are going to get out of this relationship.
You shouldn't be agonizing over a simple decision and quit posting conflicting statements over your feelings. Just flat out tell her that you are no longer interested in the relationship and stop agonizing over all the paperwork that you might have to go through for nothing.

Jes
(Never been in a situation like this but it doesn't take brains to know what to do)

[H2-Oh]

... in response to hard truth part 2   h2-oh advice please, posted by young gun on Sep 12, 2001

Based on my experience, I would go with my guts. If I had gone with my gut instinct with Johanna,I would have seen back in Sept of last year that she was not being honest with me. She was cheating on me back then. You have to be able to sleep at night and not worry if you chica is with someone else or has other motives. There are to many wonderful girls in Cali that would want to be with you. Find a girl you can have confidence in and trust with your heart.
e-mail me privately and we'll talk.

Good luck, H2-Oh

[Patrick]

... in response to hard truth part 2   h2-oh advice please, posted by young gun on Sep 12, 2001

You started your posting with a message describing the woman as having a great bubble butt, but that you were a little turned off by her shortness and wondered if you should end it.  Then you indicate that she's not giving you as much attention as she should.  I see nothing but red flags for this relationship, from both sides.  I think you should end it and think long and hard about whether you even want to pursue any woman from Latin America until you learn to think of women as people rather than objects.  Rather than look for a "bubble butt", you should be looking for a good woman.