My Story Part 8

[Patrick]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: My Story Part 8, posted by Thomas on Jul 20, 2001

I think they're more likely to be "just curious" or not as serious as some of the older ladies are about finding a husband.  Some guys interpret that as them being "players" because they may date someone for a while, but not commit.  

I think the women who look like models are the ones you should stay away from unless you're close to that level as a man as well.  Heck, even if I were a hunk type, I still don't think I ever would have gone for that type.  I've dated some women like that (Americans) and I think they're way more likely to be lacking in other areas than a more "normal" woman.  When you look like that you don't have to have any character, compassion, or even be a good person to be popular.  I certainly wouldn't say incredible looks are incompatible with other qualities, but I do think there's a correlation.  I think that's something that trancends culture.  To a certain extent, men are men and women are women the world over.

[JunFan68]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: My Story Part 8, posted by Thomas on Jul 20, 2001

Thomas,
My fiance turned 23 the weekend I met her and will be 24 in 2 mos.  I'm 32 and I don't feel like she is to young. Sure, she has some little girl in her.  She started working after HS which seems to give her maturity beyond her years. However, when I started i did not limit myself to young ones, I was open to 21-30.

Later,
Mike

[Thomas]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: My Story Part 8, posted by JunFan68 on Jul 20, 2001

Thanks Mike. If it works for someone more power to them but I really think more than a 10 year age difference is really going to make the chances of a long relationship pretty meager. I checked out your site brother. You are actually one of my inspirations for my 1st trip. Before I saw pictures at your site I thought only guys in there 40 and 50s were going down so I was hesitatant. I wish the best future for you and your beautiful wife. later

[denvermike]

... in response to My Story Part 8, posted by H2-Oh on Jul 20, 2001

Hi Again,

Once again your story is compelling. I have question for you. Are concerned for your safety while in Cali after these events?  She apparently has contacts in the cartel and possibly even worse.  If she were to get angry and try and get even with you, you would make a very good target for one of her nasty friends, especially the urban ELN folks that likely have a following in Cali.  You apparently have a fair bit of money from your business concerns.  It could be arranged to grab you and maybe she gets a split of the profits. If I were you, I would be bit more concerned about this scenario in your upcoming trips, particularly if you find another chica.

take care,
mike

[Houndog]

... in response to Re: My Story Part 8, posted by denvermike on Jul 20, 2001

Now that the cats outa the bag. Talk about "ISSUES"..wow.

This story is the poster story for "A Check Up from the Neck Up".  Enableing, Co-dependency, Low Self Worth, Low Self Esteem,  Eating Disorders...

But you touched upon something I was wondering about myself...along with every other element of a soap opera...a jealous Colombian "Bad Guy" with a few peso's and a friend or 2 with a motorbike could easily put an end to this tale of woe.

HD

[rick13]

... in response to Re: Re: My Story Part 8, posted by Houndog on Jul 20, 2001

I am glad you have taken a realistic view on this,and do not allow rose colored glasses to cloud your views. I noticed you seem to have tremendous respect for the latinas out there. You have been telling everyone to take a check-up from the neck up,which is actually the best advice one could give.

Unfortunately many men have huge egos and self dillusion is prominent. So many think they are entitled to far better they actually are. I was talking to a friend of my father's the other day who is 47 and has never been married. He was talking about how women his age are unattractive,let themselves go,and really have too much baggage.  Guess what? ......He was unattractive,40 or so pounds overweight and has tons of emotional family baggage. I had to suppress my laughter, but I realized he is pretty normal.  The denial mode is one that many people are into because trying to change ones self takes too much work.

[Houndog]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: My Story Part 8....Houndog,y..., posted by rick13 on Jul 20, 2001

In all truthfullness this process and the outcomes have very little to do with the women, other than the fact they are availible.

All the power and the outcomes are totally dependent on the man. WE say yes or no. If we say yes to good ones that's what we get. If we say yes to the wrong ones that's what we get. This really is one instance in life where we have a multitude of willing choices. Good choices and bad choices. Make good choices and have good results. Make bad choices, have bad results. Simple as that.

Don't know how to make good choices...learn how or suffer the consequences. To lazy or deep in denial to learn..suffer the consequences.

HD

[Houndog]

... in response to Re: Re: My Story Part 8, posted by Houndog on Jul 20, 2001

For any skeptics: I personally know of one person that married in Colombia, walked away to never return, that has been issued a Death Threat and according to first hand accounts has a price on his head in Cali.

So it's not that far fetched of a concern. REALLY.

HD

[JunFan68]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: My Story Part 8 "BTW&qu..., posted by Houndog on Jul 20, 2001

Sometimes before I would go down to Colombia, I would be somewhat vague on this board with respect to details of my trip because I never knew who might read this. I can't imagine having someone else who knows what I look like and when I would be down there, especially an ex who was living with a Colombian gangster.....wow!

H20, your balls hang down so low you need to tuck them in your boots.

Mike

www.sparhard.com/colombia.htm

[Tai]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: My Story Part 8 "BT..., posted by JunFan68 on Jul 20, 2001

JunFan

"..your balls hang down so low you need to tuck them in your boots."

Now THAT is belly-LOL funny.

My mother is a creole woman from back country Louisiana, so I have heard some hilarious sayings over the years.

Although at times I wonder if they're funny because of the visuals they conjure, or because I've translated them wrong.

Tai

[El Diablo]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: My Story Part 8 "BTW&qu..., posted by Houndog on Jul 20, 2001


I agree HD.  The cartel,mafia, and Cali thugs would kill a person without much thought.  

In my apartment building, the penthouse on the top floor used to be owned by some rich mafia guy.  A few years back, at least as legend has it, the wife of this guy got mad at the portero (doorman) and shot him right in the lobby as in dead.

Be careful who you piss off when you're in Colombia.