OK HOw many have succeeded in marrying...

[Dan]

... in response to Did you leave off Oatmeal?, posted by MarkInTx on Oct 5, 2002

As I was writing the list, I know a few others occurred to me as well, but I couldn't recall their 'handles' and thence failed to include them also.

Makes you wonder what would happen if we married guys all did as Oscar suggests and stop posting on the board.

- Dan

[MarkInTx]

... in response to I May Have - But it Was Unintended . . ., posted by Dan on Oct 5, 2002

The place would become filled with the blind leading the blind and turn into the internet equivalent of a Tony Robbins pep-rally. "Ra! Ra! You can do it!"

And it would be a whole lot less useful.

You and I disagree on many things, Dan. But, like Voltaire said:

"I may disagree with what you say, but I would defend to the death your right to say it..."

[BubbaGump]

... in response to OK HOw many have succeeded in marrying....., posted by Frank O on Oct 4, 2002

One successful marriage to a russian woman and one unsuccessful to a ukranian women.  

I know of 3 for 3 successful marriages among american men and asian women.  One woman was japanese, one korean and one phillipino.

[Anastassia]

... in response to OK HOw many have succeeded in marrying....., posted by Frank O on Oct 4, 2002

Hi Frank,

Our marriage is very successful, we have been married for almost 3 years, for details you are welcome to www.translation.wasem.net and click on K1 Story.

Also you may take a look at Russian Women List at http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/archives/russian-women-l.html

Lots of times this question was asked there and lots of couples replied.

I myself know pretty closely about 10 couples whom i helped with transltaions and calls and who are very happy with each other.

Anastassia
www.translation.wasem.net

[KenC]

... in response to OK HOw many have succeeded in marrying....., posted by Frank O on Oct 4, 2002

Frank,
Just go and have a blast.  I have no idea how Rick could have miscalculated so badly on the gal he brought over.  Some how there was a huge miscommunication between them.  I don't know all the facts, and the guy is hurting bad enough, so that is as far as I can go on his situation.
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RW are sexy, feminine, great lovers, passionate ect ect-BUT they are WOMEN.  They come in all different flavors and all different personalities.  You have to take the time to know a woman before you make any commitments.  A lot is said here on the number of women you should introduce yourself to before making your selection.  The current phrase used here is "to cast a large net".  That is fine, but the second step is to get to know your selection VERY WELL.  I dated a lot of AW before I got married to a RW.  Being the eternal optimist, I was always geeked on the newest date prospect.  I found out that it really took 6 months to get to know a woman.  After that period of time, all the ugly little secrets came to the surface.  The same type of logic applies to RW.  It takes time.  When you shortcut your time you increase your risks.  It really is as simple as that.  Have guys made out OK taking shortcuts?  Sure.  But the chances are much greater.
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I would be a little concerned about Lugansk.  Many here have talked about it being a scammer center.  Cover your butt with a firm "plan B" before you go.  Just in case.  If you want to learn from another's misfortune in Lugansk, check the archives for Ryan's posts on his trip there.  Be daring about going and meeting women in the FSU, but don't take the huge risks involved with getting engaged and bringing a woman here before you really know her.  Most of it is common sense and if you have had successful dating experiences here, you will do OK over there.
KenC
(married to a RW for over 3 years and still very happy.  I had no surprises when my wonderful woman arrived)

[joe]

... in response to OK HOw many have succeeded in marrying....., posted by Frank O on Oct 4, 2002

I have woke up with my wife every single day for over 1000 days-and have not killed her yet-NOW THAT IS SUCCESS. There is no magic potion. You must follow your heart, use your head (the one on your shoulders) be patient, have faith, be honest, have trust .........then spit three time, swallow 1 teaspoon of salt and vinegar and pee in Fresh winter Snow. It is there you will find your answer!
Just be smart!
Joe

[LP]

... in response to OK HOw many have succeeded in marrying....., posted by Frank O on Oct 4, 2002

....measure "success"? Any moron can marry one, all it takes is some cash and patience.

To me, success is a *minimum* of three years. I mean come on, most same cultures marriages seem to last at least that long. Course, some would argue the very fact that it being a cross cultural deal slants the odds one way or the other. Any one care to comment on that? Do you think it hurts or helps? Kinda like the dog years versus human years thing?

Besides, you seldom hear about the ones gone good, only sour.

Choose carefully and invest the time. Time is the key, in my opinion. As KenC states (and he's one of the successful ones), too much is said about how many to meet and not enough is said about investing time with the one you choose.

The bottom line is any relationship reqires commitment, and it takes two to do that tango.

[Stevo]

... in response to OK HOw many have succeeded in marrying....., posted by Frank O on Oct 4, 2002

Of the couples I personally know (5):

1 divorced (after 6 months)

1 imminent divorce (after 4 years)

1 on shaky ground (after 2 years and new baby)

1 OK (after 8 months)

1 great (after 2-1/2 years)

[wsbill]

... in response to OK HOw many have succeeded in marrying....., posted by Frank O on Oct 4, 2002

Jack (never met him but he's the guy that got me motivated to go get my passport picture), Marty, Rags (met his prettty wife), Oatmeal.

This is for real MAN... maybe you should contact these guys as ask if this is the thing to do.