Here's a shocker.....

[Oscar]

... in response to Out of courtesy..., posted by Rags on Aug 11, 2002

Certainly that would be the courteous thing to do..  He could even do it once he got home if he wanted, or have his local representative take care of that end.  I know Jacks people do return photos and thank them for their responses etc if you want them to..

Oscar

[KenC]

... in response to Re: Here's a shocker....., posted by Oscar on Aug 11, 2002

n/t

[Oscar]

... in response to so, Oscar, who's photo did you run?  LOL..., posted by KenC on Aug 11, 2002

.

[BrianN]

... in response to Tom Selleck!  LOL  n/t, posted by Oscar on Aug 11, 2002

Great comeback.

rotflmao.

[Zink]

... in response to Here's a shocker....., posted by Mark H on Aug 11, 2002

Why not use my method. I find 1 or 2 girls in the same general area. Usually my selection process is seeing who will still write to me after a month or so. I have a great initial response that dries up quickly. After I've found a nice girl who wants to meet me and know where I'm going, I do an intensive search for anyone who looks interesting in that city and make a large backup folder. The only flaw I know of in my plan is I have yet to use my backups. I always planned on contacting them if things went badly. But I've always really liked my #1's and spent most of my time with them.

I'm a one woman kind of guy. I've tried to do the 100 woman speed date like WmGo. It just doesn't work for me. I'd rather spend a lot of time visiting and making friends with a lady I'm not going to married than speed date. The qualities I'm looking for only show up after spending plenty of time with a girl. I don't feel that I'm under any kind of time constraints either. I want to travel every year. So if I travel to Russia once or twice a year and date 1 or two women each time, that's good enough for me. Do what you're comfortable with.

[WmGo]

... in response to Re: Here's a shocker....., posted by Zink on Aug 11, 2002

Zinkster,

After numerous trips and a lot of learning I am slowly gravitating towards a middle of the road approach. Instead of meeting several ladies a day and going to multiple cities, my latest approach is to schedule just two a day  and to stay in one city

I am going to St. Pete in a couple of weeks.

Regards from the South!

WmGOinagaintothefarnorth

[Zink]

... in response to Re:  Speed Dating, posted by WmGo on Aug 11, 2002

I've got nothing against your method. I just can't seem to pull it off myself. For some guys it works. I just can't make this go like a job interview. And because I don't use agencies for help in Russia I don't have the option of letting them set up the dates for me. I've considering doing that but I'm content with my slow paced, laid back approach.

Regards from the south(of Canada).

[WmGo]

... in response to Re: Re:  Speed Dating, posted by Zink on Aug 11, 2002

caught the sarcasm of my referring to two meetings a day as a "middle of the road" approach

[Zink]

... in response to Noone, posted by WmGo on Aug 13, 2002

You're right. That went right over my head. Out of curiousity how many girls do you meet on your trips? I know you've got more experience over there than most of the guys. I met 3 on my last trip. I was supposed to meet more but it didn't work out. For me that was enough.

[Ryan]

... in response to Re: Here's a shocker....., posted by Zink on Aug 11, 2002

For what it is worth, I like this way best and really it is pretty much what I am doing this time.  (First time I went with one and blew chunks with the girl but learned lots about everything else) I find the logistics of a berryM method tuff to carry-out and only looks good on paper as what might happen is that you could piss off a good one you were counting on by putting her on the sideline to check out the others.  You can’t always go back!

[Ryan]

... in response to Here's a shocker....., posted by Mark H on Aug 11, 2002

Tim360 and others are correct as much as I cannot stand finding other women when I think you have the one you just must do it.  I still date AW threw the personals here in the U.S.A. and one after the next it is the same.  (I still date here as it can be fun if you don't care and it's better that sitting at home and putting in a tape)  You have to have a few other women that you can call and meet you someplace.
Good luck,
Ryan

[tim360z]

... in response to Here's a shocker....., posted by Mark H on Aug 11, 2002

Hiya Mark,

You just don't know how the old "chemistry" will be until you have spent some real face to face time with the girl.  And "chemistry" is quite important to most girls.  Within a minute or 2 they feel whether or not you are a candidate.  Instead of a click---there could be a clunk.  And there you are standing there in St. Petersburg or Krememchug...alone and thinkin'....its a long ride back home for a date that didn't work out.

This "date" of yours is not a 10 minute drive.  In that case,  not much of a loss.  But,  in your scenario you are dropping a few grand to go and meet your potential date.  You owe it to yourself to have some well thought out plans and the option to meet other girls while you are there. A little "risk management" is not a bad idea.  A little insurance.  You buy insurance for your car???  Right?

You owe it to youself to do a little thinking here.  Nothing wrong in being a little practical when you are jumping on a plane to go to the FSU and blowing alot of dough and time.  The odds are this 1 girl could be your 1 and only.  The odds are also that she ain't.  This world hands out no awards for being stupid...so think it over.

How about if I told you that I exchanged some emails with a girl here n the USA and I am driving 3000 miles to go and meet her for lunch.  You might think I was totally outta my mind and....you would probably be right.  

But,  if I said I was driving 3000 miles to meet 20 girls and have lunch,  you might think that...I got a pretty good plan.  Think it over.

[BubbaGump]

... in response to Chemistry 101, posted by tim360z on Aug 11, 2002

...is that women get very jealous of men that go see other women.  That can really blow it for you if the woman thinks she's just another one of the crowd.  Mark_H has to be either completely honest with the women or lie very convincingly to the woman he is with that she is his one true interest.  Personally I have very selective tastes and I could never find 20 women that I am actually interested in at any one location.  

Still, always have a backup plan like you said and the phone numbers for several agencies in the area.  Contact them before you go over and check out their websites.  These small agencies got very little that would interest me.  

[tim360z]

... in response to The flip side of risk management..., posted by BubbaGump on Aug 12, 2002

I would be either bored or worn out.  But,  emails and photos and even telephone calls are rather virtual.  Nobody really knows nothing until some realtime is spent together. Now,  conceiveably one could encounter a person through that method and go over and meet only her and everyting will "click".  However,  I think that would be rather exceptional...yes,  it can happen...that you get to know only one girl and go over and "she's the one".  Conversely,  it could be a big disappointment.  I think a balanced approach is best.  Even if you are per-sold on this one girl---have some options ready that you can implement in case things go "clunk" when you meet.  Over and out.

[Bobby Orr]

... in response to Chemistry 101, posted by tim360z on Aug 11, 2002

I agree completely.