Let me pose this question

[KenC]

... in response to How do find a wife, posted by Katya on Oct 28, 2001

Katya,
You make many very good points about visiting the woman's home town and family.  I just don't know how practial visiting one woman at a time is without a back up plan.  Please understand that I did go to visit one woman (with a back up plan)and everything worked out great for me.  In the begining, most of the guys here are looking to establish a relationship rather than to enhance an exisisting one.  Very good post though.
KenC

[Katya]

... in response to Re: How to find a wife, posted by KenC on Oct 28, 2001

I know that it could be a problem if you were stuck in an FSU country with nothing to do. Maybe it would be good for people to have a list of agency addresses - then at least they could visit them. Maybe better is to contact a good guide/translator.

I suppose we can only suggest what we see has worked. I have many friends who have also left Ukraine & my mum helps girls in a little mini agency. What I see is that it works well if two people get close by email correspondence first. Other ways work also I'm sure.

I can tell you one thing, that if my husband had come to meet many women, I would have been very grumpy about him.

:-)

Katya

[KenC]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Let me pose this question, posted by Lynn on Oct 28, 2001

Lynn,
I understand your logic, but I have some questions too. If you were to bring a woman to meet you in Moscow from an outlying area:
Do you set the meeting for just one day?
What happens if she "rocks your world"?
If you set the meeting over more than one day, what if you two are like oil and water?  What are the "sleeping arragnments?

I am asking for the guys still looking, as I am well past that time.  

I was lucky that I didn't have that problem.  My wife's city was only a few hours away from Moscow.  My first trip was to her city during our New Year (which they celebrate) and Orthodox Christmas.  This is a great time to visit as there are so many parties and family dinners.  The weather sucks, but EVERYTHING cannot always be perfect.  On my second trip we just hooked up in Moscow, but by that time, we were more serious about our relationship.
KenC

[Lynn]

... in response to nice to see you posting again, posted by KenC on Oct 28, 2001

Thanks KenC,

Due to the "troll terrorists" and being too busy otherwise to even lurk here, it has been a while.

Most of the ladies that I have had to come meet me came to Odessa or Kiev. I have had two to meet me in Moscow. I usually travel for two--three weeks at a time and usually at least two cities. What I have done in the past was to have those who are coming to see me scheduled for two or three days somewhere about the middle of my stay with at least a day or two in between to allow for the unexpected.
I guess that I have been very fortunate in that many of the women that I have met either had family or friends in or around the city that we met in and wanted to visit them while they were there. But there have been a few instances when we just did not mix and it has been quite awkward in the end. I would rather that she stay with a friend of her family, which seems to work best for me, but if she knows none there I get her a hotel room or sometimes she may stay with me (this creates problems finding a out, then is when you have to be creative). Sometimes you may get stuck with enduring the unpleasant time together, been there, done that too.
As for sleeping arrangements, that has been strange at times-------ranging from the lady insisting on sleeping on the sofa, to the classic question "can I sleep with you and we no f^^k", not that really expected to, but at least there was understanding between us. I for one do not like to kiss and tell about anything else.

What if she really rocks my world? That has happened, just not with the right one. I know she is out there, but for now I am laying low and back to writing. As soon as I can sell a large tract of realestate I invested in, I will back in the hunt hard and heavy, right now I'm land poor;)  

The holiday season in the FSU is a blast, I spent New Years in Kiev last year.

best regards to you and your wife,

Lynn

[Go2Rus]

... in response to Re: Let me pose this question, posted by Lynn on Oct 28, 2001

I agree with Lynn and would never go anywhere to meet anyone with out a lot of backup ladies.  It will be almost possible to have backup ladies in Siberia, so if they won't come to a major city where you have backup ladies, forget it.

[Oatmeal]

... in response to Let me pose this question, posted by BubbaGump on Oct 28, 2001

I definitely would travel that far.  Heck I have already traveled several thousand miles so why not a few more so to speak.  But I sure would have plenty of backup and this is why.

I placed a personal ad this past year and got plenty of really decent responses.  There was this one girl that I was interested in and after sending a couple of letters she immediately rose to the top of my list of girls to meet. We wrote each other for over 4 months. I wanted to meet her right away but as my trip was planned out I could not meet her until about 10 days into my trip.  I really felt that I would fall in love with this girl but as it turned out I knew right away that it would not work out between us.  

I will paraphrase by saying that "UNTIL YOU MEET IN PERSON, NOTHING IS A SURE THING" and even then it can be unexpected about what can happen so just don't burn your bridges too close behind you... Make sure you have plenty of backup and your lucky rabbits foot to boot.

It might work out and it might not but good luck just the same.

[Goofpod]

... in response to Let me pose this question, posted by BubbaGump on Oct 28, 2001

Absolutely! But, only after a lengthy period of relevant communications. Take your time, 'cause she's not going anywhere soon (especially now that winter has started) and it's a hell of a lot further than Sheremetevo II...