By-passing the agencies?

[Houndog]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Let's have a free lunch ..., posted by david on May 6, 2001

If you don't mind list ALL the 'met at the food/tennis court success stories'  that resulted in marriage and haven't ended in divorce !

Then I will list the success stories 'just from this board' that met at or through agencies.

Real help in this venue for what is generally considered 'newbies' is about giving guys the "BEST ODDS" of meeting Sincere, Marriage Minded, Marriageble Material, Good Ladies. Generally described as having Morals, Values and Character !

 Many of the vets here know that most LA Good Ladies, require some type of Formal Introduction. Most Good Ladies are traditional in that regard and do not troll/stroll for dates. Both the men and women that regulary 'troll for dates' should be viewed with healthy amounts of scepticism, simply because it's not how 'Sincere', Marriage Minded People in our society or theirs are taught to find a Long Term Commited Spouse, ie: One with Morals, Values and Character.  I'm not saying trolling is immpossible or that every troller/stroller is of less than desirable character, only that the odds of those types being of less than desirable character is trmendous. And since most have limited time good advice dictates using the "odds" in your favor not against.

I think the guy said it well above....'spoken like a true predator'....."predatory" Males or Females is not what "ANY" of the men or women I know are looking for.  

And some of us "Highly Reccomend" guys learn how to spot "Predatory Types" and avoid them.

Houndog

[david]

... in response to Re: List the success stories, posted by Houndog on May 6, 2001

I am not going to turn this into a personal attack, but please come out of the clouds. Just because two people meet each other while shopping is not a bad thing.  And opposite to what you have heard or think, nice girls do not have to be introduced formally in S.A. I really do not know where you heard this info. But it is certainly not true. If you want to believe it or not, S.A. and A.W. can be similar in many ways.  Thankfully there are some differences between them.  Remember, there is nothing wrong with falling in love naturally.  Meeting somebody out of chance in a daily activity, is very romantic and exciting. Agencies are hardly a natural setting to meet people.  I am not putting agencies down but that are certainly not natural. I may even use an agency in the future and I have visited several in the past. Again, I will say live the moment and enjoy your life.  Couples meet in many different ways.

I really can't believe this is even a discussion.

You also seem to be confused to the fact that you have to be rich to be social. This is incorrect. Really, I want you to think about it.   There are many social activities that are either inexpensive or free.  Human beings are social beings, it is in our nature.  These ladies are the same.  Being social will put a guy in a opportunity to meet people.

Houndog. I wish you and your lady a bright future. David  

[Ralph]

... in response to Re: Re: List the success stories, posted by david on May 6, 2001

In fact many women stay away from agencies if they are more "traditional". Many that do join, do not tell their families till they meet a guy and become serious. There is a stigma for the ladies as well as for the men.

I am about to post the story of how my buddy met his wife to our site. I will check and see if he is OK with my posting here. I guess romance gets left out of the equation too much.

My wife and I constantly joke about telling our kids about how we first met etc. I'm not sure I would tell my kids, "out of the 30 women I interviewed at the agency, your Mom and I hit it off, and she fit my profile".

[Houndog]

... in response to Exactly, posted by Ralph on May 6, 2001

Better than telling them you met her in a bar.

 You know, funny how some feel ashamed, yet claim they haven't done anything wrong.

Sounds suspicious to me.

HD

[david]

... in response to Exactly, posted by Ralph on May 6, 2001

Your exactly right about the girls not telling the families they are members.  But most of the guys on this board would never believe that. See ya David

[Houndog]

... in response to You hit the nail on the Head, posted by david on May 6, 2001

I had 2 show up for interviews with their mothers and 3 with their sisters. So I think their family knew.

HD

[Traveler]

... in response to Let's have a free lunch on the gringo!, posted by Tai on May 5, 2001

you are going to pay for something.  if you go on that walk and want to see her again most likely you will wine and dine her anyway.

there are many approaches.  rejection is part of the process, but you can't win if you don't play.

[Hamlet]

... in response to Re: By-passing the agencies?, posted by david on May 4, 2001

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