I thought love

[snowwego]

She told me it wouldn't matter where we lived untils he got here and didn't have enough food for her and her daughter had nerve to say that my pickup 1999 350 diesel with extended cab is not good enough for a princess. I tried to tell her that this was tewmporary until we recovered from all the expenses. Talking to her is like talking to 4 brick walls. She needs that return flight  immediately. She knew I had a dog before she got here and she hates my dog. My dog is so sacared of her that she didn't come out of from under the bed till the midddle of the night. She had nerve to tell me she loves animals. My dog is the most obiedent you could ask for. This dog gets up on her hind likes to give hugs. She think she is a princess but, she is going to be a damsel in distress again. I am going to make sure she gets on the scammer sight also. Rick I want to thank everyone for thier help here.

[Globetrotter]

... in response to I thought love, posted by snowwego on Oct 4, 2002

Snow,

Sorry you had a tough time and rude awakening, but thanks for sharing.  You seem to have done everything with honesty and faith, while she seems to have wanted to marry a lifestyle instead of a man.  Your story could be the same for any of us.  No matter how much you do, how honest you are, one must ask, how good an actress is she?

When I began 2 years ago, I read everything written by Irina Petrova, Russian Women Secrets, What Women Expect, Culture, etc., and thought I was informed.  She also has a large MOB site...and also alleged to be "mobbed up."

Those were nice generalizations, but obviously, you better not bet your life on them.  Tis a very dangerous game we play!  I think I have done everything right...girl the right age, professional, kids, charming, loving, didn't want to get married right away, (well, she does now) we have known each other for 2 years, good enough English and no need for an interpreter, met 3 times, etc.  Still, I'm wary.  Also, I would never get married again without a prenup and everything...house, business, car collection, investments in a trust.

I'll say it again....Look at the way things really are, as opposed to the way you would like them to be.

A very dangerous game indeed.

[Frank O]

... in response to I thought love, posted by snowwego on Oct 4, 2002

Dude what do you mean didn't have enought food for her? If you didn't have a stocked fridge that might have been writing on the wall FOR HER.

[snowwego]

... in response to What do you mean didn't have enough food..., posted by Frank O on Oct 5, 2002

I had two freezers full of stuff and a cubbard half full, canned goods are now good for her and she kept looking at all the dates and and thinking the upc codes were dates and she insisted that it was all no good american , food in america is no good

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: What do you mean didn't have enough ..., posted by snowwego on Oct 5, 2002

Thanks for the explanation Perhaps in your hurry some things you wrote came out confused. I know what you mean about this. I have a Mexican friend & she says the same thing. She's cooking for me on Monday so I thought I'd buy some chicken & take it to her (I live 8 miles fromMexico) & she said "no we don't eat American chicken". Oh well. It's obvious she was looking for a way. I'm SO SURE Ukrainian food is better than ours (sarcasm meant!). I'm sorry Rick.

[joe]

... in response to Re: Re: What do you mean didn't have eno..., posted by Frank O on Oct 5, 2002

actaully, Ukrainian food probably is better. Sarcasm not meant. The food is fresh and not filled with steroids and preservatives. So again-investigate. Since my wife came, I have eaten at McDonalds 3 time and everytime got sick. Just because it is the American way, does not make it the best way. I think that SnowWego, needs to let this woman make a post and give her opinion. I just do not see how someone who came half way around the world, with her teenage daughter, gave up friends and family, only to return emty handed is scamming...........my God people.
Joe

[John F]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: What do you mean didn't have..., posted by joe on Oct 5, 2002

[This message has been edited by John F]

As in much of Europe, their trend is to shop daily for food.  They don't "fill the pantry" as we Americans do.  And, they "can" fruits and vegetables themselves by shopping for fresh in the market and putting it up themselves as we did in the 40's, 50's, and before.  The benefit is that they don't preserve it to last forever by adding a truckload of salt.  Believe me, go off the canned goods (especially soup) for awhile and then try it.  The salt will gag you.

They also don't buy bread to last a week as we do.  When my wife arrived I realized this we let her prepare fresh foods herself and buying frozen bread dough and baking fresh bread daily.  Over time she adjusted and we are now becoming close to the typical American way of life.

The merging of the two cultures is NOT easy.  It takes time and understanding on both parts but a HUGE amount of accomodating on your part until she becomes adjusted.

Been there and survived,
John

[Frank O]

... in response to I Agree, posted by John F on Oct 5, 2002

thanks for posting that.

[Stevo]

... in response to I thought love, posted by snowwego on Oct 4, 2002

Some of these RW/UW are the worst bi*ches that I've ever encountered (certainly worse than any AW I've ever been acquainted with).  It is hard to believe that they can complain about EVERYTHING after having spent their whole life in the FSU. If you pick the right RW/UW, she'll make you very happy, but the wrong one will make your life a living hell.

The RW that recently visited my wife and me was unbelievable...37 and behaved like she was going on 17.  She wanted us to find her an American husband...didn't matter if she loved him or not, just that he be 'rich'.  NO WAY would I ever introduce her to anybody that I know...even my worst enemy (well maybe my worst enemy .

If you gotta' bounce her back to Ukraine... then don't feel any remorse and just go ahead and do it!

Stevo