I thought love

[snowwego]

She told me it wouldn't matter where we lived untils he got here and didn't have enough food for her and her daughter had nerve to say that my pickup 1999 350 diesel with extended cab is not good enough for a princess. I tried to tell her that this was tewmporary until we recovered from all the expenses. Talking to her is like talking to 4 brick walls. She needs that return flight  immediately. She knew I had a dog before she got here and she hates my dog. My dog is so sacared of her that she didn't come out of from under the bed till the midddle of the night. She had nerve to tell me she loves animals. My dog is the most obiedent you could ask for. This dog gets up on her hind likes to give hugs. She think she is a princess but, she is going to be a damsel in distress again. I am going to make sure she gets on the scammer sight also. Rick I want to thank everyone for thier help here.

[Rags]

... in response to I thought love, posted by snowwego on Oct 4, 2002

Snowman, take a deep breath and chill a bit. I've only read these last posts but when I get a chance I'll try to catch up on your saga.

The first few weeks together are definitely trying (especially with a 17 y.o. "princess") so hang in there. There are many preconceived notions that have to be cast aside. PATIENCE is the word. Don't be jumping to too many conclusions right now. My wife was close to packing it in a few times but we worked through the tough spots and it brought us closer together.

I read something about sending them to a hotel? Not good, IMHO. Stick together, she needs to know that you will always be there for her AND her daughter. She will probably get sick (we did) after being stuck in that airplane with bad air for so many hours. They are also stressing big time which will lower their resistance even more.

I don't know even YOUR side of the story (maybe you could drop me a line if you care for my opinion) but I can tell you that we had a pretty rocky start also.

My wife had the opinion that UPC codes contained all sorts of info (that they don't) and did not care for the food that I had stocked up on either. So I took her shopping and let her get what she wanted. (Later I debunked her theories on the secret UPC codes.)

My wife also has a dog back in Kyiv (a smelly little Cocker Spaniel which I am not particularly fond of even though I love dogs) but she doesn't really care for my Golden (who stays outside like a good farm/guard dog). That's O.K. with me.

It takes time and LOTS OF PATIENCE to work out these initial problems and come to a compromise. I'm here for ya if you want to talk.   ED                  (209) 293-7654

[robobond]

... in response to I thought love, posted by snowwego on Oct 4, 2002

Didn't Willy Nelson have a song in 'Red Haired Stranger' album that went "you can't blame a man for shooting a woman who is trying to dis his dog"?  
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Other than the obvious emotions welling up inside of you, things aren't really computing in my mind.  I don't mean to sound like a DA cross-examining you, but you DID put this to a public forum AND we are all learning from it -- so let me ask you some questions to put this all in some perspective in my mind (if no one else's), OK?  (1) How well did you get to know this lady?  how many trips and for how long?  (2) How much time did you spend communicating with her daughter (either with mom or 1 on 1)?  (3)  Did you and the potential mrs. discuss the purpose of her trip over here?  i.e., was it done on a contingency basis, like "come look" or was it a done deal?  Are you sure it was the same in both your minds?  (4) was the agreement that you were both still scoping each other out?  (5)  If you now think she scammed you, what was her motivation and what do you think she stood to gain?  I guess the last question is the one I'm now choking on...

[snowwego]

... in response to Re: I thought love, posted by robobond on Oct 4, 2002

I was under the impression that it was for good and I wanted her to visit before we did this but she did not want to be a guest but, married with a family. I did meet a friend on plane one trip who had a girl from the ukraine and she has talked  her. My friends wife said that I did more than any one to help her adjust and come here knowing full well where I was and what I did. I talked to them and they said send her back.  My friends wife will not even talk to her now. I did come to the forum because, through this whole ordeal the good and the terrrible. THis has sort of been like a family thing here. rick

[joe]

... in response to I thought love, posted by snowwego on Oct 4, 2002

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how did she scam you? Did she take your dough and leave? From what I can tell she just wants more than you have to offer. It is funny when the men want beauty it is cool, but the women are scammers when they want security. My wife claims that she will not accept less out of life. She keeps me in check. These chicks are much different than AW. The ones I have met, are highly intelligent and know what they got. My wife wore Versace in the FSU and she is not going to stop here.
Here it is. Men that go over are not well traveled, well versed in culture, style, ediquette. Do not take it personal-it is the Amrican way of life -when is the last time any of you guys went to an Opera? OK!
The educational system there was desinged to imbed culture into the souls of these people. They did not have the luxury of religion to give  them blind security-they had to use intellect and face cold hard reality.
So say what you may-these people have something special. They may be suffering now, but every employer I have ever met that has hired a Russian-looks out for more-they are the best workers and are most intuative.
Just my experience
Joe
my wife is still a big B I T C H many times though-do not get me wrong. But she know when to back off. I am not a rookie. No AW was ever a great of an asset to my cohabitation as my RW