IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON CENTR

[Kiltboy1]

Ok, i was going to save this BOMBSHELL for later, but this race crap needs to get shoved to the bottom of the crap pile

After 7 months in New York City learning her lessons of cheating latin lovers, my wife of 2 years and i are going to give it another try. Fot those of you that have followed my story, this is a huge leap of faith that most of you guys would look at as stupid, but i look at as  giving someone who thought the grass was greener, another chance to prove herself to me that she realized what she lost .

She also has agreed to go into counciling and to see a doctor for her manic depression disorder.Maybe i am old school  in that i believe people can change and do deserve a second chance and my wife was abused in cali growing up by her father and the father of her son, raped by her father and uncle and other things i do not want to go into that i only have recently learned .

It would be so simple for me to walk away from this mess with all of the beautiful women in colombia, and i was kind of invloved with a few woman that really have few problems. But when i went to seach my heart and my soul, it all came doown to one thing--I LOVE MY WIFE IN SPITE OF ALL SHE HAS DONE TO ME, AND I WAS NO SAINT AS WELL, I DID THINGS AS WELL

Ok, well, that should at least get us back on track of LATIN LOVE and not RACE --I HATE THAT CRAP !!

OK, BRING IT ON, BUT IT WILL DO NO GOOD, I AM GETTING MY WIFE, STEPSON AND FAMILY BACK, GOOD, BAD , OR UGLY, WELL NOT UGLY, MY WIFE IS UNBELIEVEABLY HOT !!!!

KB OUT

[Rebel]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

Kiltboy: Follow your own heart. If you still love her and want her back there's no other way. There are no rules in relationships. It's not like math or something where there's a precise answer. Feelings zig and zag all over the place. Have fun.

Rebel

[wizard]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

I will only make one comment as it seems you have made up your mind to give your marriage another shot...

You can never go backwards in life...

I learned this lesson the hard way many, many times... When it comes to relationships, you can forgive, but you can never forget... I tried to patch things up with many women in the past, but it just never worked... No matter how much we wanted it to... The past always comes back to haunt you...

I wish you luck... You're gonna need it...

[Jeff S]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

My wife and I had a very rocky time early on in our marriage. We even separated for a while. She decided she wanted to stay married to me, and I to her, so we made a consious decision to do what it took to make our relationship work. It worked, so far at least. That was 17 years ago and things xouldn't be better. Anyway, the moral of the story is that yes, things can turn around if you both are willing to put in the effort. That's what marriage is all about anyway, putting in the effort.

- Jeff

[Cali James]

... in response to Re: IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACK..., posted by Jeff S on Oct 12, 2004

[This message has been edited by Cali James]


I agree with what you're saying Jeff, two people can work through their problems if they really try and they'll be the better for it.

Kiltboy's is in a tough situation if you ask me.  He way want to give it a 2nd chance because he believes in "marriage" and that's admirable.  However his wife has shown her true stripes by her own actions.  She falsely accused him of spousal abuse and he was kicked out of his own house.  People can change but it's rare, Kiltboy will most likely pay for this decision, sooner or later....

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Cali James on Oct 12, 2004

Lets see here gents

my wife has said she made a bad mistake by leaving me  and for doing the things she did. She has told my daughter she loves us and never wants to be without us again. She wants to go to marriage counciling, psyco therpy  , take medication for depression, converT to christiananity and attend church with her family,

What do you not see here other then past actions that does not look like she really is sorry and wants to try all she can to make up for things.
This is more then i ever got out of an american woman. people do change and the restraining order was pushed onto her by the colombian lady that she moved into her house in New York . A real Gringo Hater
that took advantage of a confused woman.

I fully expect us to make it  if all the things that she says she wants to do are carried out, and i am a hardass on that type of crap. IT WILL BE CARRIED OUT.

[Cali James]

... in response to Re: IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACK..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 12, 2004

Kiltboy, I'm all for people sticking it out and I admire you for trying again.  However I'm skeptical of your wife based on your own words regarding her this last year. From my perspective, I don't care how confused a person is, a person doesn't accuse another falsely in a serious matter like spousal abuse.  This would indicate to me a total lack of character.   You say she was manipulated into accusing you of this but I ask you, could you be manipulated into doing the reverse.  I think you may be rationalizing her behavior in the absolutely best light possible.  

OK I can see that you've made your decision, so be it.  If you start to see the same behavior from her again, don't be like Pete and give up 4 years of your life on someone who was only in it for themself.  You can find a lot better in Colombia if you're patient...

[Jeff S]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Cali James on Oct 12, 2004

Maybe you're right. I didn't realize there was a false spousal abuse claim here. That's pretty serious.

- Jeff

[Cali MD]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

Sometimes you need to let a situation run it's course, good or bad.  In the end you know you gave it all you could.  I wish you the best and I give you a world of credit for giving her another chance.  I hope that God grants you vision of the truth so either way you end up happy and at peace.

Cali MD

[kented]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

The odds at the start of most relationships are about 50-50.  The notion that you're wife had changed is about 100 to 1.  

The first time she moved out was a tremendous red flag.  I ignored obvious red flags with my first wife and no amount of logic or reasoning could have saved me from myself.

The only thing that has changed is your wife realizes she needs you and your money to do well in the US.  The longer it lasts, the better her chances in a divorce settlement.

RUN FOR YOUR LIFE IN THE OTHER DIRECTION.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Run , posted by kented on Oct 12, 2004

My wife is not hurting for money. she has a room with a colombian family, makes good money bartending in a Latin resturaunt , has her on cell phone, TV , new bedroom suite , and many things that she worked hard to get. She just wants to give our marriage the effort that she did not give it before, and i am not a hard guy to love , so we have history and feelings and our marriage was not always bad and yes, the LORD did send me a messege that was very clear , that i should not walk away from my marriage , tht she indeed has made great strides in her life.As i said before, i know what i am taking on, and there will be nothing to get in a divorce. My house is soley in my name and she is not entitled to anything. Any retirement money is now in an untraceable bank account help another country with there debt load. So i am covered that way

[Pete E]

... in response to Run , posted by kented on Oct 12, 2004

I think she is trully lost.He might have a chance.

Pete

[kented]

... in response to Re: Run , posted by Pete E on Oct 12, 2004

And someday in our lifetime Colombia will be a peaceful country where the narcotraficantes give us voluntarily negotiate away their wealth and power.

Pete, you are the most optimistic person I know.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: Run , posted by kented on Oct 12, 2004

I hate to say it,but Uribe has a better chance of getting Farc and ELN to fold up their tent and go than KB has here.
You miss a main point with FARC and ELN leaders.Money they already have.Just let them split with it is a better option for them than death or Jail.First they have to be coninced Uribe is serious.He is.Next they have to be convinced he can get it done.A question here,but when it looks like it they will fade in to the sunset with their narco billions.Why do an Alamo ending whem it could be Margaritas on the beach?
Their net worth could exceed the 5 billion Castro has.Maybe they could buy part of Cuba to retire in.

Pete

[Pete E]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

I realized after our talks the last time you were here how important this was for you to see through.I had no doubt you would accept if she ever came back around.
I hope for your sake she has trully changed.The odds don't look good from past experience ,but its worth a try ,before you write off a person you trully love.
And,from our talks,you know I would do the same.Remember the movie "whats love got to do with it?" I think its more appropriate to say what has logic got to do with it when dealing with love.
Good luck my amigo.

Pete