IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON CENTR

[soltero]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

Good Luck KiltBoy. I wish the best for you in this. I , and my wife of 2 years are just in the initial stages of going to court, and she seems to be cut from the same cloth (or worse) than yours. I know that she has had traumatic experiences in her life as well, and I held on too long trying to make it work, so I think that there is no hope in my situation. If I had just let her sink or swim when she first moved out, I know things would have been different, but I have only just gotten to the point where I am letting her live the life she has chosen without trying to help or bail her out. Again, I hope things work out. Keep us posted as to the progress and I hope that your wife has had the time to appreciate what you are doing for her by taking her back.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACK..., posted by soltero on Oct 11, 2004

I did not want to let her sink to begin with, but now i know it was the only way she could see life as it really is. I hope maybe your wife will wise up as well. I wish you luck Too

KB

[soltero]

... in response to Re: Re: IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

Thanks, I appreciate that. I feel just like you, stick in there if you are both willing to try. I don't have much hope for my situation, but I truly hope that yours works out for you.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

Thanks for everyones well wishes or thinking i am stupid, whichever camp you are in, i respect that. Yes, i do know of all of my wifes problems , but i have never been a man to walk away from something just because something else might be less difficult. What kind of man would i be to walk away from my wife when she has sucked up her latina pride and admitted to me she made mistakes and she has problems that she needs to address. I also was not the best, most attentive husband in the past and i also thought that the grass might be greener as well when things started getting difficult. The bottlom line is that we both still have sincere feelings for each other that need to be re aquainted. I know 100% what i am getting myself back into with the possibility for disaster being there, but my wife is one of the most stubborne and proud woman ever put on this planet and for her to tell me she needs help tells me something about her growth as a person while on her own in NY City . She made her bed, she laid in it and she fell off. Now she wants to come try to be the kind of wife and mother that she knows she needs to be. OK, i figured we would put the race issure to rest. Thank God

KB

[roadken]

... in response to Re: IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACK..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

You kid will be miserable.You will get what you've asked for.Hell on wheels.

[Hoda]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004


was yours in regard to the difficulty of making marriage work, no matter what the culture. "Marriage" is probably the most difficult, but most rewarding part for those here, who have gotten that far....

Best of luck you & your lady.

[el Cantante]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

Kiltboy, I want to congrate you and wish you the best if that is what you decide. I personally don't think it is a good idea. With the history like your ex-wife has, it is going to take a lot of love, work, understanding and patience. I'm imaging that in the back of her mind, she might think she can always come back to you if she does it all over again. I can understand your feeling towards her, and you are still in love with her. But it is easier to start a fresh realtion than try to fix the broken trust. Especially her psychological state as you posted before, is a potential bomb. Sorry for being cruel. Just want to give you my friendly warning.

[beenthere]

... in response to Re: IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACK..., posted by el Cantante on Oct 11, 2004

El Cantante,
I respectfully disagree.  At least Kiltboy knows what he's getting into with his ex....with a new relationship, maybe not.  Many don't have the time & money to invest in a new relationship down south.  It takes alot of time, especially the second time around.  We are alot more cautious, and thus, a little jaded.  It can take years.....  He loves this woman, and there seems to be a child involved.  Maybe she has seen the light......people CAN change.......give it a shot Kiltboy!!!

[el Cantante]

... in response to Re: Re: IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE ..., posted by beenthere on Oct 11, 2004

Beenthere,
I just hate to see him get hurt the second time. Kiltboy has very good understanding of Calenas, their mentality, their culture and their little tricks, so I think he should be OK with his decision, though I was surprise when I first read it. There are actually 2 children involved, his own daughter and his stepson, and I believe he has thought of the whole situation. A calena I was involved with also came back to me for a restart after we broke up. I never took her back because she never admit or apologize for her behaviors that caused wounds. In his case, his ex-wife did admit and apologize for her mistakes( assuming from his post earlier), so maybe she is sincere. But I would emphasize again, proceed with caution. It was very difficult to break up with a hottie. I know.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JES..., posted by el Cantante on Oct 11, 2004

yes, she has admitted mistakes and that she really needs help and she misses her family. She is hot, but i have met and been with women in colombia as hot or hotter then her. In my case i see something in her that she cannot even see in herself. If it was all about hottness, i would proceed with the 2 women i have been seeing as of late. they really are smokin !!

[el Cantante]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

Now you got me thinking again. LOL. Best Luck.

[beenthere]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

I think you're doing the right thing, good luck!!!!!!!

[david hagar]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

I hope that the reconcillation works out for you

Beattledog

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

[This message has been edited by DallasSteve2]

I remember that somebody posted a message to you titled "A Different Point of View" on 8/6/04 (which was also said poster's birthday) suggesting that instead of going to Colombia to meet your new pen pal, that you give your ex a second chance (who at that time was trying to get you back in the Colombian Death Grip, AKA marriage).  It still seems like good advice to me so I'm going to reprint it below with the author's permission.  And, by the way, that address for posting photos is www.picturetrail.com

Steve

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Kiltboy

Is your wife still in the US?

Have you actually met your new "friend"?

If the answers are Yes and No (in that order) I would reconsider opening a dialog with my ex, if I was in the same situation, and I almost was 2 years ago.

My ex left and then she later she invited me out to dinner. I turned her down because I had already met and asked my wife to marry me, but if I had not yet met her I would've given it another try.

Other will say this is bad advice because you already know your ex is a problem. My response would be "Every woman has her own problems. Once you get to know your friend a little better, or a lot better, you will see she's not perfect either."

Or as my boss said after one of our fellow employees remarried his ex-wife: "That's a case of choosing the known poison."

Steve
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[markxport]

... in response to IS THIS A LATIN FORUM OR JESSIE JACKSON ..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Oct 11, 2004

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