stares and racial harrassment in LA

[Troy]

Anybody ever get stared at or verbally harrassed when you are with your novia in LA?  A friend of mine from the Asian board told me the last time he was in the Philippines, some young punks verbally harrassed him with racial slurs for being with his pinay girlfriend (he is caucasion). Also, another guy told me that a group of guys in Colombia harrassed his gf with wolf calls and whatnot, and when he protested, he was insulted with racial slurs.

I have never been harrassed verbally in Peru, nor has by wife reported any racial slurs hurled our way.  But we were stared at excessively (for the first time) last time I was there.  The people seemed to almost always glare at me first, then at my wife, as if to say what are those two colors doing together?  It left me a bit paranoid and angry (remembering the old Eddie Murphy skit about being in Texas and looking for racism)

By the way, has anyone been harrassed in America based on the same criteria?  I guess I'm preparing myself for some of that stuff.

[jonno]

... in response to stares and racial harrassment in LA, posted by Troy on Aug 20, 2004

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My wife gets this type of mild, sexual harassment constantly walking through Barranquilla. Young american punks are ten times worse with a hot woman here. Why would you protest? Its their country and their women. I get lots of the expected gringo glances from Colombians, but nothing major at all (visited 3 times).  More details about you are needed. If youre 50 and sporting a beer gut and a "Big Mac" ass walking around with a pretty girl in her twenties, you're going to get stares and glares on ANY street in the world pal, regardless of your race.

thank you

[Troy]

... in response to Re: stares and racial harrassment in LA, posted by jonno on Aug 21, 2004

about me;  37 years old, 6ft, 200 pounds, a black man, bald with goatee.  i was told by my wife wife's family that when the first saw me, they thought i was a professional soccer player.  i think that is the root of much of the stares.

i just have to overcome it, that's all.

[jonno]

... in response to Re: Re: stares and racial harrassment in..., posted by Troy on Aug 21, 2004

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...and when a black women gets behind a wheel of a car she is the only driver on the road (in her mind).  They are absolutley, the most inconsiderate drivers on the street (in detriot, anyway),  and its always a game of chicken when you try to cross in front of their car in a mall parking lot.

[wizard]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: stares and racial harrassmen..., posted by jonno on Aug 21, 2004

We have a saying here in Houston, DWA (Driving While Asian)... Not so much derogatory, but fact... If you see a small economy car traveling at 1/2 the normal speed limit and the driver is totally oblivious to everything going on around them, then there's a good chance it's a DWA...

Hint: Another clue is if you can't see the driver's head stick out above the steering wheel...

PS: Just wait till you start to teach you're new wife how to drive when she get's here... ;-}

[Jeff S]

... in response to DWA, posted by wizard on Aug 21, 2004

You know how to tell when Asians are moving into your neighborhood?

All the Mexicans run down and buy auto insurance.

[Locii]

... in response to stares and racial harrassment in LA, posted by Troy on Aug 20, 2004

You don't need to be in LA or be a minority for this treatment.  When I would go out with my mulatta gf right here in Key West, there were often brothers who would take exception to the situation and try to get (literally) in between us.  She had a way of cutting off their *** that I still marvel at today, years later.

Many people have small minds, which shrink to a singularity when you give them 3 drinks.  Incidentally, all of the negative experiences I had involved a bar and a group of brothers, who would stand, staring, ominously, hoping I would be afraid.  I was mostly afraid for them, when she would turn to them and describe their lack of manhood in a stream of  italian, french and english.  Gosh I miss her.

Ciao

[Troy]

... in response to Re: stares and racial harrassment in LA, posted by Locii on Aug 21, 2004

Locii, the most aggressive people towards interracial dating/marriage will be black women (if a black man is involved).  Unlike other groups, who will vent their distates in private conversations, black women will boldly challenge a black man/other race woman both physically and verbally.  Not always, but it will happen.  

Every race on this planet is racially screwy, to some extent.

[Hoda]

... in response to black women are the worse offenders, posted by Troy on Aug 21, 2004


With his Black woman hatin self! All this Black woman this and Black woman that....sounds like a bunch of self hating propaganda!

[jonno]

... in response to Re: stares and racial harrassment in LA, posted by Locii on Aug 21, 2004

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right on, "brother"!

[Red Clay]

... in response to stares and racial harrassment in LA, posted by Troy on Aug 20, 2004

No catcalls in Peru, some stares and curious looks but certainly nothing threatening or even bothersome.

Here, on the other hand, it's not unusual for the local illegal Mexicans in public to whisper rude comments to mi esposa when I can't hear them. She only tells me about it after they are gone. Cholos cochinos.

[Troy]

... in response to Re: stares and racial harrassment in LA, posted by Red Clay on Aug 20, 2004

And how does that make you feel?  You ever get upset enough to respond back?  Don't you feel obligated to defend your wife?

[Red Clay]

... in response to and how does that make you feel?, posted by Troy on Aug 21, 2004

She never lets me in on it until it's too late. I have some excellent responses in Espanol ready when I get the chance.

[surfscum]

... in response to stares and racial harrassment in LA, posted by Troy on Aug 20, 2004

If it's any encouragement, the more time I spend in Peru, the more I notice the stares we get when my fiancee and I are out.  There have been some catcalls, but mostly stares.  I don't stop to try to figure out if they are hostile or not because I just don't care.  The only time it may have become physical was when my fiancee was doped with scopalomine when we were in Barranco. I'll never know if we were being set up to be robbed, but that's my hunch.

I think they just look at gringos with latinas because it's different. Are some of them racist? Sure, but some are curious, others are jealous. Fuhgidabowdem and live your life.

Except for you, Clay.  They will eat you alive in Latin America. Have you tried Iceland?

[JEMJCU1]

... in response to Re: stares and racial harrassment in LA, posted by surfscum on Aug 20, 2004

I just returned from Panama and had a lovely time with a wonderful Latina. Yeah there were a lot of cat calls, I already was aware of the cultural difference. A fair amount of staring from locals at me because of my light skin and her because it is obvious that she is not Panamanian. I figure who cares I know she like being with me and I am going to get my world rocked when we get back to the hotel.