I read your advice - but ...............

[JimmySTLOUIS]

Hi

Thanks to everyone who responded to my first post. I appreciate the advice given (and that is the problem)
FYI-I am staying at a hotel in Peru - Meliá Lima Hotel (not at the house) I did listen on that one. :-)

I re-read the advice and I find myself in a bit of a problem. The main point of most advice seemed to be "dont rush" and "dont put your eggs in one basket".

The problem is I seem to have already done BOTH. I hate to admit this but I feel in pretty deep at this point. I am happy with it but ........... well your advice is sound ......but ..........
I know you might be thinking how could this be? but you guys who have been down the road and fell into this will know what I am talking about. I want this to work out soooo bad!

I still feel like I hot the jack pot. Everything is still great. Its just been tough for one side of my brain to digest the advice from others who have been there - then the other side of my brain that says THIS CHICK IS GREAT! I go back and forth worse than Giligan.

Let me tell you this girl is super sweet, comes from a good family,  refuses $ even to cover postage, cute, adores me, etc etc.
I hate to admit it but the "L" word might have been thrown around a little. But the advice says ...............

SO you guys might be wondering - what is my question. Well I dont know myself. I am just struggling with the conflict here. Please dont flame me because I am being very real about this. I am also having a problem with my travel date is not until right before Thanksgiving and I am getting antsy to see whats what wih this.(I know another no no). Maybe I am like a kid who you just has to make the mistakes themselves? I dont know. I am a mess!

I doubt any of this makes sense - but you guys are the only ones who might understand.

Thanks

Jim

[senge]

... in response to I read your advice - but ..............., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Oct 8, 2003

I am staying in a hotel in miraflores.  Tell me, how are the people there?  you feel uncomfortable?  how is the hotel you are staying at?

[JimmySTLOUIS]

... in response to I will be there November 22, posted by senge on Oct 9, 2003

Hi

I just got off the phone with my girl.

I sent an e-mail to surf scum also. I have never been to SA. I have only been to Italy and Hawaii - so I have no idea.

I think my girl and her family will pamper me the whole time. There are three people that speak at least some english in the family. I dont expect to be on my own at all.

The hotel Milia Lima is a 5 star hotel. I found it through Peru-travel.info - $69 a night.

I cant wait.

jim

[Cali vet]

... in response to I will be there November 22, posted by senge on Oct 9, 2003

Two places we stayed at recently in Miraflores were Hotel Suites on Av Grau and Pension Yolanda on Domingo Elias. Both were conveniently located although Yolanda more so as it was half a block from a huge modern supermarket.

[DallasSteve2]

... in response to I read your advice - but ..............., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Oct 8, 2003

My wife was riding the light rail here in Dallas one day, last year, I think.  A transit policeman started talking to her.  When he found out she was from Cali he said "My girlfriend's from Cali".  They talked about how he met her on the Internet, his application for her visa, my wife's story, etc.

She saw him again a couple of months agao when she took the kids out for pizza or ice cream, I forget which.  Now he has no girlfriend.  Now my wife found out the real story.

This clown (and I mean that in a NICE way) never went to Cali.  He met this woman on some Internet website.  He traded emails, photos, phone calls until he decided "she is the one".  He said he had a friend in the INS who ran his K1 application through even though they had never met.

When she got here he was disappointed.  Not as attractive to him as in the photos.  So he breaks off the engagement and sends her back.  A real class act.

Moral of the story: Until you meet her in person all you have is a hope.  Don't fall in love with an image in your mind.  Meet her then get to know her.  And have a backup plan.

Steve

[kevin c]

... in response to I read your advice - but ..............., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Oct 8, 2003

jimmy
you could adjust you date that you arrive or leave
to just meet a few other ladys to see how the one you singled out compares , and if she still stands out from the rest then you just have that much more reassurance that she is special  .

[Freddie]

... in response to I read your advice - but ..............., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Oct 8, 2003

I too can't say anything about your situation. I met my wife, spent 3 days with her and came home and immediately got on the internet to start the K-1 visa process.

Today makes 3 1/2 years we've been married.

[tbirdjoy]

... in response to I read your advice - but ..............., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Oct 8, 2003

The best advice I can give you is to follow your instincs.  Don't worry about all the advice to meet many women on your trip.  When I've gone overseas to meet a woman it was only after I'd developed a close relationship and there were mutually strong feelings.  I only went to see the woman who is now my wonderful wife and it was the best way for me to do it. Some guys can juggle multiple women and that's fine.  Personally I like to focus on one special one at a time and if for whatever reason it doesn't work out then fine.  I'll be back again and in the mean time I've had a great vacation.  So my advice is just relax, meet with your lady only, enjoy yourselves and let nature take its course.  

Just another opinion,

Mark

[lswote]

... in response to I read your advice - but ..............., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Oct 8, 2003

I asked my wife to marry me within a week of meeting her, so I am not going to criticize.  Going slow is always better than going fast if you can swing it but going fast doesn't mean a relationship is doomed.  Just think with the big head as much as possible.

Good luck.