Filipinas in Hong Kong

[Carrisse]

... in response to best wives........, posted by Peaches on Jul 19, 2001

You rock!  I agree.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Filipinas in Hong Kong make the best..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 17, 2001

Some of us prefer women who've never worn shoes and we have to teach how to work a telephone while others want women who move with grace in socialite circles. Some like women interested only in staying home and raising children, while others prefer those more interested in pursuing their professional careers. Some like women intersted in reading and discussing "The Bible" while others want their spouses to be able to debate "The origins of Consciousness and the Breakdown of the Bicameral Mind."

The "best" wife for you is one who fits into your lifestyle and personal tastes best. If you like gourmet meals in fancy resturaunts and she'd rather stay at home and snack on rice, if your idea of a vacation is backpacking in the high sierras and hers is shopping on 5th Avenue and staying in a nice hotel, or if you want her to feed the chickens and she wants you to join her at the opera, you're going to have problems.

As my wife & my relationship has matured, we find we enjoy each other for our shared lifestyle. Sure we do things apart - I like saltwater fishing and she has no interest in being on boats on the ocean. I have little interest in browsing through Nordstroms while she thinks it's a great way to spend the afternoon. The bulk of our lives, though - what we spend our money on, what we like to do together, etc, etc, are shared experiences that we both enjoy.

Take a girl from a nipa hut in the bundocks and put her in Manhattan and you'll probably have one confused, homesick girl on your hands who probably won't understand, appreciate or enjoy your lifestyle. Likewise take a girl from Hong Kong used to all the conveniences of a major city, put her on a farm five miles from the nearest enighbor and 30 miles from Hicksville and expect her to feed the chickens and can wax beans, and you'll likely end up with the exact same situation.

Just some random thoughts here after reading lots of differences about what constitutes the "best." Everyone's best is entirely different. For the modern, suburban man used to the conveniences of larger metropolitan areas, what Jean says makes a lot of sense, especially since you'll probably be expecting your foreign wife to eventually be able to take care of a good percentage of the many, many details of modern life.

-- Jeff S.

[Ray]

... in response to There are no BEST wives - only best wife..., posted by Jeff S on Jul 18, 2001

:-)

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to There are no BEST wives - only best wife..., posted by Jeff S on Jul 18, 2001

Amen

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to Re: Filipinas in Hong Kong make the best..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 17, 2001

_ _ _ WOW!  I am so glad I started such a good discussion.  

I rarely post on BBs.  In fact, I only found this board because I was checking to see if Planet-Love had listed my new site CourtshipSecrets.com in their directory. After severl weeks since submission to your directories I still do not find it. "Hint, hint, hint"

Well, I like the real people her and mix of have's and want to haves. Those already in relationships, engagements & marriages seem more numerous than new suitors.  I can read much wisdom from your experiences between your jokes, flirts, and snipes. So, in the past few weeks I have participated more here than anytime in the three years I have been on internet.

Now, let me follow-up on several issues this discussion thread raised.  ONE and most important for the reasons discussed frequently, Filipina as a "group" are the better wives, PERIOD!  I will debate that with the Russians, Latins, and Aliens to my last breath.  Having said that, let me say the obvious, which seems to be missed by the less experienced.  We are human!  We are individuals!  We come in ALL shapes and sizes . . . except "Amazon" size.hehe  No matter where we live, Big City, rural Province, or foreign country, you will find the good, the bad, and the bad-er (no ugly, we too0oo Cute for Ungly ;-)

Making the transition to a new environment (Counrty) depends more on the individual and her personality, character, and resolve, than her exposure to Western culture.  However, all things being equal, having that exposure and accepting it as OK are big steps toward the adjustment process.  Also, helping to raise your siblings at home and caring for a Chiness, Japanese, or whateverese family is a BIG growing experience.  My USA friend Jerry once said; "Jean, you will feel more comfortable walking around downtown New York City than the majority of USA women born & raised."  Do you agree???

So, marry a Filipina.  But make sure she as an individual is the right match for you.  Sure we share many cultural beliefs but our commitment to those beliefs naturaly vary by the individual person.

Oh, you say I promote my website . . . You bet!  But I try to participate in real discussions too.  I do not JUST promote my websites.

Last thing: I do not for a second believe Carrisse cares about being Queen of this board.  We are not competing, we just want everyone to have a clearer undestanding and stronger respect for our heritage and our individuality.

Blessings,

Jean
http://CourtshipSecrets.com

[Patrick]

... in response to Re:  Filipinas in Philippines make BETTE..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 18, 2001

I haven't accepted a new URL submission or banner ad since late December when my business system computer crashed taking hundreds of hours of programming with it (don't ever back up to a second hard disk, it can also be destroyed when a disk immediately below it disintigrates at 10K rpm).

Since then I've been rebuilding everything using dual redundant servers and the programming has gotten pretty complicated with everything required to update two redundent servers.  Also I keep saying next month I'll be done, the date seems to keep slipping.  Maybe by August I'll be back up and running again.  I'll even check email then!

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to Out of service, posted by Patrick on Jul 18, 2001

Thanks Patrick,

I lost everything a fews months back.  Hard drive and zip backup all infected by virus that got past scan.  Big mess. I pray your hard work pays off.  I will leave your banners on my sites while you catch-up.  Don't forget your beauty sleep.  For programers I understand that is 45 minutes per night ;-)  For BiG boss only 30

Blessings,

Jean

[jim in the pis]

... in response to Re: Filipinas in Hong Kong make the best..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 17, 2001

jean,
i feel , and its my opoion that you are trying very hard to promote your web site. be that so, don't try and sugar coat things, many on this board have had failed relionships with filipino's they have written too. i am talking about when the face to face, the everyday meetings take place.
the thing that stands out about the filipino's working in hong kong is that many are older, but they have been in a larger setting, but nothing like living in the us.
it is still cultral shock. i am married to a filipino, she is my world. we have a 2 month old boy, who was at deaths door day after day, but my wife gave me the strenth i needed.
please dont be so bullish on the virtures of a filippino wife.
i am happy with mine, but its not everyone's cup of tea.
the 3 j's

[humabdos]

... in response to Re: jean i think you are trying to promo..., posted by jim in the pis on Jul 17, 2001

Hey Jean aren't you the one who had the site on yahoo?

[Jimbo]

... in response to Re: Filipinas in Hong Kong make the best..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 17, 2001

..but I may be a bit biased - I married one!  We may not be able to prove it but, don't worry, it can't be disproved either )

Jim

[tomtneal]

... in response to Re: Filipinas in Hong Kong make the best..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 17, 2001

Jean
How many times have you been in the USA and for how long
tneal

[Carrisse]

... in response to Re: Filipinas in Hong Kong make the best..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 17, 2001

Because not all Filipinas living and working in HK or other countries end up being the best wives.  Besides, statements like this will only give false hopes and unrealistic views. It is one thing for you to market your site but please don't do it by making statements that you can't and will never be able to back up.

[Ray]

... in response to Jean....please don't make generalization..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 17, 2001

Hey Carrisse, mellow out. I took Jean's post as only her personal opinion ("I truly believe"). She made some good points which are open for debate if you chose to, but please don't get too excited over this kind of post. Save it for the next troll.

Sure, she is "maketing" her Web site, but so have others on here recently (wink, wink!)

Peace,

Ray

[Jimbo]

... in response to Re: generalizations, posted by Ray on Jul 18, 2001

Hi Ray,

Carrisse just want to be a queen on this board. ))

Sally

[Ray]

... in response to Re: Re: generalizations...................., posted by Jimbo on Jul 18, 2001

Hi Sally!

No, I don't think Carrisse wants to be be "Queen of Planet Love" (ROFL!)

I think all of you gals here are princesses though, so please keep posting.

Ray