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[PECUS2]

Continuation

To make a long story short, we " my wife and I" have known each other for 2 years and 5 months we were Married after 1 year, and have been living in south Florida for 1.5 years.
We have gone back to Cali to visit her family twice . and she calls them often. We had some of the normal adjustment problems when she first arrived, however for the last 6 months she has become unrealistic and argumentative in most everything.
But their is one thing that has been the major problem.
She heirs from a mutual friend that I had a girlfriend before her. It is normal to have an ex-girl friend but I told her the truth from the start, I had not had a girlfriend in Cali before her.
This is the truth, however she will not give me any faith, and for the past 6 months I have been telling her the truth.
This has turned into some kind of crusade for her and I will not change my story and lie.
This has intensified to all out war. And now? No emotions from her other than anger.
What to do ?
PECUS2

[markxport]

... in response to Continuation, posted by PECUS2 on Nov 2, 2002

Well, you've probably done this a million time already, but tell her she's the one your with, and BY YOUR CHOICE.  Ex-girlfriends, no matter where they reside are just that, Ex-girlfriends.  Furthermore, the two of you reside in FL, not in Cali, where this fictious X lives.  

Also, maybe you should confront this "mutual" friend and either set the record straight or determine the motives.  If its a misunderstanding, then explain the problems this person is creating for you and your wife.  If this "mutual" friend has some serving motive you'll have to deal with it ASAP.  Hang in there!

Take care,

Mark

[Pete E]

... in response to Continuation, posted by PECUS2 on Nov 2, 2002

Her attitudes need to see a little light.Find a bi lingual counselor.Some Colombianas can be incredibly stuborn and fixed in their opinion.

Pete

[markxport]

... in response to Counseling, posted by Pete E on Nov 2, 2002

Totally agree with the counseling suggestion as well.

Take care,

Mark

[PECUS2]

... in response to Re: Counseling, posted by markxport on Nov 2, 2002

OK,
I will look for a counselor here, and she if they can clear her mind.
And by the way the mythical X is supposed to lives in Cali.
Thank Guy's