... in response to how about this question: do you think ..., posted by LouieB on Oct 17, 2002I think most of them are dating for several obvious reasons:
1 - We're usually picking the attractive ones. Ergo, not only are a lot of men hitting on them in Colombia, but some very attractive men, too.
2 - Many of these foreign relationships crash before the woman gets the visa. In some cases the gringo breaks off the relationship. He may meet someone else in Colombia or the US.
3 - Therefore, the woman is often skeptical of the commitment the man has made with her.
So what's she going to do, turn down a handsome man who wants to take her out and stay at home alone again?
I've been through this twice. Neither time did I try to get possessive of the woman until she arrives in the US. You'll drive yourself crazy wondering what she's doing every night. There's no way to police her without moving to her country. Until she arrives here what you have is a dream. There's nothing wrong with having a dream. But don't try to view it the same way you view dating a woman in your home town.
On a related note:
I've posted this before and other disagreed, but I still believe this applies: When I was in Cali another gringo in the agency had an interview with a cute young girl one day. When the interview finished he came over to talk to me. He was upset because the girl has a boyfriend.
I tried to tell him most of the girls are dating other men, but it's not the same as being married or engaged. He couldn't buy that. He thought the girl should be at home every night waiting for her principe azul to arrive at the agency. What he really had was one of the few honest women that will admit what they are doing. He should've held onto her.
Steve
