_Marriage success results of my Filipina friends

[FilipinaCupid]

Hello Ray,

You ask good question about success of marriages.  Let me say three ways as so far marriages from Personal Searches most successful then marriages from my Introduction website EverLastingLove.com and then with less, but still good, success are marriages from introduction tours.

ALL the marriages from my personal searches over last two years are still fine and I receive the most letters from these couples even though they request the most privacy.  Most live in USA, but I also have couples in UK, South America, Canada, Holland, Australia and New Zealand.

For those where man wrote or called woman from listing on my website during past three years: most were members of my Questionnaire site where the men knew two pages of personal information about girl so he had better idea of quality of match before he wrote or called her - he also knew more to make his conversation of more personal interest to woman setting him apart from other writers.  Also, keep in mind these are very sincere women who have passed background checks.  I receive fewer current letters from these couples but I have not heard of any break-up so far.  One did have a difficult time I know about as man write for my advice ... I guess it worked.

Next is all the letters I receive from readers of my ebook "Filipina Courtship Secrets" who have found love from following information in book.  I have only heard from one break-up of many reported marriages.

Last is from those that met on one or two week tour.  I do not conduct these personally but a very capable couple, he America and she Filipina, who married in Philippines several years ago and moved to his USA home and now moving to live in Philippines.  They do excellent work with tour and though I do hear of more problems from men I know that do this, still I hear of only 3 break-up from dozens of marriages.

So, be careful, take your time, do fiancee visa as you learn a lot about fiancee during that whole process and use your mind as well as your heart.

Blessings on your search for true love,

Jean
http://IOPP.com/jean.htm

[Carrisse]

... in response to _Marriage  success results  of my Filipi..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 4, 2001

How do you go about getting these ladies info? And what process are you using with your background and medical checks?  And how much are you paying these girls to have their info on your site?  Just asking--trying to understand the process behind these so-called lovematch sites.

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to So Jean, let me ask you a question, posted by Carrisse on Jul 4, 2001

Hello Carrisse,

Thanks for your interest.  Year before last, I finally decided to post my personal information with an internet matchmaker site called Heart of Asia.  In fact, you can still find my photo used by them.  It took me 2 years to decide to do this as I thought it a bit weird and potentially dangerous. They give my picture special attention on their mainpage and I received several hundred letters, dozens of marriage proposals, and two stalkers :-(

My sister, Tess, was in college studing computer science and suggested I make my own website with more information about me and be specific in what characteristics I preferred in future husband.  With her help I did this one page site and truly the letters were much better and the men were much more interesting to me.  Some of my friends tried Heart of Asia and other services but received few letters as they lost in crowd of BIG site.

They ask my help and EverlastingLove.com was born.  I try to give more space to each person so they can say more information so men reading can better judge if good match and also I post several pictures of each.  To do this my American friend Teri and her Dad help design a 2 page Questionnaire for women to complete telling much personal info of themselves and also detail of man they seek.  These Questionnaires have now become a members only area for men interested enough to pay a small fee to help support site.

I have never charge any woman to be listed on any of my websites, ever!  Nor do I pay them to list.  The blank Questionnaire forms

(see sample at: http://www.everlastinglove.com/questionnaire1.htm and http://www.everlastinglove.com/questionnaire2.htm OR a completed one at: http://www.everlastinglove.com/courtship/bonus/bonus.htm )

have been passed friend to friend to relative to neighbor and ..... Also, I have invited women to post, like those I meet at talent contests I enter or Tess has participated.  That is one reson I have so many attractive women listed.

The background and medical checks are formal checks done by the Philippine government.  They women pay a fee for this but not to me, only what the department charges, only!  I see evidence of their passing but not document itself. See more details at:  http://www.everlastinglove.com/checks.htm

These are very special women who have shown their interest and sincerity and I give them more exposure on website and somewhat screen who can write them by charging a small fee for their contact information.  ALL of the other women listed, I provide their addresses for free.  Many dozens at any given time.

I do charge for Personal Searches my sister and I conduct which are very detailed.  Read about my search method at:  http://EverlastingLove.com/search.htm

I believe we have tried to help men & women equally in process and that why so far no really bad experience for any of my friends - some disappointment sure especially men failing to come meet woman in person after a reasonable time.  The Personal Searches have been most successful because I spend much time qualifying both man before I accept search request, and woman before I introduce them.

I realize I would make more money like the big list sites if I spent less time on individual, but I believe in heart this is better way for relationship success for everyone.  I almost made some money last year with AllAdvantage program as I had over 1,500 join it for me but big dotcom crash put them out of business just as my income finally match my Hong Kong salary :-(

I hope this gives you better understanding.  I kind of got lost from your question with rambling.  I sorry for that but hope this help some.  Then there is my new eBook "Filipina Courtship Secrets" but that is another story :-) http://CourtshipSecrets.com

Blessings,

Jean
http://EverlastingLove.com/jean.htm

[greg]

... in response to Re: So Jean, let me ask you a question a..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 4, 2001

Do you know anything about annulment of marriage in the Philippines?? My Mahal needs help with this Mess. I was told that R.P. Lawyers are a waste of $$$$$'s, some said to bribe the Catholic church. What would you do in this situation to get your marriage annuled?? Thanks, Mr. Peabody

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to Jean...Can U help???, posted by greg on Jul 5, 2001

Hi Greg,

Annulment is the Philippines way of divorce since the Catholic Church is soo0oo strong here.  I wish I could be more help as I do not know a "good" lawyer either. I see Carl post here sometimes and he more involved in PI legal process as he assist in many women's visa process.

I do hate to admit that "bribes" are a fact of life in PI.

Blessings,

Jean
http://IOPP.com/jean.htm

[Carrisse]

... in response to Re: So Jean, let me ask you a question a..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 4, 2001

So why ask the girls to have all the clearances?  Is this part of your quality control?  And is this business worthwhile aka are you making money?  Is your site well known in the Philippines, in your neighborhood or within your family and friends?  If yes, what do they think about it? If no, why not?

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to more questions..., posted by Carrisse on Jul 4, 2001

Hi Carrisse,

I love your post on "Understanding" women. hehehe

Yes, Quality control is a good way of saying.  That is what background checks for both women and men are about.  In real estate it is location, location, location AND in relationships it is Quality, Quality, Quality!!!!!!!!

It is sad there are soo0oo many scams and misrepresentation on Internet.  In any foreign courtship there is much expense for man.  This is best way I know to help lower his risk of spending money and more important giving his heart only to find woman of his dream not who she say or can not get visa to his country because of undisclosed disease or criminal record.  I also ask the gentlemen to get background check before woman meets him in person.

Unfortunately, money I make from website used for expenses.  I make some money on my eBook sales and on some searches but doing search is more expensive for me than I originally thought as I pay others to help and searches can be very time consuming.  However, doing Personal Search is my favorite activity. When I find good match, I get as excited as girl!!!

Yes, "everyone" knows about website and most help in some way / sometime.  There were misgivings at first but after so many engagements and marriages and much celebration for those finding happiness, everyone very positive about my websites.

Well known in Philippines? I can not say.  Matchmaking is officially illegal in PI, so I not advertise website there except on PI webs where women hangout.  I even place the personal ads in Hong Kong English language newspaper read by many Filipina as ads are legal here.

Blessings,

Jean
http://IOPP.com/jean.htm

[Carrisse]

... in response to Re: more questions... . . . . . .  here ..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 5, 2001

I'm actually glad when you said that you also require men to get their clearances.  I hope they are as conscientous as these girls.  That way you get to weed out the psychos or the Jeffrey Dahmers and Ted Bundys and OJ Simpsons.  These beautiful, intelligent and 'clear' Pinays are your most valuable commodity.  I hope you are doing all you can to protect them first.

Yes, the Philippines banned these kind of sites/business.  It is considered as trafficking our women.  I couldn't blame the PI really.  People here in the States as well as in our own country look down on Pinay MOBs (I'm pretty sure I'll get a lot of flack for this statement).  It is a fact of life.

BTW, I am Pro-Filipina and I am trying to propagate Pinay Pride.  I ask that you do your part in uplifting the image of the Filipina.

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to Thanks for the answer, posted by Carrisse on Jul 5, 2001

Hi Carrisse,

Thank you for your words.  People need to understand each Pinay is an individual and each situation is unique.  We come in ALL personalities, morals, desires, Also ALL shapes & sizes except no Amazon size ;-)

MOB,  and I even use MailorderBride word on site to get higher ranking in search engines, has long time been a misnomer, except for the kidnappers.  Introduction sites, magazines, and tours are just ways to have semi-formal introduction.  It is good in a way that visa process take soo0oo long as this is time of stress and good time to get to know each other and how they react to different issues.

I believe most men surprised how strong and capable we are.  We value education and committment very highly and this help us be successful are many things.  Marriage, parenthood, and even career.  Filipina are very good at business.  What make us different than most Western women is me do not "compete" with our man.  We very supportive of relationship not distructive so this help resolve difficult times in marriage without hurting marriage itself.

From feedback from hundreds of men I feel our image is good and improving everyday!  I hope you agree. Yes, Pinay Pride is a strength. Do you read "Filipina" magazine?

Blessings,

Jean
http://CourtshipSecrets.com

[Ray]

... in response to _Marriage  success results  of my Filipi..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 4, 2001

Thanks Jean!

I think you give good advice and your Web site is very well done. I was recently married and also met my wife through a personal introduction from a family member here in the States, so I agree that personal introductions are an ideal way to meet, if possible.

I saw in your introduction that you used to work as a sales girl in a department store. I was curious if the sales girls get a lot of customers asking for a date. Do many of the girls meet future mates this way and do you think this is a good way for foreign visitors to meet ladies? Thanks again for the info.

Ray

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to Re: Marriage  success, posted by Ray on Jul 4, 2001

Ray, you make good point.  But, like so many things it not as simple as it seem.  In Philippines there is much "peer pressure" or "face" or "personal honor."

So, if you as Western man approach a Filipina salesgirl it very important that the other employees or nearby Filipinos not see that you talk personal.  Talk about merchandise, and when you can speak without being overheard, ask her if she would enjoy getting to know you over meal or at public place like park or public building nearby.  Discreetly give her your card with local contact number on back and ask her to call to discuss details.

Many will say yes in private conversation while same woman will say "no thanks" if in hearing range of others.

No pick-up lines, just polite and descreet and brief.  Of course, some girls very open but best for marriage usually more descreet, OK?

Blessings on your search for true love,

Jean
http://IOPP.com/jean.htm

[Bear]

... in response to _Marriage  success results  of my Filipi..., posted by FilipinaCupid on Jul 4, 2001

I have met probably over a hundred Asian-American couples in my life now.  Until I started posting on PL I had only know one that ended in divorce and one that had difficulties.  I think that when Asians and Americans get together they treat each other in the ways the other expected and it just seems to work.

Of course that doesn't mean you don't have to do your home work amnd make a good choice.  But i do see much better success rates with Asians than American women.

Congradulations in helping so many people be happy, you blessings in heaven will be abundant.

Bear

[FilipinaCupid]

... in response to I think ur right...., posted by Bear on Jul 4, 2001

"Thank  You"  Bear,  

You are very sweet to say that.

Jean