A little uncomfortable...

[Zebson]

... in response to See?, posted by katy on Jun 25, 2001

...in the middle of a K1 process and you have spent 2 years communicating,  made 3 trips and spent thousands and thousands, to try to get it right...I feel I would be interested if my fiance went out in the final stages of my getting her over here. Many men may have reacted much more intense and possibly extremely pissed off and jealous thinking more was going on. You obviously haven't heard or been exposed to many of the other stories of some guys have been through here with some women on K1's. Maybe you need to hear from Hum....And yes, If I wanted to know about some of my partners past relationships, who the hell are you to tell me it's not my business? I suppose you have perfect trust in going out and going to bed with an AID's infected partner..simply because he's uncomfortable with telling you about it..besides who are you to intrude on his privacy an who he went out with or to be with before you...Get real!!!

Zeb

[Dave H2O]

... in response to See what? If you were, posted by Zebson on Jun 25, 2001

Zeb,

I think you really kept your cool!

After going through lies and infidelity with a former fiancee and a ex-wife, I have zero tolerance. Which may not be appropriate in your fiancee's case. I have already explained to my fiancee, that I have a one strike, your out rule. Having a similar experience, she also has the same rule. Am I being fair? In some cases...Hell No! But it's my frigging life and I ain't going back to Hell. It almost killed me crawling out the last time. I only ask for something that is very simple. Honesty and Fidelity. In turn, I give the same. If a woman can't do that, then she doesn't love, respect, or deserve me.

Good Luck!

Dave H.

[shadow]

... in response to See what? If you were, posted by Zebson on Jun 25, 2001

trusts blindly is probably 10 times more likely to get burned than those that seek the simple truth. I believe you have every right to know what is going on, and chances are you still don't know the whole truth.  Larry.

[katy]

... in response to The person that..., posted by shadow on Jun 25, 2001

I agree that he still doesn't know the truth.

Asking a deceitful person for an explaination will only get you a lie. It may make an honest person who craves privacy defensive.

Generally, I try to avoid thing that will get my back up (I'm insecure and jealous, sometimes) because I just know better than to "go there."

On the other hand, I've DEFINITELY learned some very important things while snooping! Once, it was a phone bill that showed me I was being lied to. I must say, however, that there were already problems and I was already suspicious. I knew I wasn't getting the love we should expect - I knew something was up.

So, I guess there's a fine line between being careful and being paranoid. People who have been badly burnt are going to be more paranoid. I guess it's not too bad, as long as it's not one of those situations where you simply won't be consoled or satisfied with any answer. "Did you talk to men when you were at the mall?" "No." "Are you sure? Are you lying to me?" These sorts of questions are pointless, and are a symptom of something else.

I'd advise someone who is experiencing doubts to try and decide if they were being paranoid out of insecurity, or if there were problems that made their sixth sense go off and make them suspicious. If suspicious, don't just ask - snoop!

[humabdos]

... in response to See what? If you were, posted by Zebson on Jun 25, 2001

Katy what is your reson for posting on this board? Are you looking for a Filiopino boy friend or are you hoping we will go back over the fence and seek a "white" women again?

How about go over to the mexacan board and bother them?  Humabdos

[SteveB]

... in response to Re: See what? If you were Go get'm Zeb!, posted by humabdos on Jun 25, 2001

I agree,,,why are you here,,most of us are good old fashion men who seek asian partner's.  So If you pleaseanswer the question?  Why are you here,,Hum,,,,use the force against the dark side! LOL!

[Zebson]

... in response to Re: See what? If you were Go get'm Zeb!, posted by humabdos on Jun 25, 2001

I tried to keep my cool too, but that last post, notibly "See", rubbed my bottle wrong and out came Maximus. ( And my spelling went to hell in the process. The "be" in the last sentence was supposed to have a "d" at the end, da*n I can't spell when I am miffed )

Zeb

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: See what? If you were Go get'm Zeb!, posted by humabdos on Jun 25, 2001

...the devil's got ahold of you agin'.

Repent, and be sweet.

Stephen

[SteveB]

... in response to A little uncomfortable..., posted by Zebson on Jun 25, 2001

Zeb,  Email me at crbike@pcis.net,,,i have a few questions to ask of you???  I think I know of your mahal...Steveb

[humabdos]

... in response to A little uncomfortable..., posted by Zebson on Jun 25, 2001

Zeb its hard to know what to think about this. maybe some of the filipinas on the board can help with there ideas.  humabdos

[William]

... in response to A little uncomfortable..., posted by Zebson on Jun 25, 2001

If you are really suspicious, you could read her 'sent' e-mails, unless she has a seperate account that you can't get to. I, for one, don't ordinarilly advise snooping, but if the misses is up to something, it is a lot better not being blind sided.

[SteveG]

... in response to A little uncomfortable..., posted by Zebson on Jun 25, 2001

Zebson,
 I sure can't tell you what your wife and her friend are up to but I would GUESS it has something to do with filing for a VISA for the friend???  I don't think I would confront her on it quite yet....at least until I had some more positive evidence of exactly what was going on anyway.  But then maybe I would - I'm not much at being quite when I think I'm being taken advantage of.   She shouldn't be sneaking behind your back and promising things that involve you now that you two are together.   Might be best to just point blank tell her what is on your mind and your concerns and see what she says.   The trick is doing it without arguing.  

                                      Good Luck,

                                       SteveG

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: A little uncomfortable..., posted by SteveG on Jun 25, 2001

STEVE G:

The trick is doing it without arguing.

STEPHEN:

And that's gonna be quite a trick.  Right up there with anything David Copperfield could produce.  I'm anxious to see this.

Go ahead and give us some step-by-step instructions.  (LOL)

[SteveG]

... in response to Re: Re: A little uncomfortable..., posted by Stephen on Jun 25, 2001

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