update on darned if I do, dam*ed if I don't

[Larry in dallas]

As some of you probably remember, my best friend has a wife from Cali, colombia of 3 months that has consistently lied to him and has repeatedly lied to my wife that her mother and grandmother are both dying, but my wife's mother has visited her family in Cali and no one is ill or hospitalized.
  Anyways, she went to cali and stayed and delayed her return back to Texas several weeks and kept telling him that her mother and grandmother were in intensive condition and that she could not come back.  
   Well after several weeks she did return to Texas to get back her things and now she has informed him that her mother has returned to the hospital and is dying again and she is scheduled to leave February 18th.
   Well, she has told my wife that she does not love him and she only returned to get her personal effects.  Well, at church today I started to tell him that things were not right and he got mad and questioned my judgement and would not listen to my objections so I have decided to send him a e-mail because he will not listen in person to me and let him reap the consequences if he ignores me.

                                       larry the coward in dallas

[CaliBound]

... in response to update on darned if I do, dam*ed if I do..., posted by Larry in dallas on Feb 9, 2002

Larry:

I understand your situation and it's not an easy one to be in. 10 years ago, I found my child godfather's wife having an extremely romantic dinner with another man in a very popular restaurant in New York City.  She asked me not to tell my friend, but I did not hesitated in doing what I thought was the right thing to do -- letting him know about his unfaithful wife.

The next day, I invited my friend to lunch and told him what I had seen.  He did not want hear it and stormed out of the place.  

The next day I got a call from him telling me that he did not understand why I was trying to break up his marriage and to forget being his friend.  Somehow his wife convinced him that I made the story up and that I was always trying to hit on her -- and that was the biggest lie she ever told him because I don't date AW.

At that time, I was dating this tall, dark skinned, sexy Calena with the voice of an Angel. Every time she said my name, it sounded like music to my ears. And that's why I am going to Cali real soon -- to find what I have been missing for the last 10 years.

Good Luck with your situation, Larry.

Frank

[H2Oh]

... in response to update on darned if I do, dam*ed if I do..., posted by Larry in dallas on Feb 9, 2002

There is always two sides to every story. Maybe your friend doesn't deserve his wife. It seems that everytime he is told something the he doesn't want to hear, he gets mad. This guy would be impossible to live with. Sounds like the best for both.

H2-Oh

[El Diablo]

... in response to Re: update on darned if I do, dam*ed if ..., posted by H2Oh on Feb 10, 2002

I'm with you H2-OH, the best resolution to this marriage might be a divorce or anullment and a flight for her back to Cali.  Time only makes the inevitible more difficult it seems to me.  At this point, there are no children and so no permanent damage will be done.

El Diablo

[DFWGuy]

... in response to update on darned if I do, dam*ed if I do..., posted by Larry in dallas on Feb 9, 2002

Better a life coward than a dead chicken? LOL.

Larry you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink.  It is no surprise that he got angry as he will get angry when you send him the email. Once you tell him then he can't say he didn't know.

In reality he knows now, there really isn't much doubt that he could not know. He just doesn't want to admit it because that has to many implications for him to deal with right now.

You are a good friend and to be frank a lot better than he deserves. Just know you have done the right thing for him and he is a grown man and can accept the consequences of his own actions.

Friend of Larry the Coward In Dallas

[MarkInTx]

... in response to update on darned if I do, dam*ed if I do..., posted by Larry in dallas on Feb 9, 2002

You're not a coward.

You're doing the right thing.

You tried to do it eye-to-eye, and he kept closing his. You could just shrug it off now, and say forget it.

Instead, you are going the second mile in the name of friendship.

That ain't cowardly.

Not by a longshot!