mexicali report

[cedro]

I have recently completed a trip to Mexicali Mx and San Luis Rio Colorodo Mx.  These are 2 mexican border towns that are next to Calif. and Arizona.  For a long time I have been thinking that there were many single women to meet in these border towns of mexico, that wanted to meet americans.  Well here is my story... I have a friend in Southern California who was going to set me up with some women in Mexicali, Mexico.  This past week was the week I went to go over there and meet these ladies.  I drove from Dallas, Tx to Southern Calif. because I wanted to have my car with me and have flexibilty.  This was to be my week long vacation
My friend Had 3 women for me to meet plus I had a few more additional women I wanted to meet from the internet (amigos.com)... giving me a total of 9 women to meet.   My spanish speaking abilities are pretty good, so I had good communication with the women I met.

On my first day there, I met the first woman... I was not able to see her pic b4 meeting her and now I know why.  She was HUGE, with a big head.  However she did tell me that she would not be interested in a long distance relationship and always wants to be near her family.  
I met the next girl on my list, she was very attractive, 28 yrs. old and came from a wealthy family.  I was starting to become interested in her, but then she explained to me that she always wanted to be near her family and could never leave her family.  Then she asked me if I would move close to where she lived.  Basically I saw no future with her.  
I went to go meet the next chica on my list... 24 years old, very attractive, and we corresponded for a long time.  But when I met with her, she basically explained to me she was not interested in a long distance relationship and definately always wanted to be near her family.  
So after meeting her I was starting to see a trend here with all the border girls.  I met a few more and again noone wanted to date me because I lived in Dallas.  Its to far for them.    The way I see it now is unless you live near the border of Mexico, you are wasting your time with these women.  Overall I met quite a few women and none were interested in dating a gringo that lived far away.

This was not what I was expecting from my trip.  But I did learn alot.  I wont return to mexico at this point.  I will now focus on Colombia.  I was hoping that I would find somebody close by, but its just not going to happen.   What I also found to be interesting from my trip, is that these mexican women were telling me Im attractive and asking why havent I found anybody yet?

I will awnser any questions about this border town visit.  At this point Im hoping to go to Cali Colombia by the end of Feb 2002.  I now believe I will have better chances there of finding somebody.  

[pastilla100]

... in response to mexicali report, posted by cedro on Dec 30, 2002

I live in Southern California, and I am currently exploring Tijuana.  See my last post.  Tijuana is a city of 2 million with a thriving middle class, a lot of nice places and new construction projects.  They even recently built an arch downtown (not as big as the one in St. Louis).  I also have found that the middle class Mexican women like their county and don't want to leave.  However, since I live so close it makes it more feasible to persuade them.

[A1A]

... in response to mexicali report, posted by cedro on Dec 30, 2002

Hello Cedro,  I hear you.  I too had a similar experience with mexican women.  She had no interest at all in moving to the USA.  If they have a good job, close family, they are not leaving Mexico.  Of course they would love for you to move there.  I've also made several contacts thru amigos.com, most are in Colombia, one is in Mexico City.  I believe my next trip is also to Colombia, two of the women are in Bogata, I'll see how things go.
Good Luck,
A1A

[pack]

... in response to mexicali report, posted by cedro on Dec 30, 2002

i have heard stories similar to yours about the border towns. what did you think of mexicali? i used to go there on occasion for sales work. i dont like the town at all, and always got a cold reception there.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: mexicali report, posted by pack on Dec 30, 2002

The secret of border towns has always been to know some locals. The problem lies with the tradition of many gringos heading down to for sex purposes. Even in the movies, all that's ever shown about border towns is whore houses. Those not out for sex are often obnoxious binge drinkers down to party (usually hurling in the gutters by 11:00) Most Border towns have a tourist part and a local businessman part. I know Juarez and Tijuana both do. Knowing locals, particularly businessmen, politicions, lawyers, etc, you'll get introduced to the nicer places with nicer people. I've spent considerable time in Juarez and Tijuana, and a bit in Mexicali, and always been treated extremely cordially and had tons of fun, because of the interface with the local business connections. You may ask the people who you're dealing with to help show you around to the "right" places. Most Mexicans will automatically mean you want to go to the tourist traps and you have to insist, you want to go where the Mexicans go - not the gringos. Just my experiences.
-- Jeff S.

[pack]

... in response to Re: Re: mexicali report, posted by Jeff S on Dec 30, 2002

i to have been to tj ,nogales,san luis and numerous other border communities...but theres something about mexicali that i just dont like..even the american side of calixico sucks...i'll take colombia anyday over that.

[cedro]

... in response to Re: mexicali report, posted by pack on Dec 30, 2002

I usually dont feel safe in the border towns (on the mexican side) due to the rateros and shakedowns by police.  Like you I received a cold reception there.   I was expecting it to be much better.  I really dont want to spend more money to expolore the interior of Mexico and come up empty handed again.

[pack]

... in response to Re: Re: mexicali report, posted by cedro on Dec 30, 2002

i saw alot of shady looking characters in mexicali. also there are alot of communists  there, i saw signs of the cycle and hammer everywhere. didnt like it! didnt feel safe.

[JimSimon]

... in response to mexicali report, posted by cedro on Dec 30, 2002

I think you will find than most Colombian women also want to be close to their families and, from my experience, this is the number one obstacle for most relationships.

My wife would like to return to Colombia for two weeks every Xmas and for two months every summer.  I can't afford this for her and two children so this doesn't happen but she would like it to.

In general latino families are lots closer than we are in the US. Children live at home til married (and sometimes after), and seldom move to another city.  Even neighbors become close friends which doesn't happen here.

Good luck,

Jim