Trip report 5

[Wayne]

Just wanted to wish everybody a happy new year.

The process of meeting multiple ladies in one day on one of these trips is an interesting subject.

When I arrived, the agency wanted to schedule 4-6 dates per day with only 1-2 hours in between.  I found this pace of meetings very stressful and left me with an unpleasant feeling at the end of the day.  Some of my dates even showed up early, and I had two girls in the same room there just to meet me.  Some guys think this is like a dream come true, but I thought that scenario was a nightmare.  I just didn't like it at all.  At one point I was on a date with a girl that I really liked alot, and another one of my dates showed up over an hour early.   That day I had an afternoon date and an evening date.  I actually really liked both girls quite a bit, and transitioning from one girl on one date, to another girl on another date was completely weird.  As I've said before, it was important that all the girls I met, didn't feel like it was a job interview.  I wanted it to be fun for both of us.  Some guys feel like we do all the selecting but it really goes both ways.  They have as much choice as we do.  

Meeting so many girls in the beginning felt really wrong for me, but in the end, it worked.  The girl that is right for me was about the 20th girl I dated.  If I had only dated 1-2 girls a day or quit too soon, I would have never met that special girl.  So the process is a little strange and hard to get used to, but it works.  I did learn to not make a dinner date, or a long date until the second date.  It's really crazy how quickly you know if you have chemistry with a girl or not, and going on a long date with someone that you have no chemistry with is a waste of time.  I went on a couple of these before I learned this lesson.  So the best method for me was to sit down with them in the Agency for a while, to try to decide if it was worth a second date.  After about a week I had the girls narrowed down to about three that I really liked.  Staying for only a week really limits your options.  It usually takes a week to narrow the # down, and then if you have to leave, you really haven't accomplished much.  I think it is important to really get to know a girl BEFORE you have to leave, because from what I have heard, things really slide downhill once you are back in the states if you haven't gotten to know her really well.

I am going back to Cali next week to pick up where I left off....

[FenixRises]

... in response to Trip  report 5, posted by Wayne on Dec 31, 2002

Hi Wayne,
I agree with you. On my first trip I arrived about 9pm @ Luz's house. She immediatly started to schedule meetings for the next day. On Friday morning my head was in a bit of whorl having been up for most of the preceeding 2 days. Luz set up 9 meetings for my first day. All the women showed up and on time. Friday night a large group from Luz's went out to a bar/dance club. We were there till about 1:30am. By Saturday morning I was running in low gear. Since my entire Friday was busy I didn't set up anything for Saturday. One advantage of staying at the agency was the fact that on the weekends many women stop by to see who is there, so I wound up meeting quite a few women who were there without making appointments with them. All told I meet about 20 different women personally in the first 5 days. Fortunatly I also had the last 4 days to spent with "the one". I think if possible it is best to arrive on Friday and stay over 2 weekends, then return Monday. That is what I did on my second trip. My original plan was to return in Nov., however I soon realized that I didn't want to wait that long and choose to return in the middle of Sept. Course you all know what happened then! So I didn't make it back until Oct.
Anyway it's great to hear of another success story: Congratulations!
I will also be in Cali next week, getting married!
Fred

[hilton]

... in response to Re: Trip  report 5, posted by FenixRises on Dec 31, 2002

Fred,

Often all most people need is the size of a watermelon seed to succeed at anything in life.

I was reading a statistic about foriegn wives entering our country.  And, to my surprise, General Colin Powell and President George Bush both admonished that this was a good deed to our country for the 'worlds biggest melting pot' to accept those that want to enter our country under legal terms.  Hmmm...I think they know what most american men, and most importantly, what most american women don't know!

In any case, did you know that less than .2 percent of our male nation will ever seek a wife outside of the united states, according to certain trends, for the next 25 years!!

This means that 99.8% of the male population will not know what a 'good' women really is until they go through some 'ultimate' life changing experiences with american women; which by the way shouldn't be that hard to figure out since women divorce men twice as fast as men divorce women.

But, at any rate, 'we', the people on this board, for the most part are part of the .2% of the total male population that will be experiencing what others 'will not and don't' understand.  We will have the cream of the crop while the majority of the men, in the united states, as well as other countries, will be wishing that they would have never married or gotten engaged to their present fiance(due to unknown pregnacy...lust...love without full knowledge of women...need to make a fast move with a women that has no moral ground to hold her own...ect...ect...)

I'm glad I'm 30 years old and just realizing this because, for the most part, I have gone through enough life experiences to deserve 'only the best'.  And, to me, only the best will do.  And, the best, isn't happening in America.  It's happening in Colombia.

And, ohhh brotha, you are one among many of the .2% that are proving yourself righteous among the women of Cali...and because of this, you are receiving the best that can possibly be given to you.

Peace,

Hilton

[Wayne]

... in response to Congratulations Fred....here's why.., posted by hilton on Dec 31, 2002

Hilton,

Have you been down to Cali yet?

Your posts are fun to read.  I can't wait to read them after you actually go down there!

What a build up you are creating for yourself.

Yea, it's as good as everybody says.  One of the few things in life...

Wayne

[hilton]

... in response to Re: Congratulations Fred....here's why.., posted by Wayne on Jan 1, 2002

Bro Wayne,

No, I have not been to Cali; YET!  But, within a couple of months I will be down there to stay for 3 months or so.

I plan on getting into a Spanish immersion program.

I have plans on corresponding with the school that is sponsoring a spanish immersion program in Cali.

I will see if I can either stay with a hosting family or in some kind of dormitory.  I'll just have to see what happens.

But, either way, I'll be in Cali.

And, man oh man, the experience is going to be out of this world.  

Peace,

Hilton

[Cali vet]

... in response to Congratulations Fred....here's why.., posted by hilton on Dec 31, 2002

Cool! But which part of that is smaller than a watermelon seed? Also I think that prognosticating the trend of American/foreign marriages for the next twenty five years is like telling me which days it's going to rain this comming March. However there's no question the internet has made/will make lots of overtime for the Imigration and Naturalization people.

[hilton]

... in response to Re: Congratulations Fred....here's why.., posted by Cali vet on Dec 31, 2002

Cali,

Yeah bro, the internet is changing alot of things; everything from multiple race categories that will have to be inducted into all employee paper work to full blown governmental agencies.

The internet is changing the lifestyle, how we shop, date, and marry.

The stats that I read were from government bureau agencies, newspapers such as USATODAY, Washington Post, Newsweek, Times Magazine, among others that I get monthly.  I look at stats from the point of view of a fancy way of telling lies; to a certain degree.

In any case, the fact of the matter is that over 98% of the american male population will never know what it will ever be like to find a 'good woman'.

And, this is where that 'watermelon size' faith seed comes into play. It takes faith to believe that something special is waiting for you in a land where your spoken language isn't spoken, where your way of thinking isn't thought,  and the way you are treated by women that want a 'good' man and where being a 'nice' guy comes first and foremost; unlike the american women counterpart.

Like Nike says, "Just do it!".  And, this is what I plan on doing but in a strategic way.

Peace,

Hilton

[hilton]

... in response to Congratulations Fred....here's why.., posted by hilton on Dec 31, 2002

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[Cali vet]

... in response to Trip  report 5, posted by Wayne on Dec 31, 2002

I agree with you on all counts. I hate those head on collisions. Although they all know how the system works it's still nice for them to be able to think you are there for them at least for a while. You didn't mention this happening to you but the reason the agencies like to shedule so many in a day is that they know there's a chance you'll get stood up by one or more. Some agencies control this problem better than others but I have been stood up by as many as three in a row and the same has happened to many other guys I've met. This can leave you with a completely wasted day sitting around on your duff at an agency when you could at least be enjoying a visit to the zoo on your own. Fortunately it doesn't happen often but it makes for some pretty angry clients when it does and the agencies rightly want to avoid that.

[pack]

... in response to Trip  report 5, posted by Wayne on Dec 31, 2002

going back next week....already? !

[Wayne]

... in response to Re: Trip  report 5, posted by pack on Dec 31, 2002

Already? Already?

I can hardly wait till next Friday.

I have no idea how you guys do these long distance, long term relationships with these girls.

2 weeks is killing me....

[pack]

... in response to Re: Re: Trip  report 5, posted by Wayne on Dec 31, 2002

well its called money,time and screwed up airports.