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HappyIdiot
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« Reply #15 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to QUESTIONS?, posted by pack on Aug 21, 2001

On your profile it lists you as 22.  Is that right or is it a misprint?
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pack
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« Reply #16 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Oh, one more thing..., posted by HappyIdiot on Aug 21, 2001

must be a misprint, im 53, i look about 37, right now i feel 73.
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HappyIdiot
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« Reply #17 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to QUESTIONS?, posted by pack on Aug 21, 2001

Hi pack,

It sounds like you've got a lot on your mind since your return.

My first comment is off topic, so I will keep it short.  A couple years ago  I was diagnosed with a heart problem.  At the time it was very scarey and combined with a questionable cardiogist, I was very concerned, to say the least.  My best wishes to you on this heath issue and I would really urge you to get a doctor that you can talk with and have explain issues and options.  This is not the kind of thing where you want to have a doctor that seems "too busy" to answer all of your questions to your satisfaction.  

One of the things that I have wondered since you told your story is if "L" has some reason to be on again and off again with you.  You seem to have known her for a significant period of time, and yet you did not go down there to see her, and yet you did many of the things that a person would do if you were committed to her.  To compound things, it sounds like she may be having trouble with her finances for whatever reason.  It seems like there is some implication that she may be seeing other people, which doesn't seem like such a crime since you two broke up months ago and also you went down there for the express purpose of seeing others.  She may or may not be a good person, and I'd suggest you try to collect your thoughts and decide a few things.  Here's the stuff I'd ask myself.  Is this person a friend?  Has enough damage been done that our relationship is not repairable?  Can we both forgive the past and let it go?  If you have doubts about any of these (I think) you should really talk with her to clear them up.  If you can't talk with her, I'd really take a hard look at how you can have any sort of sustainable relationship with her.  Also, this doesn't sound like you, but check with yourself and make sure your motives for keeping going with "L" are not to keep her from moving on.  I can understand it hurts to let go, and it also hurts to see someone move on.  This might be a way you can help her future if you don't think you two will have something that can last.

As far as "A" is concerned, you'll have time to correspond with her, and get to know her.  Hopefully the agency that you stayed at will keep an eye open for you for other good matches.  If it is realistic, maybe you can send him a small gift while you are still fresh in his mind to grease the wheels on this.

Take care, and I wish you success.  I hope things don't seem too overwhelming to you.
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pack
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« Reply #18 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Some comments, posted by HappyIdiot on Aug 21, 2001

three doctors have looked at me so far and from them i have recieved all kinds of maybes. my regular doctor called me just today he has scheduled me to chek in at a heart center and to be seen by a specialist.

you have alot of good questions and im not sure if i can answer them right now. i find myself questioning why i even went down there at this particular time.i have alot to think about and some decisions to make.
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HappyIdiot
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« Reply #19 on: August 22, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Some comments, posted by pack on Aug 21, 2001

n/t
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pack
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« Reply #20 on: August 22, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Good luck with the Doc's, a lot of the s..., posted by HappyIdiot on Aug 22, 2001

thanks happy, you are right i think about it all the time.
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cdrab
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« Reply #21 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to QUESTIONS?, posted by pack on Aug 21, 2001

Pack
I enjoyed the story very much.It isn't very often that someone will share there storys on such a personal level, Thanks. I think we learn from our mistakes and all you have to do is reread your posts from a critical perspective and you can see where the problems are.
I hope this hasn't discouraged you in your hunt for the right one. I just can't believe that L could use you like that.It's amazing what a beautiful Latina can do to you.
Wish you the best in the future.
Clint
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pack
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« Reply #22 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: QUESTIONS?, posted by cdrab on Aug 21, 2001

thanks clint. live and learn.
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El Diablo
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« Reply #23 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to QUESTIONS?, posted by pack on Aug 21, 2001

Hey Pack here are some things you might consider the next time you go to Cali:

1. Stay at one agency like Ricardo's or consider renting an apartment.  All that switching from agency to agency would have caused me some major anxiety and frustration.  I like having my own place to come home to and escape the agency craziness.  Also I feel much more comfortable having friends come by at my own place.  If you get an apartment you can probably work some kind of short term deal with the agency owner also.

2.  I think you said you were in your 50's.  Leave the 20 year old crowd of women behind and stick to the 30's.  Pete's an example of someone in his 50's and his wife is 35 I believe.  It seems to be working really well for both of them.

3.  Don't waste a lot of time on women who can't seem to find the time to see you. If she's interested, she'll find the time in her shedule.  

4.  Pay close attention to a woman's character.  Does she do what she says and do her morals match your own.  Is her family honorable or are they riddled with problems.

5.  Avoid L and her family, friends, or whatever at all costs.  Do not write her, call her, or even mention her name. (-:  I know you like her child but sometimes you have to just move on if only to save yourself. I can see you stopping off at her place to give her child a gift and then getting sucked into her lure all over again.

6.  As you did this last time, hook up with some other gringos of like mind while you are down there.  For me, half the fun of Cali is getting together with the gringos down in Cali.   A couple of non-romantic Calena friends is great too.

Anyway, these are a few thoughts that a had.

El Diablo
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A1A
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« Reply #24 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to The next time...., posted by El Diablo on Aug 21, 2001

Pack, I agree with El Diablo on the age issue.  You never mentioned why ya'll broke up earlier, was age an issue?  I just got back a week ago from Cancun where I had met an attractive 32 yr old single mom.  I had hoped to move things along from friendship to a romance.  She declined, when I asked why, age was number one (I'm 47), and she had no desire to move to the USA, for all I know, I wasn't her type either.  Evidently, I misread friendliness as interest, but I had to go for it.  I believe that you are seriously misreading "L" also.  Time for both of us to move on.  Maybe I'll see you in Cali this fall.  Take care of your health first.
A1A
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pack
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« Reply #25 on: August 22, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: The next time...., posted by A1A on Aug 21, 2001

i really dont think age was afactor. we have been seeing each other for almost four years and it was never a issue.i think the problem is she wants to be married NOW, ahe wants a home NOW, she wants out of colombia NOW, and she decided i was the one. i also thought she was the one for me. the reason it never materialized was because everytime we would get ready to move on a date and time a little sometimes big red flag would pop up and id get gun shy. this inturn would anger her and she'd call off our relationship. a few months would pass and we'd be back together again giving it another try...this went on and on for close to four years and before i knew it ...its happened again.
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Bueller
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« Reply #26 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to The next time...., posted by El Diablo on Aug 21, 2001

El Diablo said:

"3. Don't waste a lot of time on women who can't seem to find the time to see you. If she's interested, she'll find the time in her shedule."

  The only thing I can add to the above is, "don't waste ANY time..."
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pack
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« Reply #27 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to The next time...., posted by El Diablo on Aug 21, 2001

hmmmmm..good advice El Diablo..noted and recorded! thanks!
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El Diablo
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« Reply #28 on: August 21, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: The next time...., posted by pack on Aug 21, 2001


Hey Pack,

As a Cali regular for the past couple of years and currently not engaged, I'm not trying to set myself up as some glowing example of what to do.  Far from it, I've messed up a bunch of times but unlike you, I kept my stories more private than public. (-:  Most of what I learned in these adventures came from my mistakes and failures rather than anything I knew on my own.  But having said that, every person will approach this adventure differently.  There isn't one way or even two, there are many and it's a fool who thinks his way is the only way.

Anyway I thought I may have come off as preachy in my last post and I just wanted to set the record straight.

eL dIABLO
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pack
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« Reply #29 on: August 22, 2001, 04:00:00 AM »
... in response to The next time...., posted by El Diablo on Aug 21, 2001

preachy? no not at all...wasnt taken that way. no problema!
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