What is it about "tampo"?

[cc]

What is this thing about "tampo"? To me, it seems a totally immature way of dealing with marital problems, completely counterproductive to a successful relationship. I am not married to a Filipina, never was, but I know it would drive me completely nuts! Can any of the Filipinas here explain, exactly why you are doing this - especially if you are older than lets say 12 years??? And also, in case (God forbid!) I ever find myself in that situation: how do I "break" the tampo? Go into a "counter-tampo" mode myself, or what?

[Jimbo]

... in response to What is it about "tampo"?, posted by cc on Apr 13, 2001

Tampo means---- for example, you make promises and you never keep your word, then she will feel bad and she started feel tampo.  We just don't get tampo without any reason.  We only get tampo "if" we feel bad, hurt and disappointed to the person.

So you guys don't feel so bad when your wife or fiance filipina get tampo. All you have to do is "Lambingin" mo lang siya. :-)) Means-- just being nice and sweet to her then afterward the tampo will be gone and she will be okay.

Sally

[rgg]

... in response to What is it about "tampo"?, posted by cc on Apr 13, 2001

For us Pinoys, "tampo" or silent treatment can easily be handled by "lambing" or giving her special attention and care as May 10 suggested. But I find "sumpong" or bad moods very difficult to handle.  Doesn't last long but it's advisable to get out of her sight during her "sumpong" than to confront her.  ;-/      rgg

[Dave H]

... in response to What is it about "tampo"?, posted by cc on Apr 13, 2001

cc,

I am trying to perfect my technique for dealing with the Filipina tampo. May and my future sister-in-law have given me good advice. This is my plan for small to moderate tampos. Buy her favorite flowers and chocolates. Then get down on my knees and beg for forgiveness for being so thoughtless. I am still working on the fake tears. ;o)) Don't worry about what you did. It was probably just a misunderstanding and you will never know.

Latinas sulk in their own special way. They usually fake a grave illness...say a heart attack. The woman fakes unconsciousness. The husband panics and calls 911. Rescue comes out and sees that it is an Academy Award performance. Ammonia inhalants are used to bring the woman "back to life." The woman jumps up. The husband believes he has witnessed a miracle and begs for forgiveness. They kiss and make up. We called them "tizzies." CT's (Cuban Tizzies), NT's (Nicaraguan Tizzies), PRT's...

Dave H.

[may10]

... in response to tampos and tizzies, posted by Dave H on Apr 13, 2001

That was probably the best (ever yet) VIVID description of a LATIN tampo....lol....

Dave,  I think in my post sometime last month about tampo...it really shouldn't even cost you a thing....so, no chocolates or flowers needed.  *s*

Just lambing will do......remember what i wrote?  

[outwest]

... in response to Re: tampos and tizzies, posted by may10 on Apr 13, 2001

?

[may10]

... in response to what is lambing, posted by outwest on Apr 14, 2001

It's being extra sweet .....like hugging her....cuddling ...
and just holding each other close.....AND ...let's not forget saying those words.......*s* .... yes, the three MOST important words  

[outwest]

... in response to Re: what is lambing, posted by may10 on Apr 14, 2001

Still too early in the game for me to do that, since
we only talked once so far.
   Is the lambing only something we guys are supposed to
do....) or does it go both ways

[may10]

... in response to Oh ok, posted by outwest on Apr 14, 2001

I think it definitely MUST be both doing the lambing.

*S*......I think I got it.....I may be wrong in this but, I think it can be similar to cajoling  (?)....did I get the word right?....lol....hhhmmm...but, I think it takes on a different form altogether for us, filipinos.

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: tampos and tizzies, posted by may10 on Apr 13, 2001

Hi May,

Right! I guess I will save the flowers and chocolates for a severe tampo.

Thankfully, I am told that my fiancee doesn't tampo. Quite the opposite. )) She likes to deal with problems right away and resolve them. From what I have seen, this appears to be true of her. I am still on guard for the occasional tampo though.

Dave H.

[Jimbo]

... in response to Tampoless Filipina, posted by Dave H on Apr 13, 2001

Dave, we filipina are sensitive that is why we easily get tampo or upset.

You shouldn't take so long to send your flower and chocolate to May or else she will get tampo from you and she doesn't want them anymore.;o)).

Sally

[Jimbo]

... in response to Re: Tampoless Filipina        ( SALLY), posted by Jimbo on Apr 14, 2001

Dave, don't worry I would not tell to your fiancee. He! He!

Sally

[may10]

... in response to Opps!!          SALLY, posted by Jimbo on Apr 14, 2001

*S*....Sally,  you forgot to mention that it is also ingrained in most of us since chilhood to be faithful to only one love and RESPECT that ....so,  Marife  (that's Dave's mahal, isn't it?) need not worry in that case....*s*

LOL....thank you for posting...I miss your posts.

[may10]

... in response to Re: tampos and tizzies, posted by may10 on Apr 13, 2001

.....in alpha order now....Carrisse,Jing,Sally,Tess?  *s*

Tell them, my friends.....*S*

[don2222]

... in response to tampos and tizzies, posted by Dave H on Apr 13, 2001

Hi Dave,
 I have been to Cuba four times .  It is a beautiful country filled with lovely, exciting women.  But, it would take a  braver man than me to marry a Latina.  They do seem to have a flair for the dramatic.
I am a peace loving guy, and Filipinas are a better match for me.

Don