letter writing

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Re: think airport, posted by Sol on Jul 14, 2001

Sol,
I would recommend against doing what I call a "one shot"trip,going to see one woman without a back up plan to meet others if she is not the one.If you are going to take a trip all the way to Colombia you might as well meet more women if the one you have been writing does not work out.One of my friends did this,it didn't work out although he spent alot of time with the woman and didn't meet others.He may never go back.I think its a shame because he could have met someone that he could really get excited about.Also if you go with your american expectations and meet one person you don't really know the number and Quality of women who are available,and this is the real beauty of Colombia.And there is this thing called chemestry.You can rule a girl in or out pretty fast,and you don't waste time on the ones you rule out.
I personaly like the agency arrangement.It was the easiest thing in the world.You just pick out the women you want to meet a they set up appointments.It was totally non threatening.Trying to pick up girls in the mall is not my style at all.Most likely one woman will appeal to you more than the others and you can concentrate on her.If it doesn't work you can go to your second choice or interview more.I did see guys dating alot of women at the same time and that is not my style either.I don't think its so confusing to meet alot of women,dating alot can be.
I prefer an agency you can stay at vs. one with just an office.I stayed at the late Latinlove in Cali and if a girl was late(almost always) or didn't show I was just relaxing around the pool while waiting.It was lots of fun comparing notes and getting imput from the other guys.I met guys who are still my friends today.If you haven't tried the agency thing at a good agency you don't know what you are missing.Even if I hadn't met my wife it would have been the best vacation of my life.
One of the risks is becoming a player,a shopper who is always looking for something better.I know guys who have done this,but they have eventually found what they think is their dream girl.The more you shop the higher your expectations become.(and the lower your age range)
I guess it also comes down to your personality.I get very bored with writting and actually meeting all these women who were interested in me was the most exciting thing in the world.
Also,send me your E-mail again.We had a party 3 weeks ago and I couldn't find your number or E-mail.You are an "anonymous user" here so I couldn't get it off of that.

Pete

[Red Clay]

... in response to letter writing, posted by elessar on Jul 14, 2001

Regular "physical" mail to South America and even Mexico is usually very slow, can take several weeks. Probably you should expect 10-14 days, that has been my experience. E-mail is a much faster method, obviously, if the lady has access to it. Remember even with e-mail, it can take a little longer because many people in SA don't have computers at home, they use internet kiosks for the public.
  Responses sometimes come quickly, and sometimes can take months, depending upon how many people a lady is writing to or interested in. I have sent letters or emails that got no reply and were forgotten, only to have that person write me "out of the blue" several months later.

  Sounds like your writing style is fine, cover the basics of your lifestyle, interests, maybe a little about what you seek in a mate. Do some research about their country and you can impress them with your interest and prior knowledge of it. Most of us here feel like you should NOT discuss in detail your financial status, especially don't sound like your bragging about it. Major turn-off to many Latinas, they already know that most of us are at least stable. The sincere ladies are not looking for your money. Also any attempt by you to learn/speak Spanish is appreciated by them.
    Good luck-

[Jeff S]

... in response to letter writing, posted by elessar on Jul 14, 2001

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