The Paralysis of Analysis

[MikePastore]

Good threads/posts lately. What I have to offer is 20/20 hindsight. I went to Honduras and Costa Rica in 1985 on business. After meeting a young lady on the plane (TAN/Sasha) from San Pedro to San Jose and giving her my business card, I was surprised to get a carefully written letter in English to me asking me to continue the contact as she was interested in me. She was all of about 18 or 19. I was 33 at the time. I also shared a taxi with a mom and her two daughters in San Pedro, we talked a little bit and the girls were all nervous smiles. They were like 15 or 16. I took them out for pizza and paid for their cab fare and bought them a big block of ice (it's a real big deal) when I dropped them off. I did not think anything of it at the time, just being friendly and kind. A few weeks later again I get another carefully written letter from one of the teenagers! I did not even consider the idea of a foreign bride at the time, still falling for the "blonde, trophy wife with two cute kids syndrome" Ten years later, I now have the cute kids and the blonde trophy wife has turned into the psycho b**ch from hell. Guys, you need to stop analysing and GO! I just might get it right this time, but you really need to LISTEN to DallasSteve when he says "If she left me tomorrow, it would have been worth every minute" I believe that is the best attitude to have. I know I can GET a beautiful Latina, my challenge is to see how long I can KEEP her. A counselor once told me that "There are only two things that a woman needs. She needs to FEEL LOVED and she needs to FEEL SAFE" That is your job, gentlemen. Now get on a plane.

[Jeff S]

... in response to The Paralysis of Analysis, posted by MikePastore on Jul 9, 2001

So many of the naysayers claim your young, beautiful new wife will jump ship when she gets here and discovers your neighbor is richer and better looking than you. That'll never happen if you follow your advise:

"She needs to FEEL LOVED and she needs to FEEL SAFE"

Do that and Mel Gibson couldn't tear her away from you.

-- Jeff S.

[MikePastore]

... in response to The Paralysis of Analysis, posted by MikePastore on Jul 9, 2001

She is my PSYCHO EX-WIFE! We have been divorced 4 years.

[Pete E]

... in response to oops......, posted by MikePastore on Jul 10, 2001

Mike,
I'm glad you are not still married to psycho ex wife.I got the impression you were staying in a bad relationship for the kids.So you are free to find your latin dream girl.Great!

Pete

[MikePastore]

... in response to The Paralysis of Analysis, posted by MikePastore on Jul 9, 2001

She is my PSYCHO EX-WIFE! We have been divorced 4 years.

[newby Jim]

... in response to The Paralysis of Analysis, posted by MikePastore on Jul 9, 2001

Dump the psycho b!tch, even if she takes your home. They make other homes & wives, and you deserve better. In 3 years, you'll wonder what took you so long. Kids will be fine; they may even appreciate the lack of stress.

[Pete E]

... in response to The Paralysis of Analysis, posted by MikePastore on Jul 9, 2001

Mike,
Good post.I agree,just go.When I first got to Colombia I knew I was doing the right thing and would keep at it untill
I found the woman I wanted(after several years of thinking the time was not right yet).I found my wife in 3 days. I was prepared to go several more times if necessary.
In hindsight I'm glad I went when I did because I had some big things I needed to take care of befor I thought I was ready.
Even if I hadn't found my wife it would have been the most exciting vacation of my life.There is nothing like having alot of women intererested in meeting you.
I look at my wife sleeping in the morning (she looks like an angel)and think,wow,I had an idea and it turned in to reality and here she is.
To me latin women ,particularly Colombians,are very pretty and most very nice persons.My wife is one of the most real persons I have ever known.She meets a saying a friend told me"they couldn't lie if their life depended on it"(I know this is not every lady,but a good generalization I think).
Also,its never too late.If your marriage is bad I would fix it or leave.I know this can be difficult with kids but you deserve to be happy.You can find that special essence that the girls you met years ago had.Sounds like its calling to you.

Pete

[Diego A.]

... in response to Re: The Paralysis of Analysis, posted by Pete E on Jul 10, 2001

Mike,
  Very good post de acuerdo! I'm getting on the plane
Thursday morning and CALI HERE I COME!!!!