The Real Deal! So You want a Latina Bride?

[DanTheMan]

Ok Guys,

This is the real deal, or atleast as best as I know it. Just like us, the Men in search of a Latina Bride, There are many Latin women in search of an American Husband. and just like us, they know where to post their photos, and what areas will render the best results. I have a female friend in Bogota, and we discussed several details about how many responses she gets from her various Ads, and I was amazed. She typically gets around 10-20 e-mails everday, and she had a shoe box full of letters that had been sent to her from American Men. I should mention, that she is very attractive. So am I trying to put a dim light on your future dreams? No, not really. I hope that by providing you with some inside information, that you can work smarter to achieve your goals...what ever they may be. So here we go, It is true, that most of the Latina women that I have met are looking for a better life with a secure future. But....there is nothing wrong with that....That is what 99% of the women in the world are looking for. I am searching in Latin America because I want the same thing....A better life, with a secure future. But let me warn you...just like anywhere else in the world, there are women there that will love you, be proud of you, and be committed for the rest of their lives to you and there are also women,just like everywhere else, that will gladly relieve you of all your worldly possessions, and then give you the Boot! I have heard stories on both sides. I know of American Guys that married women from South America, that are very, very, happy. But one of my closest friends met a girl from Colombia that got off the plane in Miami and told him good bye. She was very, very slick....she professed her love for him....he spent thousands on attorneys, airplane tickets, (she had a child too) and countless hours on Immigration paperwork. But he is over it now, and looking again...in South America. So having said all that....this is my advice to you. 1. If you are 50, and she is 25....beware. If you are an average looking guy, do not search for some one that looks like Miss Universe. Contrary to what some believe, many of these women are not desperate, and they are already getting offers from other men. So just like here in America, if you are interested in a "prize", you better know how to steal her heart. If you do not speak any spanish, and she does not speak any english....it will be very difficult to establish a relationship. Consider this...there is nothing that will impress your potential girlfriend more than telling her that you like her very much, and you would like to come to Colombia, or where ever, to visit her. Now she knows that you are serious, and she can seperate you from the group of "tire kickers". This will move you to the head of the class, but be honest and sincere when you tell her this, or it won't take long before you move back to the back of the class. Send her current photos, and expect the same from her. This is very important. A couple of thousand dollars is a lot of money to spend to visit some one that dosen't look anything like their photo. Ask for everyday type photos. Glamour shots can make even the bad ones look good! The everyday photos are pretty accurate of what you can expect. Visiting an agency is a good idea, it takes the guess work out of it. But be careful, there are sincere women that attend the agency parties, but there are also women that will see you as their ticket to Paridise. The temptation can almost be overwhelming. , For example, your 45 and this young beautiful 21 year old women is coming on to you like crazy, it is very difficult not to let your hormones influence your good judgement. If you do go to an agency, and there is a women there that has her eye on you, she will probably watch you to see how you are responding to the other women. Polite and friendly is OK, but if she thinks you are a "Player" you just killed any chances with her. They all hate "Players". OK Guys....I hope that this will help you to be better informed. I by no means have all the answers, but I do have some observations that may make your search a bit easier. Good Luck!

[Pete Eiguren]

... in response to The Real Deal! So You want a Latina Brid..., posted by DanTheMan on Apr 17, 2001

I know some guys have had success writing,but I think many others are what you call tire kickers.They have made no commitment to go to Colombia,but it is easy to send E-mails.
Not only am I not into writting to women I don't know,I can tell you from personal experience that going is a life changing experience that you can't get from your computer.I think its a mistake to get too far ahead of yourself with a woman you haven't even met,and it doesn't start to compare with meeting her.Also I think Colombianas tend to not take you too seriously if you are just sending E-mails for an extended period of time.You are one of the 10 or 20 other E-mails that she gets tired of answering  from guys who won't take the plunge and go.
Think airport.

Pete

[Dan The Man]

... in response to Re: Don't be a tire kicker,hop a plane., posted by Pete Eiguren on Apr 19, 2001

You are absolutely right Pete! Plus, it is very easy to get in too deep if you are not very careful. Then when you do when you meet her in Person, and you think that she does not look like her Photos.  Plus they have many beautiful women in Colombiia that do not have a profile listed anywhere. (no computer) Nothing beats face to face conntact. But, each situation is different, you have to do what works best for you.

[Edge]

... in response to Re: Re: Don't be a tire kicker,hop a pla..., posted by Dan The Man on Apr 19, 2001

who was pretty hot for a girl that he was e-mailing and calling on the phone.  He was able to go down to Cali a few weeks ago to meet her.  Unfortunately, face to face, the chemistry was lacking.  But now he knows so he can move on to try to find a good match.  But it is good that in a relatively short period after they started communicating he was able to visit her to find this out.  There is no substitute for the face to face meeting and spending some time together.

[Edge]

... in response to The Real Deal! So You want a Latina Brid..., posted by DanTheMan on Apr 17, 2001

My fiancee has received around 100 letters and countless e-mails (this is no exagerration).  As near as we can figure out, the agency she was listed at in Cali sold her information to TLC because she was listed in their last Winter edition.  But through it all she has stuck with me and our relatationship has flourished because I think she knows that I really love her. She would not know this about the other guys.  It is kind of funny, but her impression of gringos at first was that most of them come to Cali for "affairs" and that they are not serious.  But I was able to get to her and show her I was a serious gringo about amor and matrimonio.

The point of my post is that if you find one that you think is or could be a good one, do not wait too long before heading down to find out.  You could miss out on a good one.  If you are not serious, there are other guys who might be.

[buzzy]

... in response to Re: The Real Deal! So You want a Latina ..., posted by Edge on Apr 18, 2001

Yea Edge, but not all of us have your good looks and charm and luck.  Is there hope for guys not as gifted as you? Like me for instance?

[Edge]

... in response to Re: Re: The Real Deal! So You want a Lat..., posted by buzzy on Apr 19, 2001

I had to laugh Buzzy.  Since we know each other and shared a good time in Caracas, of course I think there is hope for you my friend.  You met a nice one in Caracas that did not work out, yo tambien.  We just need to get you back down in either Peru, Mexico or maybe Cartagena or BQ in Colombia (safer area) or wherever you choose to look.  You know all about this process, so I am happy to encourage you to go my friend, go again.

[buzzy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Yes, Mr. Buzzy!!, posted by Edge on Apr 19, 2001

Edge...you're way too modest.  When you touched down on Colombian turf..the ladies said.."we're not worthy..we're not worthy."  The fortunate ones to meet you exclaimed, "Thanks to the Almighty!"  On the other hand I'm so ugly that passers-by hand me donations and point to the local doctor.  And I don't need to buy any paint remover..it simply rolls off the wall.  If they made a series for me like Betty la Fea...it would be called Buzzy el Feo!  I asked Tom Cruise if I had a chance...he said, "Mission Impossible."  But thanks for your encouragement...and buena suerte con tu amor.

[Edge]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Yes, Mr. Buzzy!!, posted by buzzy on Apr 19, 2001

Mr. Buzzy - look, if hounndog or Henry or Stan or whatever name he using can find a woman, you should not have a problem ;-).

[JUAN]

... in response to The Real Deal! So You want a Latina Brid..., posted by DanTheMan on Apr 17, 2001

Tell them if they are an average looking guy to not be looking for a Miss Universe type lady.

Ugly guys can get beautiful women, I've seen it happen many times, if that's the case why can't an average looking guy?

I've actually talked to many women that have said they actually prefer ugly guys to pretty boys.

If you are going to  LA to look for a wife, for goodness sakes, LEARN SPANISH, if you are serious about what you are doing how can you not learn? How can you expect to REALLY get to know her, to sweet talk her, to seduce her, if you can't speak the language?

Make her laugh, Be CONFIDENT, be hardworking and be fun to be around and you won't have trouble getting women, even supermodel types, even if you are ugly as heck.

[Starman]

... in response to I understand your advice to these guys b..., posted by JUAN on Apr 18, 2001

Juan,

I agree with your statements as well. Although the most attractive women are certainly more of a risk due to human nature, I think that depends on the individual. An "ugly" man with an otherwise great personality, charm, loving, affectionate, etc. can certainly be successful with the "super model" types. We can't rule out someone based on looks, either good or bad. Of course this goes both ways.

Tim Nelson.

[Larry in Dallas]

... in response to The Real Deal! So You want a Latina Brid..., posted by DanTheMan on Apr 17, 2001

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[pack]

... in response to The Real Deal! So You want a Latina Brid..., posted by DanTheMan on Apr 17, 2001

good post dan , i had something simalar happen to me i was corrosponding with a woman in bogota , the pictures she sent me showed a real beauty but when i arrived in bogota she looked nothing like the photos , i found out later the photos were taken 10 years earlier. the part  about the players is so right , if you are a player the girls will tell each other and your rep is shot. i was at a party in cali and one of the grings came walking in and a girl atarted pointing at him saying very loudly so all the ladies could hear  play boy play boy ! wreaked the guys night !

[Chris in cali]

... in response to The Real Deal! So You want a Latina Brid..., posted by DanTheMan on Apr 17, 2001

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[Starman]

... in response to The Real Deal! So You want a Latina Brid..., posted by DanTheMan on Apr 17, 2001

Dan,

Excellent observations. I'm 40, and I think that someone no younger than 26 or so would be realistic. It would be definitely difficult for someone my age to turn down the 18-24 crowd, esp. if she is sincere. What we have to realise is that she will most likely be immature, and once back in the US, she will be easily tempted or otherwise swayed within her new environment.

As far a letter writing, I feel that this can work, but as you mentioned, she may be getting many letters, esp. if she is very attractive. So, to me, it would be easier to just make the trip to begin with.

I also agree with your comments concerning the "Miss Universe" types for the most part. I think that a truly average looking guy will have a chance with these types, but he have to have something going for him other than looks such as a really good personality, confidence and charisma for example. Of course this depends on the women on an individual basis, but we do have to be more careful.

Thanks for the constructive post.

Tim Nelson.