I guess I can't keep a secret too well

[Windmill Boy]

Hello  to  everyone  who is  interested in my ongoing  saga ...

With  a slight bit  of  reservation  at  the risk  of  being  the  boy  who cried wolf  I  suppose I am posting  (for  the 4th  time  in under  a  year)  that  I  have  met  a  woman  that I am  really  really  interested in.  I  am thinking hoping  and  even praying  that  she is the one for  me  this time, as she seems  to  have seriously captured my heart.

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A reminder  of  past  interests I have  posted ...

Miho - 30  - penpal before my  trip  to  japan - met for  3  days in  Fukuoka.  Nice  girl  with a  good  heart  but  while  I  thought  we  had  something  together --  after  a  few  months she  did not  feel  the  same  way and she broke up.   I suppose the  distance  was  too  great and  the connection was not  as  strong as I hoped.  Still  a friend  we  will  occasionally say  hello  but I  havent talked  with her in about a  month.

Otgoo -  28   the  Mongolian Christian  girl .  Wrote together  for 3 - 4 weeks and I  called 4 times.  But the last time I only understood  30 %  of what  she was  saying.  Then  she  wrote me that she  was pregnant  from her  American teacher,  though she  did not love  him.  This  was a little too much  for me to  handle.   I  wrote  back  and  offered  to  still  be  her pen friend  but  she  never wrote  back to me.

Yukako - 30 year old  Japanese  christian  woman I thought I  was  interested  in.  We  wrote  occasionally  back  and  forth  for  3 -4  weeks  but  after  my  first phone  call  to her  she  never  contacted  me  again.  She  was  between  jobs  and  unsure  about  her  future  directions  (arn't  we  all -- ?)  When I  indicated interest beyond  just  being  pen pals  maybe  that  scared  her  away.

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I met  both  Otgoo and  then Yukako  on  Asianeuro.com . After things  with Yukako  never really  developed  I  decided  to expand  my  search  to  looking  at other  countries  on  Asianeuro.com  .  Having  been  brought  up  in  a  Christian  environment  I  decided  that  it  was still probably  best for  me to  look towards  finding  a  Christian  woman.  I  looked  towards  China after  some  other  countries  and I  found  a  profile  from  a  woman named  Joyce  without  a  picture  who  stated  that  she  was  Christian for almost  8  years  now.  I  waited  3 - 4  days   and  then I decided  to  respond  to  her  profile.

I received  a  response  the  next  day  from  a  33  year  old  woman  who  told me  her  name  was  Kathryn and  that  her  name  was not  Joyce (can't  blame  a  woman  for  being  cautious).  By  the  second  letter  she  sent  me  her  photo and  I  liked  what I  saw.  Since  then we  have  been  writing  almost  daily  and  we  have  called  each  other 5-6  times  now  over  the  last  3 - 4 weeks.  I  am very  happy  to  say that  I think  I  have  found  the  pen pal  match  and  hopefully  future romantic  match  that  I  have  been looking  for  so long.

Kat -- (we decided on this since I have a niece named Kathryn)-- has  excellent  English  skills  and she  works  in  the  financial field for an American  company  in Guangzhou  China.  We seem so far to  share similar  interests  and  ultimate  goals.  I think  we are both  very comfortable to  talk  with  each  other about anything that  is  on our  minds.  I  think that we agree that  equal status and  communication  between  us  is  paramount  to  building  the best  future  between  us.  Kat has  shown to  me that she  is  willing  to  put forth  an  equall effort  to  write  with  me,  unlike anyone else  has  done  before in my  past  correspondences. She is  mature  and  well  grounded and  can  express  herself  really  well and  tells  me  what is  on  her  mind.  Kat   is  the  modest modern thinking  yet  old  fashioned  believing / acting  counterpart  to  my personality  I  think.

Soul mates --  2  peas  in the  pod  -- hmm  say  what  you  want  but  I  feel  an  increadible  closeness  to her  so  far  and  hopefully  she  is  experiencing  this  also.  We are accepting each other as we are.  I  suppose  that  it  doesn't  hurt  that  we  are  both  asking  for  God  to  intervene  to  do  his  thing  and  bring us  together.  What can I  say except  that  as  far  as I  can tell  it  seems  to  be  working  quite well.    Time will be the test  between  us  but    haven't  seen  anything  to  be  cautious  about.  I  have  been very  open even  telling  her  about  planet-Love.com  and my previous  posts  and  other  romantic  attempts  that never  went  anywhere here.  So  maybe  she  is  reading this  post.

Wish  us  well  and   I  will  give  you an  update  in  the  future  as  things  hopfully  contiinue  to  grow  better and  better  between  us  in  the  future.  I  am very  optimistic  about  her  and  This  seems  like  an increadibly  solid  friendship together.

Windmill Boy

[Peter Lee]

... in response to I guess  I  can't  keep a  secret  too  ..., posted by Windmill Boy on Sep 30, 2003

Hu? Email and chats even phone calls are to finally meet someone face to face.   Until then in my opinion there is only introduction.  But dreaming and fantasy is ok if you are prepared to be disappointed.  I heard that arranged marriages outlasted love marriages.  Maybe you’re on to something I don't know about.  I did not meet my wife on the net.  No email no chat no phone, we were introduced by an aunt when I was visiting.   Now I chat with her and had I never met her in person would never have wanted to pursue a relationship judging her on her email skills.  Email and chats bring out or repress people, there is a third personality.  So again it all comes to meeting face to face.  Just my personal opinion only.  Hope you get lucky this time.  A bird in the hand is worth 3 in the bush, go there and you might find 20 women you like better after you meet them or her friends.  It is that face to face thing.

[Howard]

... in response to I guess  I  can't  keep a  secret  too  ..., posted by Windmill Boy on Sep 30, 2003

Windy,

Good for you!  I'm very encouraged by many statements you made in your post.  Too many, to Ray's disappointment , place too much emphasis on "how they look", rather than "who they are", in my opinion.  

It's a solid idea to find someone that is on a similar religious plane to yourself.  No matter what someone says, if they're devout and you're not, there WILL be trouble.

Open and honest communication is a key ingredient in most successful relationships.  The fact that she speaks excellent English can only help you both reach a more informed decision as time wears on.

Something I was sorely lacking in past reationships was the friendship that I have with my Fiancee.  It's so simple, yet I didn't realize it until after I got it right this time around.  In the end we all lose our looks, except maybe Hamilton , it's a good idea to actually like who you're with.

On the picture debate...  I haven't met nearly as many pen-pals as some, but each one I have met has looked EXACTLY like their picture or BETTER!  Maybe the trick is to get a bunch of pictures over time, so you can get a better idea, but honestly, I don't know.  I have heard that old wive's tale since I first came here and found it to completely false in my personal expirience.  So don't let 'em scare ya

I'm keepin' my fingers crossed for ya buddy

Keep the Faith!

H

[Windmill Boy]

... in response to Secrets are over-rated , posted by Howard on Oct 1, 2003

Hi  Howard

Sorry it  has  taken  a  few  days  to  reply  back  to  you. It  is great  to  hear  from  you!  Thanks  for  your  words  of  encouragement.

While I  may  have  let  Ray  down  a  little  bit  ha ha ha  I  am   very  happy  with  who  I  have  met.    Concerning the  initial  lack  of  a  photo  and  then   the  subsequent  photos  that  she  provided to me,  She  mentioned  that  she  preferred  representing  herself  with  real  ordinary  everyday  pictures rather than a  glamour  movie  star  type  of  picture.    I  think that  she  showed  charector  by representing  herself  without  a  picture.  It  is  strange  though  that  I  responded  as  I  normaly   ignore  the  profiles  without  a  picture  just out of  Convienience of  viewing  the  photo.

Keep  the  Faith  and  keep  in  touch

Windy

[Dave H]

... in response to Secrets are over-rated , posted by Howard on Oct 1, 2003

Hi H,

"In the end we all lose our looks, except maybe Hamilton." You must be talking about my cousin George. LOL It's hard to get uglier when you started out ugly. People just tell me I look..."er the same." )))

Dave "Fester Jr. H.

[Bubba]

... in response to Secrets are over-rated , posted by Howard on Oct 1, 2003

You write so well and you have sort of drifted away from the board. Good to see you're still listening.

[Humabdos]

... in response to I guess  I  can't  keep a  secret  too  ..., posted by Windmill Boy on Sep 30, 2003

Maybe after all the searching you finely found the one. I think it's a good idea you looked for a christian Lady.
Good luck when do you plan to meet her? Or have you already?
Hum

P.S Welcome to P/L Kat :-)

[Windmill Boy]

... in response to Sounds great Windy!, posted by Humabdos on Oct 1, 2003

Thanks Hum

For Kat's invite.  I have no idea if she will view this  site or not though.  If  things  continue  to  go  well between us  I  would  like  to  visit  her  and Discover  a little  bit  of  China  asap  -- realistically I  am  ballparking  a  10 -  12 day visit  somewhere  in Jan  feb  or  march  depending  on  my  savings,  income tax  returns  etc  etc etc.  hopefully $800 - 1000 airfare  and  $1000 spending  money and  whatever  accomodations  we  figure  out.  but  that  is  still  a  ways  off.  I just  want  to  see  how  it  progresses  for  now.

Windy

[Dave H]

... in response to I guess  I  can't  keep a  secret  too  ..., posted by Windmill Boy on Sep 30, 2003

Hey WB,

Glad to hear that you have found a very good friend in Kat. I hope it works out for both of you. Good luck!

Dave H.

[Peter Lee]

... in response to I guess  I  can't  keep a  secret  too  ..., posted by Windmill Boy on Sep 30, 2003

Hey guy,

Been there done that, pictures never look like them.  Until you meet face to face you won't know much.  But if you just want to play you can learn a little writing to each other.  I was writing to someone who was the old aunt of a young 17 yr old girl.  When we finally met she didn't know who I was, good thing it was not a serious type correspondence.  I finally met another gl that I emailed 5 months and didn't like her when we finally met.  How to get away from someone that you don't like is a real embarrassing.  The opposite is true with her; she may have Asian hopes and dreams that when she meets you are disappointing.  After all that writing, emailing, web cam chatting, I met my wife by accident in someone's home.  She did not know how to email and when we started to correspond with yahoo chatting it was so bad that if I didn't know her met her and dated her I would never ever have been attracted to her on any email.  But I guess some have managed to do it that way.  Goooood Luck and have some fun, you will probably end up meeting her gf when you are there and the chemistry will fly.  That’s how it happens some times.  

[Ray]

... in response to I guess  I  can't  keep a  secret  too  ..., posted by Windmill Boy on Sep 30, 2003

Hey Windy,

You didn't exactly take my advice to pick the ugly ones, but you did the next best thing and picked one without a photo :-)

See, it works!

Good luck...

Ray