Waiting 5 years for Divorce

[Ray]

... in response to Re: Run without Delay, posted by Jeff S on Apr 16, 2003

I agree. I guess it's real easy to smugly refer to other people's children as "baggage"...

Ray

[greg]

... in response to Re: Run without Delay, posted by Jeff S on Apr 16, 2003

My own Mahal is married, we started our relationship back in 1998...I'm still trying to get her here..speaking from experience..getting involved with a married, separated or Filipina with children can be a huge problem getting them to America..Lots of Headaches. btw, I didn't know that my Son's mommie was married until after her fiancee visa was approved..Sooo, Guys must be very careful..Don't waste time on Undesirables.

[Peter Lee]

... in response to Run without Delay, posted by greg on Apr 16, 2003

Good post Greg,
Right to the point, pulling no punches, bulls eye.
Not worth the Headaches   why get involved with Filipinas carrying around Baggage??
Guys should seek a better woman abroad than whets available in America, not someone the same or worst. Guys should search for a single, never married childless Filipina

You know by chatting with them you can learn what had happened in the past.  They were single with no children once, young and innocent.  What happened??  What went wrong?
What is there to watch out for?  Not every on of them are scammers and not every one of them are for me, but every one of them is my teacher.  Not all of us are lucky on the first try, some are.  Knowledge is power, I remember less than 5 months ago I knew less than nothing.  I did not have the benefit of this Forum to advise me.  I was scammed out of $100 and I was embarrassed about it.  It started a quest to know more of all the factors of Filipinas. It is really a heartbreaking story of each girl coming with similar problems and choosing different paths. The same questions are asked over and over with new guys.  But I am so much older, why does she think I am rich?  She asked me for money on the 3rd email.  She has never asked me for money and I want to help her but she won't let me. When I finally got to meet her she didn't look like her picture.  When we met she hardly spoke and was shy but later that night she text me so many messages I couldn't keep up.
Some of these gals after chatting with me broke down and cried when I ask them if they had any children.  They didn’t lie and said yes I have a son or daughter and now they said you won’t talk to me any more right?
Some who had kids just wanted to chat with someone and had good jobs and never ask for anything.  One that I met in Cebu that had a 5 year old son wanted me to buy everything in the store and 2 of everything.
What I forget is that I am 60 in December, I am limited with the women that will be serious with me here in the USA.  Yes I probably could get more chances than most owning a Karate school but still limited.  I did not leave out anything in my quest for a good wife.  I was content at my age to marry someone with a 5 or 7 year old child.  It would eliminate a lot of the will I have children questions.   Some of these women were quality smart pretty and held good jobs.   Could I get a 25 or 27 year old women to commit and be loyal to me at age 60 here in the USA??  But in the end it if all the options are on the table you will go for the one that you know is the one, the gale who makes you feel like a million bucks when you are with her.  So in my quest I met a gal I thought was at least 23 and later found out was really 19 I am worried of her young age and my age.  If we are both special it will work.  Any time I chat I will unconsciously compare her to all the ones I have emailed chatted with and visited face to face.   If she passes that test I know it must be something special.  

[Alvin1]

... in response to Re: Run without Delay, posted by Peter Lee on Apr 16, 2003

Peter, I am curious.  Why would you want to marry someone that is in their 20's at age 60?  A Filipina that would correspond with you that is in her 20's is very likely to be a scammer.

Most prefer men close to their own age.  There are certainly exceptions.  They all want to improve their life style and this is natural and you do not want someone who does not want a good life style.

Someone in their 20's is young enough to be your grand daughter.  They have a saying in the RP: Marry an old man so that you will still be young when he dies and you can then marry who you want to marry in the US.

Good luck with your search.

Alvin1

[Peter Lee]

... in response to Re: Run without Delay, posted by Alvin1 on Apr 17, 2003

I understand the risk, but it doesn't seem a risk with scamming.

I would like to know from you how this 20 year old girl could if she wanted to scam me once married and in the US?

If she runs away it is not really scamming is it?

The rewards are worth the risk

Remember I did see quite a number of older women while in the PI.  This meeting was by chance and I thought she was older than her age at the time.  

I quickly compared her to the others and we had a natural attraction to each other.  

Remember he parents were 30 years apart with her mother being younger and very much in love with her dad.

When I die I would wish her luck in finding another man who will be kind and have a good heart any age.

Yes most prefer men their own age, and as you know that is no guarantee of a successful marriage.

I have never been married so I can't picture her as my granddaughter.  Just someone who will be active with me as I still have a very active life style.

The mention of the word granddaughter is an attempt to show that this is immoral in some way otherwise why mention it? It doesn’t work coz the attraction is there.  We enjoy being with each other and there are couples in my town who have done what I am attempting to do.

I am aware of the risk but what isn't  

Da older ones want to mold me.

The younger ones will ride the bike for hours with me go sailing for days and help in my Tae Bo classes.

The older ones will want to go for a drive grow plants on da boat and go to Tae Bo to get in shape

Oh decisions, decisions

[bryan]

... in response to Re: Run without Delay, posted by Alvin1 on Apr 17, 2003

Mayaman, matanda madaling mamatay

[Peter Lee]

... in response to Re:  Re: Run without Delay, posted by bryan on Apr 19, 2003

Please interpret for this ignorant foreigner

[Mita]

... in response to Re: Run without Delay, posted by Peter Lee on Apr 16, 2003

Peter,
I for one believe in karma.  When you do something with  the wrong intentions, you will eventually get your due.  A divorced or separated woman with kids is not necessarily being punished.  Sometimes, people make mistakes or they just married the wrong men, but if they did so with no intention of using the other person then they will eventually get what is coming to them too - if only a clear conscience and a happier outlook in life.
Some people never learn and stay in the vicious cycle, trying to use others but always finding themselves one more step backwards.
There are still good women out there.  It will always show in their words  and deeds.  If I were you, I'd stay away from the bad eggs, it's just a waste of precious time you could spend looking for the right one.

[greg]

... in response to Re: Run without Delay, posted by Peter Lee on Apr 16, 2003

Since your searching for a wife, why waste your time on those that doesn't match what your looking for??? Sooner or Later if you continue communicating with the wrong ones, you may get involved with her. You should know the kinda wife you want, and search for her..Don't waste your time on those carrying around baggage..Keep in mind that some Pinays hide their bad vices until its late for you to back out..Wasting time on the wrong Pinay can be a huge mistake..You need to pass on those that doesn't meet with your looking for in a wife..It's not your problem for whatever mistakes they made in their life...Your old, life is too short...Don't waste your time on their sad sack stories..Aim for the bull eye..learn to say no thank you and move on to the prize...Not your Duty to "Save the Filipinas" lol

[Dave H]

... in response to Good Points...but.., posted by greg on Apr 16, 2003

Hi Greg,

I have to agree! Why swim with the sharks when you can swim and play with the dolphins? Sharks bite...that is all I need to know. If anyone wants to save something...it's less headaches and heartaches to save the whales. ;o)))

Dave H.

[Peter Lee]

... in response to Sharks Bite!, posted by Dave H on Apr 16, 2003

I have been swimming with the sharks for  years in my MA school.  Lots of divorced with kids women right here.  But i agree with your point of view, I'm getting our of the water and look for dolphins.

[Ray]

... in response to Sharks Bite!, posted by Dave H on Apr 16, 2003

Hey Dave, say hi to Junior Seau when you see him down in Miami.

I think the Chargers made a BIG mistake. We are going to miss Junior in San Diego.

Ray

[bryan]

... in response to Speaking of Dolphins..., posted by Ray on Apr 16, 2003

I grew up sitting in the Orange Bowl, the JR. signing should be an improvement to our LB corp. Zack and JR should be a force

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Speaking of Dolphins..., posted by bryan on Apr 19, 2003

Hi Bryan,

...I grew up in those Orange Bowl seats too...dreaming I was wearing the #39 jersey. )

Dave H.

[Dave H]

... in response to Speaking of Dolphins..., posted by Ray on Apr 16, 2003

Hi Ray,

We appreciate the gift! I will see Junior play, as I usually make it to a few games every year. I will probably see him around town and tell him you said hi. )))

Dave H.