So how do you guys answer/react?

[Carrisse]

First off, I'm not trying to slam those who are trying to find a wife from my home country.  But to tell you quite frankly, I am kind of uncomfortable seeing a very young Filipina with a very old American man.  Call it human imperfection, I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels this way.  I'm not here to condemn either, love knows no boundaries--just borders to cross.

Anyway, how do you guys answer those prying questions about your age difference?  The ladies can answer this too.  How do you guys react to those who drop their jaws to the floor when they see your absolutely gorgeous, young wife?

No flaming now, specially from Mike the Troll.

[Carrisse]

... in response to So how do you guys answer/react?, posted by Carrisse on Mar 21, 2001

...its the AM friend of mine who wanted to ask the question. He said that if you do that here, you'd be a hairline away from statutory rape.

I guess I couldn't relate because I married someone who is 3 years younger than me.  So I'm kind of curious to know the answer too.

Anyway, thanks for the answers and I'm sorry for offending the others.  Believe me, it wasn't my intention.

[Jim H]

... in response to Actually......, posted by Carrisse on Mar 22, 2001

Carrisse,

As you said, your question was legitimate.  No offense taken on my part and I hope none on yours.  I did feel, however, that your post implied the belief in the big-age-difference/trophy bride MOB stereotype.  Kent made a very good post describing how he initially bought into this stereotype, and then worked his way through the prejudice - it was honest and thoughtful.  My response used the phrase "mindset of a troll" which was perhaps too strong.  I apologize for that.

Sincerely,
Jim

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Actually......, posted by Jim H on Mar 22, 2001

Jim,

That's what you get for reading my mind. Carrisse...Jim is sorry. ;o))

Dave H.

[Jim H]

... in response to Now Jim..., posted by Dave H on Mar 22, 2001

Dave,

I can read the dirty thoughts too.  Carrisse - are you listening?  Dave has a fantasy about you; it involves leather, whips, and chains...

Jim )

[Dave H]

... in response to Remember..., posted by Jim H on Mar 22, 2001

N/T

[Carl]

... in response to Actually......, posted by Carrisse on Mar 22, 2001

Carrisse

no offence taken here
Carl & Vemila

[Dave H]

... in response to Actually......, posted by Carrisse on Mar 22, 2001

Carrisse,

If they're 18 or over I'm safe. If not, I toss them back in the lake to grow more. Oh wait a minute...I thought you were talking about fishing. ;o)

Dave H.

[HappyIdiot]

... in response to So how do you guys answer/react?, posted by Carrisse on Mar 21, 2001

They are both adults and have made the decision to get married, so I see no problem with it.  I hope that they both did some serious soul searching and are ready to support each other in their marriage.  There are so many problems that can come along and no guarantee of the future, that I'd hate to second guess their choices.

For me, I'm trying to stay within 10 years of my age either way, with the idea that we will have more common views.  However, if I had to choose between accepting someone's age and walking away from the person that would be with me for the rest of our lives, I would not hold firm to that number.

Still I'm just starting this process for myself, and am not predicting where I'll end up.  Personally, I'm much more interested in women from Brazil, China, and Russia (in about that order) and haven't sworn off American women either.   Women from the PI are pretty far down on my list, and I'm not interested in Japanese women.  It's just my personal tastes and views on level of culture and society.

Oh, I'm 38, and the age range I'm considering is 24 to 42, not specific to culture.  I'm a young and active 38, not fat and middle aged looking, so it has been a problem for me to find a compatible woman with maturity.  But I only need to find one, if I find the right one.  So not so bad.

Actually, I was a bit surprised just now when I read your profile about your age, Carrise.  I thought you'd be around 22 or 24, something like that.  I don't mean anything by that, just my honest reaction.  So Carl's wife is 15 years younger than you?  Do you feel old, or ok with that?  I'm trying to understand where you are coming from.

[Carrisse]

... in response to They are both...., posted by HappyIdiot on Mar 22, 2001

Just asking a valid question.

[Stephen]

... in response to So how do you guys answer/react?, posted by Carrisse on Mar 21, 2001

But we don't get any questions.

I guess most people just assume that Tess is my older sister or something.

Pardon me.....Tess is hitting me.  I've got to go.

Stephen

[Carrisse]

... in response to I am 52 and Tess is 37......., posted by Stephen on Mar 22, 2001

nt

[outwest]

... in response to So how do you guys answer/react?, posted by Carrisse on Mar 21, 2001

If the couple is happy, why do you care..

Besides, i thought you were the one who thinks it is
ok for a filipina to marry only for money,
your values, to me, are not that high and mighty, to
pass judgement on others...Carisse.

[Carrisse]

... in response to what.........business,,,,is it.....of yo..., posted by outwest on Mar 22, 2001

you'd see that I was not passing judgement on others just asking a valid question.

[SteveG]

... in response to So how do you guys answer/react?, posted by Carrisse on Mar 21, 2001

Carrisse,
 We all don't fit the mold of being much older than our wives.   I am 40 and Melly is 36 so I have never had to deal with this.
                                       SteveG