So how do you guys answer/react?

[Jeff S]

... in response to So how do you guys answer/react?, posted by Carrisse on Mar 21, 2001

My wife is three years older than me!!!!

[Lori]

... in response to Got all you guys beat!, posted by Jeff S on Mar 21, 2001

I am 5 years older than my Thai:-)

[Jeff S]

... in response to I got you beat Jeff.., posted by Lori on Mar 22, 2001

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[SteveG]

... in response to Got all you guys beat!, posted by Jeff S on Mar 21, 2001

Yeah, Jeff, you broke all the rules here!   What are we going to do with you???   LOL
                                   SteveG

[Dave H]

... in response to Got all you guys beat!, posted by Jeff S on Mar 21, 2001

Jeff,

You did it all wrong! How are we supposed to maintain our proper MOB image, if guys go out and marry older women? ;o))) Does she at least look 10 years younger than you? ;o))

Dave H.

[Jeff S]

... in response to You didn't read the book !, posted by Dave H on Mar 21, 2001

Unlike everyone else (by their own estimation) in the MOB scene, I don't look younger than my age, but my wife sure does!

[Bear]

... in response to So how do you guys answer/react?, posted by Carrisse on Mar 21, 2001

When I met Marissa and she told me how old she was, one of the first thing that went through my mind was, "They put you in jails for that don't they".  Strangely enough she was the youngest of all the girls I wrote and I went into this adventure wanting to meet someone much older and more mature.  I have found that Marissa is mature and my understanding of age-maturity had to change.

What I was concern about...

If I loved her enough to want to be a good husband.  One that will put out the lifetime commitment to meet her needs.

If/when my life might come to and end - leaving her alone - knowing how it makes me feel when I am alone.  Money is not an issue because retirement, social security, savings, etc.

If I will be able to put the effort into being a good father doing things like coaching the little league and going to all those childhood activities.  

What I am not concerned about...

If our age difference will keep me or her from loving the other fully.

Whether or not someone in my family, realm of activites or at work thinks it is appropriate.

Whether or not it is immoral, abusive, negligent, controlling, selfish, etc.  These words have been used for years now to control the average man.  I think they are just words unless some action accompanies them and from what I have seen from most men it usually doesn't.

Anyone elses opinion of our love / marriage / beliefs / union / family.

Bear

[curt]

... in response to Age is important to some, posted by Bear on Mar 21, 2001

I met a Filapina that is was widowed last year.  Now she can be open with her long-time boyfriend.

[logan_jiang10]

... in response to Age is important to some, posted by Bear on Mar 21, 2001

nt

[Dave H]

... in response to Age is important to some, posted by Bear on Mar 21, 2001

N/T

[may10]

... in response to God made love, Man made time! (n/t), posted by Dave H on Mar 21, 2001

My sentiments, exactly.

[Dave H]

... in response to So how do you guys answer/react?, posted by Carrisse on Mar 21, 2001

Carrisse,

I am 44 and my fiancee is 27. I am not sure if this meets your "very young Filipina with a very old American" scenario? Many of the AW and LW that I was dating, were younger than her. I also dated women closer to my age. No one has ever made negative comments to me personally about me and younger women. If they did, they were not close enough for me to hear them. People are always very friendly to me on the street, because I am a friendly person. ;o)) My fiancee is not in the US yet, but God help anyone that crosses her. Although I am much larger, she is much tougher and meaner than me. I will let her loose on them. ;o))

I experienced the jaws dropping in the Philippines. But it was the opposite of what you mentioned. I am sure many other men have experienced this. It was usually school girls starring, smiling, giggling, screaming, and waving to me. My fiancee got a bit embarrassed over all of the attention I was getting. Don't worry, it didn't go to my head. I would have preferred to blend in. But it just didn't happen.

Dave H.

[Dave H]

... in response to No reaction in US!, posted by Dave H on Mar 21, 2001

The issue of age differences is insignificant, when compared to some peoples problem with racial differences. I never heard of the KKK or Hitler having a problem with age differences.

Most of the women I dated were younger and of mixed racial ancestery (Hispanic, SA Indian, Black)...still no problems. ;o)

Dave H.

[FL]

... in response to So how do you guys answer/react?, posted by Carrisse on Mar 21, 2001

Neither my fiance nor I knew each others age before we began to have feelings towards each other,all based on open communication and shared interests and beliefs. So it didn't even "raise an eyebrow" for us when we realized there is 24 years between our bithdays. I wish I could find the results of a study I read several years back, a study of divorced couples whos ages were more than 15 yrs apart. They all had their stories and reasons for the split, but they ALL had the same message, the age difference had nothing to do with the failed relationship. For some, it bothers them to see a young filipina with an older american man, for others, it bothers them to see a filipina with an american man.

[logan_jiang10]

... in response to So how do you guys answer/react?, posted by Carrisse on Mar 21, 2001

Joyce is 23 I'm an elderly graybearded man at 25  I find that instead of the age differnece people tend to say I'm importing a sex slave. If the age difference is more than 5 years your a pervert, less than that your a slaver I don't think age difference matters. It's just a way for someone to tear you down. I've only had a few comments about going to the phils. Luckily I have a strong network of friends, and the support of my family. btw I added a 10 to my name. No password yet