I'm getting back on the horse

[Frank O]

Well I'm STILL emotionally devastated but I'm going to start again. I'm NOT going to waste time. The way I look at it my next trip will be 3 - 4 months. I"ll run an ad & write a few. I think in 3 -4 months I SHOULD be much better & healing up.
Can anyone recommend 3 good agencies to write girls? I"m going to use Jacks once again to run my ad. I can't out of 60 ladies that wrote me I picked the THIS one!!!:-((

[T P Cornholio]

... in response to I'm getting back on the horse, posted by Frank O on Jun 14, 2005

Or is that what you're tryin' to do?
Put up a fight you believe to be right
And one day the sun will shine through.

Take off your hat, kick off your shoes.
You know you ain't goin' anywhere

...pick up your guitar and write some blues

But I know what you're wishing for.

Everybody's got a dream.

[Frank O]

... in response to Throw down your gun, you might shoot you..., posted by T P Cornholio on Jun 15, 2005

Not sure what that means but I don't play the blues man. I'm just too happy to do that. I think Eddie Van Halen said the same thing. I DO enjoy QUITE a release playing though. I dropped off my wife last Thursday & Friday night I was having a blast on stage. I guess that's what keep me sane.

[Felinessa]

... in response to I'm getting back on the horse, posted by Frank O on Jun 14, 2005

Frank, this has nothing to do with Russian women, but simply with dating experience.  Before I met my boyfriend, I was the uncrowned queen of Lavalife.  For someone who is not "conventionally attractive," I was racking up dates like there was no tomorrow.  I had a number of short-term relationships, and every time one ended, I was right back on the system: new-and-improved profile, pictures, etc.  I was unstoppable.  I had no idea who I was or what I wanted anymore because I was just trying to run away from the pain of a connection that lasted all 4 years of college and never materialized.

Then, this past winter, I decided to take a break. I stopped and realized that I wasn't doing a lot of things that I used to enjoy before.  I wasn't me anymore.  I realized that I had gotten so caught in this wash-rince-repeat cycle, that I was so focused on choosing someone to meet my requirements, that I'd lost track of what I had to offer.  So I pulled back, and in a short while, I met my boyfriend.  Now I'm back on track with a lot of things, and he brings me so much joy, that everything else seems to go along with it.

I'm saying what the other guys seem to say.  Take a break, for yourself.  I know that your self esteem took a blow and that you're looking for a bandage.  But you need to put yourself together, stabilize yourself, or you'll end up going nuts like Scaught.  You need your friends and family, your pets, your hobbies.  I think you need you back.  And when you get that, you'll have a lot more insight into yourself and the dating process, and hopefully you'll zero in on a good woman

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: I'm getting back on the horse, posted by Felinessa on Jun 15, 2005

NT

[RickM]

... in response to Re: I'm getting back on the horse, posted by Felinessa on Jun 15, 2005

Sometimes we can keep "re-creating" the "same" problems over and over again and keep trying to "fix" them when in  fact what we "should" be doing is finding a horse of a totally different color altogether...

[david hagar]

... in response to Re: I'm getting back on the horse, posted by Felinessa on Jun 15, 2005

Frank

Take a break. You are not yet divoced that this woman is not out of your mind. Like the young Finessea, I had been spinning my wheels. i quit looking and found a very special young lady from Ubekestain. I loved the Latin woman more, but we never know where true love will take us. take a break and enjoy life for life, not to get layed or a woman in your life.

Beattledog

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: I'm getting back on the horse, posted by Felinessa on Jun 15, 2005

This kid is telling Frank he lacks dating experience! Talking about being born yesterday! Frank's been around the block a few times and back, and then some.

I like what Cat Prof wrote, though, about basically not trying so hard. Believe me, a relationship shouldn't have to be so hard to get going. It should happen naturally. And this MOB scene hardly qualifies as natural. Stop focusing in making it happen and just let it happen. It will happen where you are without resorting to involvement with mail order brides, who you hook with your mail order bribes.

(Cat Prof, still waiting for the thesis. I Western Unioned you the $500 for your new hard disc, so what's the excuse now?)

[Felinessa]

... in response to Re: Re: I'm getting back on the same ole..., posted by Scaught on Jun 15, 2005

I think you need to learn how to read.  I never told him he lacked dating experience, but that my response had to do with dating experience in general, since I obviously haven't dated Russian women. Sorry if that went over your head - I imagine you're too used to reading broken English.

As far as the money goes, sorry, but I'm living up to the scammer reputation and not delivering.

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: I'm getting back on the same..., posted by Felinessa on Jun 15, 2005

Cat Prof: You need to reread the chapter in Moby Dick that takes place in The Spouter Inn-- remember the phrase "thoroughly besmoked"-- that's how clear your English is. I'd give you the chapter number, but that one's in my other house. It's fairly early in the book, just before setting sail.

English literature-- everything you write the teacher says it's great! It's the lowest standard in academia.

[Felinessa]

... in response to Thorough Thoreau Melville Twitman , posted by Scaught on Jun 15, 2005

It's chapter three.  I believe it describes your understanding quite perfectly.  But it's pointless to argue because you are mentally ill.  

"English literature-- everything you write the teacher says it's great! It's the lowest standard in academia."

I'm sorry, but I didn't know "academia" applied to rural highschools. I can't think of other places where "everything you write the teacher says it's great." Also, considering your illiterate use of punctuation, I doubt that you made it any further, which is why you resent someone else's education with such ferocity.

Maybe next time you beat the shit out of a woman you'll get to take classes in prison?

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Thorough Thoreau Melville Twitman , posted by Felinessa on Jun 15, 2005

Where's your thesis? You really need to be completely exposed for what you are. We'll just let your own words beat the shit out of you. You don't dare to let us read your thesis because Prof Cat Girl is a Scaredy Cat.

[Globetrotter]

... in response to Re: I'm getting back on the horse, posted by Felinessa on Jun 15, 2005

Well, I'm glad you're back!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Does this mean you're staying?...for a while anyhow.  Just stay and contribute when you want to, or have the urge.  If you haven't noticed, nobody answers my posts, so, at least you've got some "action".

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: Re: I'm getting back on the horse, posted by Globetrotter on Jun 15, 2005

Hey, I took a manjor blow but I'm no kid. Like a friend once told as a 19 year old when I had my heartbroken & I was whining about NEVER finding someone else "so are you turning gay now?". That pretty much changed my mind right there. It's embarrassing & humiliating but I know I think SOMEONE out there MIGHT learn something from my situation. Even if ONLY ONE person gets something out it & I help him avoid the pain I'm going through it will have been worth all the pain & humiliation of posting here. By the way the barbs & stones I get thrown here are NOTHING compared to the pain she put me through. This is a walk in the park man.

[Felinessa]

... in response to Re: Re: I'm getting back on the horse, posted by Globetrotter on Jun 15, 2005

Why doesn't anyone answer your posts?