Need some honest advice

[Pordzhik]

... in response to Need some honest advice, posted by John LV on Dec 12, 2002

Now don't forget to write and tell us all about the trip will you?

[Scaught]

... in response to Need some honest advice, posted by John LV on Dec 12, 2002

Way to go with the car!!! Yessss!!!

Okay--

You have a choice--

1) Play out the Hey Zeus Ker Rrist complex and keep turning the other cheek until you are imprisoned for several years and bankrupt, or

2) Come down to the human plane and start acting like a human and completely shut off contact with her and her boyfriends. Don't talk to any of them. They want to sponge off you. Part of you would love to subsidize them, I bet. You're that hippo with parasitic birds feeding off him, only there's no symbiosis. Shoo them away. She lived just fine before she ever met you. Since she met you, in fact, she has transformed into a sa-lut and a knewd dancer. Your contact with her has led to great misery. You should feel bad about what you have done to her and let her go back. Going back to Russia will be a big, huge improvement for her. She'll do better w/o you and vice-versa. So no misplaced sympathy. Her life in Moscow will be better than a Jerry Springer existence in the U.S., which is where she is now. Let her go. Good riddance. No contact, no money, no sympathy (okay, maybe in your heart, but keep a lid on it). She will get back on her feet in Moscow eventually. And don't send her a forking nickle.

Sorry to be so simplistic, but here are your choices. I think no one is going to give you advice anymore. You know what to do, but you won't do it. You are too blind to see that there are much better women out there for you because you are clinging so tightly to this loser.

My bet is you'll take option number one. You will beg her and her anti kerist entourage to drain you until you are completely dry.

And then you'll feel your ridiculous naivety and misplaced Christian guilt over it because you don't have anymore juice for them to drain out!!!

(Pardon the woird spellings-- it took a while to find out which of many innocuous words are considered foul language and are banned words.)

[oldbutspry]

... in response to Need some honest advice, posted by John LV on Dec 12, 2002

Here's what I'd do:

First off, I would talk to a lawyer and find out what my liabilities are and decide if I could live with the possible consequences of my actions.

Second, I wouldn't consider giving the Eclipse back to her.  If I felt compelled to help her I would buy her a cheap car and give it to her (not in my name, in hers).

And finally (and perhaps most importantly), you shouldn't get near her.  You should see if the ex-boyfriend would act as a go-between for any gesture of goodwill you might want to make.

I'm not saying you should help her.  I'm just saying you should know what you're doing and limit your liability.

John