Below under Ryan's post, William F. congratulated Ryan on his success and suggested this success indicated the WOVO naysayers were wrong. I posted there, but am repeating here as the original thread is getting a little old.
William, how can this be judged a success story? I recently went to Russia and met 12 women. I could have decided that any of the 12 were 'the one' and could have written gushy (and real) stories about 'that one.'
But, by having the chance to compare the 12 ladies (and several from previous trips), I knew in my mind and in my heart, that none of them were 'the one,' at least not yet as I don't know any of them well enough. I did spend 10 days with one and 8 days with another, but still didn't think I knew them well enough as some guys think they do after a week.
If I had spent all of my time with only one lady, I might very well be going through the K processs right now because many of them seemed pretty cool when viewed in isolation. But when you take time to compare them against each other, that is when the flaws start to show up and you realize that none of them are 'the one.'
And this is not to say that I have no flaws, nor that I am looking for a perfect gal or will ever find a perfect gal. It is just that by having a chance to compare, you can have a much more rational thought process and not go all 'ga ga' over one.
To me, the concept of 'success story' goes a bit further. I was married to one woman for 28 years. Was that a 'success story?' Well it wasn't to those who are married for 30 years. It certainly wasn't with respect to my parents who celebrated their golden wedding anniversary, nor for one of my sets of grandparents who made it to 70th anniversary.
JR
