Ukraine Lady Coming to US (P III) My Thoughts

[BruceJet]

Hello ALl,

This is my thinking of the whole situation.

Perhaps she is now offended, I think she will realize and understand my situation.  I guess she did, that is why she made it a point just to pay her way 100%--even at the cost of borrowing from her friend.  

My thinking is when all said and done, if as a man, you have your own disposition and does not accede to her EVERY WISH and be a Wuss, she will respect you for that. Its the same with RW, AW or any other woman.    If you continue to give what she wants, she will take you for granted. Perhaps, she likes it at first, but in the long run, you will setting up yourself for lots of trouble and headache.

But if you set some standards, know when to say No to her-- like in this case, you have to earn my trust--then you are more valuable, different and is not a WUSS.  She will appreciate this, although perhaps not overtly but deep inside her.

[Ryan]

... in response to Ukraine Lady Coming to US (P III) My Tho..., posted by BruceJet on Nov 5, 2002

Good luck to you...

[juio99]

... in response to Ukraine Lady Coming to US (P III) My Tho..., posted by BruceJet on Nov 5, 2002

Bruce, thanks for posting your situation and 'baring your soul,' so to speak.  You are getting a lot of good advice, even though a lot of it is contradictory.

There are still several holes in your story that you are telling and, of course, you have no obligation to 'tell all.'

Let me summarize:

1) It is very hard to get these visas.  Yes, some have noted that they know of several ladies who have gotten them, but it is still 'relatively' rare.

2) You say you have seen a copy of visa, but are you sure you know what these look like.  Are you really sure of her correct name, did you see the actual dates of the allowed time in USA, etc.

3) You say she has a business visa, and she got it to attend a Congress meet.  What the helsinki is a Congress meet?  But more importantly, if she got a business visa, and will be coming on official business, then why does the issue of where the money for flight ticket will come from even arise in the first place.  It's a Business Trip for her employer . . .  isn't it?

4) So who is her employer, what is her education level, what is her position in this firm and how long has she been there?  Answers to these would help you decide whether it is likely or not that she actually could get a business visa.

5) How are you going to handle the issue of her actually having to attend a business meeting?  Where will that be relative to where you live?  And where will money come from for the 'in state' flights in USA between your home and the business meeting locations?

6) I am guessing that at some point, you might cave in and send her the cash money.  If she really is very clever, and a good scammer, she suspects that you will do that very thing if she offers to pay up front and does the guilt trip on you.

Just my thoughts for now.  Peace and good luck.

JR

[wsbill]

... in response to Re: Ukraine Lady Coming to US (P III) My..., posted by juio99 on Nov 6, 2002

Don't start feeling guilty for these poor, poor women who only make $40 a month.  That is a crock, try upwards of like $140 and if they're really smart they'll be politician some day and lie to your face....like ours do.

[yoe]

... in response to Ukraine Lady Coming to US (P III) My Tho..., posted by BruceJet on Nov 5, 2002

to make sense and understand what I have found in RW. My wife likes to push the envelope. She like to see where by brass ones are!
Joe
good luck and be a man-that is what she will appreciate

[BruceJet]

... in response to Now you are beginning......, posted by yoe on Nov 5, 2002

Thanks for the kind word, Joe.

Glad to hear that we are on the same court on this one.