I’m starting to think dang I have only 10 days left...where has the time gone.
We shop for some more things for me to take home. She got surprised that I’d
spend 85.00 for a wooden carved egg that had a lace like shell with a
church carved the hollowed out center. Really beautiful! Can’t imagine how
long that would take. Monks carved it. All is well with us and we are all happy
and enjoy being together. I really only had one important thing to do yet
and that is to see the reaction of me correcting her son. We wrote about
this and she says she will have no problem, but after dating a couple of
AW with children I knew this could be a problem.
I notice earlier that he will eat any sweets until they are gone. I had
no idea why, but this would give me the chance I looked for to make a
correction or I thought. I buys his favorite snack that has milk chocolate in
them. His mother goes for a quick visit to a best friend close by. Her son
and me are watching a video (Cats and Dogs). He finds the snack and
proceeds to eat them at a horrendous pace. In 10-15 mins. they are 1/2
gone (about 1# gone). I tell him hey we need to slow down eating them
that maybe he’d like some left for tomarrow or I may want some tomarrow.
He asks if I want some and I say not now maybe later. He slows down to
a normal pace even stopping for 5-6 min or so between them. I’m happy.
His momma comes back and joins us and now he starts eating them
rapidly again. OK I think to myself. He’s gonna test me, since momma is
back. I tell him; remember what I told you about eating them so fast. He of
couse says something in Russian to momma and now problem four is about
to start. He puts the snacks down and 15 min or so heads off to bed.
Problem four comes to a head. She gets out the trusty dictionary and
proceeds to say, I think you have grudge against my son. I says nope that
in America we not eat all of something in one day like that snack; that maybe
someone will want some tomarrow. She doesn’t understand and I can see
is flustered/confused. We decide it will be better to talk about it in the morning.
I wake up to see her writing something and knowing it’s getting time
to talk...head to the kitchen for a coffee and smoke writing my own notes
down. I now realize that maybe he gets those once a month or so. A half
hour later I head to the couch and by now her son is about ready to go
play outside. I ask him to come and sit with us that we need to talk. He sits
between us and I start. I tell him I’m not trying to be mean to him, but that at
home in America we shop one day and buy for a week. That I may have
10 ice creams in the freezer. His eyes gets real big now and says 10 ice
creams. I say yes and those 10 ice creams have to last 7 days, so we not
eat all 10 in one day and maybe his momma will want one or I will want
one. Do you understand now why I told you what I did last night. He says
yes and I ask if it’s a problem and he says no. I ask him if he wants me for
a father and he says yes. I tell him ok now as a father I will teach him to be
a man, I will reward him when he deserves it, but that I will also correct him
when he needs corrected...this is what a father does and does he have a
problem with this. He gives me a hug and says no. I tell him to go play.
Well that was easy.
Now on to my lady and our problem. She brings up the grudge word again.
I tell her again no I don’t. I explain again what I told her son including the
father thing. I say, I think you are mad and have a problem with me
correcting your son. She says little mad. I says no I feel more than little.
Explain the father thing again and brought up her not letting him take his
walkman cassette player to relatives. What if I told him he coudn’t take it
would she be mad? I explained that I felt she did the right thing by making
him leave at home; the same as I would have done. I guess everything made
sense to her as I saw a smile come across her face and got hugged and
kissed abit. Whispered in my ear that she loves me. (I’m stunned; listen up AW)
We enjoy the last of the week together happy and filled with joy not
doing much except the daily shopping and walking. After this week 3 days left.
Continued in The last days of my Trip and Final Thoughts.
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