Started feeling more comfortable with her and her son now. Decided
we’d visit the very small zoo in the city. Rode bumpers cars there with her
son numerous times and had a blast. Saw the old lion, took some photos
of the two of them with some kind of African goat like animal, feeding the geese
and duck at a little water hole, and looked at the few monkeys, snakes,
a tarantula. Not much there really, but gave me a valuable look at her reaction
in different situations. When we got home we had our first problem. It’s
personal so no details, but we talk that one out and resolved it with positive
results. Cause was from mistranslation of a question. These things will happen so try
to use simple words in letters.
We spent the next day shopping. Bought a few items for me to take
home and seen her eyeing up some lipstick in one shop and the same
with a watch in another. We bought one watch, but it couldn’t be sized
small enough. Took it back and went to another store that was 80%
watches. They had some nice Seikos there for 40 dollars and I pointed
her to them and said these are easy to adjust for size. Oh no she says....I
don’t need an expensive watch. Guys don’t argue with them..you will lose.
So I was amazed how much those to things mean’t to her. She had a smile
that told me I did good. For so little money she was so happy. (I’m stunned;
listen up AW). This afternoon we also discussed what moving to USA
would entail and she is worried about her mother and what will happen
to her if she leaves. Her mother is elderly although still able to do most things around the house; I don’t see her walking to the shops. I tell her I
understand (in fact I’m happy as this tells me she really doesn’t want to leave
her home, relatives and friends). All I could say was it maybe a hard decision
you will have to make one day.
The next day we went to her best friends home for an over night stay.
This couple showed up in an old Mercedes they owned and away we
went to the big market. Since my business is in the meat trade; I was elected
to pick out the meat. Well I hope you like pork or chicken as I saw no beef
and little other meats. Chose the pork tenders to barbeque. Also picked up
veggies and a bottle of what else....Vodka of course(not the cheap stuff, but it was cheap) and wine for the ladies. Had a fun day, but found out it’s
their turn for no hot water. Here comes the second problem we had.
She asked if I take bath and I said well sure...I just make it fast... ya
know wet, lather and rinse in 3 min.s 8-) I’ve camped alot and have took
such cold baths in the wild; not pleasant but necessary. Now comes the
problem.
She says I not bath in cold water. Hmm I think about this and it brings back
bad memories of my only marriage that went sour and I did the foolish
thing as to say...no problem if you want to be like my ex-wife. AH OH
shoulda shift brain in gear before letting the clutch out to run the mouth!
She informs me I sleep by self then. OK then I also have no problem sleeping
by self. Well I went to bed and about 20 min. later the door slowly creeps
open, she touches my arm and says you awake. Yes I’m awake. Well she
says... I’m sorry. (I’m stunned; listen up AW), but says I not want to hear about
your exwife again. (I feel like an a**) Now it’s my turn to say sorry. I explain
that not bathing before bed brings back bad memories from the past and
that it’s a problem for me. I say sorry again. She then explains that she is
uncomfortable taking baths in others homes. (no problem in Hotel though
and I admit I wasn’t that comfortable either at friends home with that thought)
I tell her...well we HAVE to talk to each other more and that if I knew her
reason that I could understand and we would’ve had no problem. Anyways
that problem disappeared rapidly with postive results. Slept happy and
woke up happy. Wow that was really easy. No raised voices, slamming
doors, and the like that I’ve experienced with AW. (I’m stunned; listen up AW)
The other guy is here now and we make reservations at a great small
restaurant with him and his lady. Nice place, good food, cold Baltica 1,
I mean really nice. The girls are talking and us guys are talking. I’m telling
him about our shopping trip and how I was amazed that she worried about
money and didn’t want the Seiko watch, but the wanted the cheap Casio
one. Well you can guess this was the start of problem number three. These
ladies are like any other lady in some ways. You see she had an ear free
to try to listen in on our conversation. She gets out the dictionary and says
to me very quitely...are you making me a fool by saying I wanted cheap
and no expensive watch? I look up amazed and says no...I say to him I
amazed because an AW would just look at the cheaper Seiko and want
the more expensive Seiko watches. Things seem fine now and we enjoy
the evening.
The next morning I wake up to a not too happy lady. She’s written down
a note bring up fool again and such. I says again what I told him and tell her
I’d never make a fool of her because if I did I’d be making myself a fool. I
explain to her that I not try to translate what they talked about and not
understanding the lines on my hand that her friend talked about after she
looked at my fist. (they smiled at each other just as he and I did so I really
didn’t care it had to be good). She explains the what the lines mean’t and
I tell her until she knows much more English that it would be best for her
NOT to listen and try to understand us talking English fast. She agrees and
never does again the other two times we get together. Problem solved and
easy again just as the others. (I’m stunned; listen up AW)
Saturday we leave to visit her relatives in a small town 40 KM away.
We went by train that would take just over 1 hour and let me tell you the
seats sucked and the looks I was getting made me somewhat uncomfortable.
Arrived with no incidents, but I was glad to get off that thing. As usual when
you visit someone the first thing you do is greet everyone and then eat and
drink champagne. That evening the 12 of us (2 toddlers and 2 youngsters) and
another couple and their boy (friends of relatives) went to a lake for a
picnic, swim, and of course more Vodka. Had a blast. Her son can’t swim
so I hold him up while he tries to swim. (he has seen his father only once in years
...let alone did he do anything with him.) I had my first problem with him after
we eat. He’s wants to go swimming again and I explain you shouldn’t swim
for a 1/2 hr. or so. He’s ok with that and it’s 6:30 PM now and getting cool out.
At 7:10 he’s ready to go swimming again; well it’s cool enough I don’t want
to and tell him so. He gets all fusted up and pouts now. I ask my lady ok
what’s up with him. Well he told me you promised to go swimming again
after the alotted time was up. I says well I never promised to go again. I told
him you shouldn’t swim right after eating. She agrees that’s what I said and
talks to him...he’s still pouting. In 20 min or so we start playing football (soccer)
and now he’s ok and happy. He wants to play with me on the same side.
I’m happy and he’s happy. Another positive response to fixing a problem.
All and all a nice week with better vibes, thoughts and feelings about
us. (meaning the three of us)
Continued in My Trip week #3
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