... in response to bull sh!t!!, posted by paul21 on Jul 9, 2002Your claims of being "scammed" are pretty vague and you post no details, so I don't know what really happened with you and your "scam girl." But, as I posted above, I had mostly positive experiences with Kherson Pearls, which accurately purports to be an "introduction" agency and not a "holding your hand to ensure you don't make bad decisions and give your money away to someone you barely know" agency. They provide a good and personal service for profit and, overall, they do a pretty good job. And that's not, as you say, bull sh!t. But from the vague details of your post, it sounds like you freely chose to give away all your money away to someone you barely knew. Don't blame the agency for your mistakes.
You are not the first guy who has freely allowed yourself to be scammed and I am sure you won't be the last. I say you "allowed yourself to be scammed" because, if you really did freely and voluntarily give "thousands of $$$" to a girl you barely knew, then it was your choice...and it sounds like it was a foolish choice to me. I don't mean to rub salt in your wounds, but I don't think its fair to blame others for your own bad decisions and actions. As we say here in America, "we value our freedoms, and along with any freedom comes certain responsibilities...we have the freedom to succeed and the freedom to fail" (okay, maybe only I say that). We also sometimes say "a fool and his money are soon parted." And guess what, pal? YOU were a fool, and YOU were just as much a part of the "scam" as the girl you claim scammed you. Because whatever happened between the two of you was something YOU and SHE, as adults, CHOSE to do. (All voluntary mutual exchanges between two rational parties are mutually beneficial to each party, otherwise the transaction would not take place...Econ 201.) So don't blame the introduction agency for your bad choices.
The kind of guys who foolishly and freely allow themselves to be "scammed" by RW/UW women, as you did, are the probably the same kind of guys who also foolishly and freely allowed themselves to be "scammed" by an AW before deciding that all AW's are bad. Awwwww..... And then these guys decide to look to the FSU for the safety of a "more traditional and honest woman." And guess what? They get "scammed" by the RW/UW as well! Call it the "scammed male syndrome." But how were you really scammed??? (You did not describe any real details.) You gave money to someone you barely know and she pretended to like you? I see that happen to suckers here in America all the time. Have you ever been to a bar? Well, if you have, you will have probably seen guys buying girls drinks and hoping they "will score" and oftentimes they don't. Now, to use a simile here...blaming an agency for your bad choice of giving money to a girl you barely know is like blaming a bartender for serving a girl drinks after telling him to "put her drinks on my tab" and then finding out she was just playing you for the free drinks. What's the difference? I guess you can even blame the bartender for "receiving a portion of that money" the way you blame the agency because the bartender probably also received a percentage of the "scam" money you spent in the form of a tip. I see suckers like that all the time...but to blame others for your foolish mistakes is just bad form.
Every agency with a large catalogue of girls will have some girls who are honest and sincere and some who are not. If they are large and diverse, they will be a cross section of society. And we can't expect all the agencies to hold our hands and micromanage our relationships. And we can't expect all the agencies to keep us from failing or from making bad and foolish mistakes. That's our own responsibility. I mean, we are grown men and not little boys...right?
