... in response to Re: Be careful what you wish for. - 8, posted by Jack on May 31, 2002Jack, at least Brian won't have your dilema of having to choose between two beauties and then wondering if he did select the right one!
Of course it makes more sense to meet many RW's (or as many prospective women for marriage) as possible so you can at least make some comparisons and have a point of reference (so to speak) when one really stands out. However, juggling a number of RW's and trying to spend quality time to each of them is not the easiest task, unless your just out for a good time. How many women do you really need to meet before you don't ask yourself the question is she really the one? Six, twelve, twenty, thirty? Numbers are very subjective.
As to RW's feelings or displays of affection in public, yes many are hesitant or reluctant to express feelings in public. The very fact that Lena was extremely open and showed her affections in public (which goes against the grain) tells me she really digs Brian. Its one thing to profess your love/feelings but if you can't show them in public (regardless of the culture/heritage) then that would be a big red flag for me. I remember asking Arina about this and she said something to the effect of, if a couple really like each other, what does it matter they show it in public?
Lastly, I think you need to read a little deeper into Brian's letters from Lena and not put her in the same context as you would an AW. If Lena were an AW, yes I would be concerned or suspect if we just met (though corresponded for a length of time) and she told me I was the only one for her. However, RW's are very different the AW (as I'm sure you are well aware of the differences) and they can become very attached emotionally even more so then AM when corresponding with someone they feel connected too. Brian had mentioned she had good control of her feelings, but this is what she would only show on the outside, on the inside she was probably bursting. Meeting Brian was probably more or less confirmation for her he was the guy, she probably had her mind made up to a large degree before he stepped off the plane. As the proverb goes, Don't look a gift horse in the mouth...Brian, good luck to you, and listen to your heart and not too much to this board... )
