Thank you for all the help

[John K]

... in response to Re: ( update)Thank you for all the help, posted by terry on Mar 1, 2002

I think sometimes people have that "ideal" mate visualized and refuse to deviate from that norm.  While everyone has to make a choice regarding how much deviation is allowed for a woman should fit within those ideals, I suspect that the person who holds that deviation too small will find much more difficulty finding and keeping a mate.

Why do I think this?  It boils down to one word, acceptance.  Those who are too locked in on their vision of an ideal mate will be less tolerant of others who are close, but not perfect enough.  Worse, if that deviation is met initially, it may cause more problems later when some other aspect of the mate does not meet the seeker's criteria.  The person may even feeled betrayed somehow by their mate, thinking "This isn't the person I married."

That's why I suggest that before searching, most people make two lists.  The first list is what your ideal mate would have.  The second list is what you would realistically accept.  Then, any prospective mate who met all the "realistic" criteria could then be evaluated for "ideal" traits.  If your prospective mate meets your more important ideal traits, then he/she could be rated higher in your consideration.

Like you, I was looking for someone different than whom I ended up with.  I made the acquaintence with my wife through a mistake in letter routing.  I had requested that my first letter go to one Marina and it went to a different one instead.  Had I been too hung up on ideals, I would have passed up on the best person to ever happen to me.  As it is, I ended up with a woman of much higher caliber than what I had expected to find.

As always, this is simply my 2¢ and strictly my opinion and experiences.  Your mileage may vary...

[hockeybrain]

... in response to Miss Right or Miss Realistic?, posted by John K on Mar 1, 2002

Thanks

[Natalya]

... in response to Re: ( update)Thank you for all the help, posted by terry on Mar 1, 2002

You know it is like sometimes we're so blind like newborn kittens and we don't see and recognize obvious things when they right before our eyes.And one day it is just like that, click, and your vision become clear and you think "What did I think  and where my eyes were all these years".Good thing that better late than never that you realized Mila is the right person for you.I wish you all the best.She'll be happiest person ever today when you tell her about your feelings toward her.Good luck to you.

Natalya

[terry]

... in response to Terry, I'm so so happy for you!!!, posted by Natalya on Mar 1, 2002

Thank You Natalya

Just got e-mail from her so i am getting ready to write her. she is in real good mood. she send me her "Morzishor"

she was telling me that today is the first day March and is a tradition in Moldova  to give this symbol of spring as new hope to every body you love. she sent me her " Morzishor" as her sign of love for me. ever heard of this before?

wow, did not know this, wait till she hears what I tell her:)

[Natalya]

... in response to Re: Terry, I'm so so happy for you!!!, posted by terry on Mar 1, 2002

unfortunately.Must be some kind of Moldovian tradition.Would you please find out what exactly "Morzishor" represents.I'd like to know. I know in Belarus and in Russia there are plants called "Mimoza" kind of yellow fuzzy little flowers.These plants represent spring and new life. Alot of times men give bouquet of toulips and mimosa to women on March 8, Russian Women Day.

[Vox]

... in response to Terry, never heard of "Morzishor&qu..., posted by Natalya on Mar 1, 2002

"Martsishor" comes from martie (the month of March in Romanian) it is the diminutive of martie, or little martie in the Romanian language, and Moldavian is nothing but a regional, Romanian dialect, in other words Moldavian = Romanian.
The custom seems to have originated in Romania, therefore by extension is customary in Moldova too.

It's:
1.the name of this March 1st holiday, somehow close to St. Valentine in meaning and custom.
2. as well as the name of the little gift in the form and size of a brooch which people give and receive on this day, and which is worn on the left side on the chest.
It's like a small insignia, symbol, or a jewelry-like little flower, animal, etc. made out of metal, glass, plastic, wood, even jewelry, artistically made, which is attached or tied to a nice piece of thread (like the thread in which pastries boxes are tied up with in the pastry shops here, the alternating white and red thread), but it has on one end a red small but long tuft and a white one on the other end.
Somehow the thread is ornamentally tied up in such a way that the two tufts hang below the "brooch" and above it there are two or four nice small "bends" or circles of this thread, well usually girls and ladies know and do this arangement, but in the end it looks very nicely.
One gives such a "martsishor" to the wife, or to the husband, to the kids, to (some of the) ladies at work, to other lady friends, female or children relatives, generally to someone close or who is important to someone, but not to other men, in the case of a man.
A woman, to all of the above, and also to some close men, if she wants. There are some (other) unwritten, flexible rules about this, but generally this is the main idea behind it.
Ladies who are teachers probably get most of these "martsishori", since usually kids strive to give them, if not whole-heartedly, at least to impress them anyway!
In the end one receives many such "martsishori", and usually kids and women end up wearing a couple of them, on the left side (the side of the heart), and the men only one or two. The ones "less important" or "significant", are kept as souvenirs.
Kids, women, and teenagers have a lot of fun with them, and there is always the wish and desire to get and wear the ones from the ones one loves most!

[terry]

... in response to Martsishor comes from martie (March, in ..., posted by Vox on Mar 3, 2002

Thanks Vox

that helps me understand a little more about it. Mila drew one and e-mailed it to me.  I see what you are talking about.

[terry]

... in response to Terry, never heard of "Morzishor&qu..., posted by Natalya on Mar 1, 2002

Morzishor is a Festival that starts the 1st day of march in moldova.  it last for a week and they make silk flowers to give to all the girls and women during this time.  Mila said they have  a lot guest from Slavik republics. it is a time of hope , love and happiness.  I did nt knwo about this festival until she e-mailed me the letter today with her Morzishar. last year , this time, she told me she wanted to, but i was being stubborn. ha.  she got my letter and is very happy right now.  she is asking me a lot ofquestion right now. but ,I can tell she is very happy right now, but I think she wants to make sure I am being sincere in what I told her. she also told me that Mimoza is a yellow flower that is given on marth 6th to women  in russia.  She said that Morzishar is a  moldova word.

[John K]

... in response to Re: Terry, I'm so so happy for you!!!, posted by terry on Mar 1, 2002

I hope it goes well for the two of you.

[KenC]

... in response to Re: ( update)Thank you for all the help, posted by terry on Mar 1, 2002

Terry,
Just wanted to tell you that your story made me smile and feel great.  Best of luck to you.
KenC

[MarkInTx]

... in response to a very cool story, posted by KenC on Mar 1, 2002


In Ken's case he had to get over the fact that his wife turned out be be younger and sexier than he had planned.

It's a rough dayum life... ain't it Ken?

LOL...

[KenC]

... in response to Yeah... we all have to get over somethin..., posted by MarkInTx on Mar 1, 2002

Mark,
And with all the sad stories we hear here, I am glad to be able to provide a happy one.  What's so dam hard about this anyway?  Find a gorgous girl, call her, fall in love, bring her here, marry her and live happily ever after.  Geeez.
KenC

[MarkInTx]

... in response to it is a tough job, but someone had to do..., posted by KenC on Mar 1, 2002

You know... the "Find her" thing...

The rest seems easy...

That first part seems to take a wee bit o' luck...

You're not Irish, by any chance, are ya?

[Alien]

... in response to Thank you for all the help, posted by terry on Mar 1, 2002

Can anyone advise any contacts for daily rent in Moscow?
Thanks a lot.