A Newbie Speaks (kinda long...)

[Lara]

... in response to Re: hope you'll find HER, posted by Lara on Feb 19, 2002

you look nice,  John, and r quite a russian favourite type You have very good chances, i would say.
Enjoy your writing to women- you may contact me in Yahoo under Lara_cccp - if any help required

[unsure]

... in response to Re: Re: hope you'll find HER, posted by Lara on Feb 19, 2002

Thank you!  I truly appreciate your encouragement.

[tim360z]

... in response to Generous = Money?, posted by John K on Feb 18, 2002

Not the money.  Its the time and the care and the patience and the understanding.  We guys can equate "generous"  to money.  It is more the time and the care...it is the little things which impress a woman so much.  That you think of her.

[SteveM]

... in response to Generous = Money?, posted by John K on Feb 18, 2002

Hey John,

I had to smile at your post, because it does remind me of the stress we had last year about the state of our current abode.  It was very difficult for me to accept that my Grateful Dead tapes were not going to stay in racks nailed to the living room walls.  In fact, I did not even realize at the time how unacceptable it was to have all of the walls in your house painted white.

On the other hand, I have never met anyone more clever than my wife at actually doing the work.  Painting, wallpaper, making and hanging curtains, all were done better than if we had it done professionally.  I get a lot of surprised compliments from friends who remember how I lived before.

My advice would be to plan on $200-300 a month on this aspect of life, if you are not starting with much except a clever wife.  As with the clothing end of things, the best favor you can do yourself and your budget is to help her find good stores and good sales.  It wasn't easy for me at first, since I am a non-shopper, but once we found which stores had good stuff at good prices, things went much smoother.

Take care,

Steve M.

[Mike]

... in response to How Your House Will Change, posted by SteveM on Feb 18, 2002

My place hasn't changed to much so far because it is decorated in American Indian/south west ( you know )I think it may be that she was cought off guard by my place having a theme??

Geeze I was hoping no one would mention the shopping word and I could have kept her thinking that AM aren't allowed to go shopping with their wife ( tradition ) When she reads your post later I'm gonna get it!
Mike -- who would rather go to the dentise then go shopping.

[Lara]

... in response to Generous = Money?, posted by John K on Feb 18, 2002

I fully agree with your definition of generous

[jj]

... in response to Re: women do not love stingy cowards any..., posted by Lara on Feb 18, 2002

I am not so sure about this post.  I met a lot of Economists when I was in Ukraine.  Economy exisited in FSU and I also considered most of the Ukrainian Women to be realistic about financial responsibility.  It is a question of how and where you spend your money.  SAVE MONEY WHERE YOU CAN AND SPEND IT WHERE IT COUNTS - ON YOUR LADY..  You can not buy love.. but you can rent...) In the end if she is serious she is going to wnat to know that you will both be conmfortable in your retirement and can afford to educate and raise a family..  If your into just the good time then your only there to party...  Have fun.

[unsure]

... in response to Stor..., posted by jj on Feb 18, 2002

jj,

Why do you reply to an obvious flamer?  What's the point?  After all, that's what they want.  If you examine the content of the post to determine its intent, it's clear that there was no sincere desire to learn something or be helpful.  It's best just to ignore ignorant people.

John

[jj]

... in response to Why do you reply to an obvious flamer?, posted by unsure on Feb 18, 2002

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[Lara]

... in response to Stor..., posted by jj on Feb 18, 2002

well, we have never had any idea of retirement savings you'll larff but the only savings peeps make ( i mean MANY peeps, almost everybody) are for their own funerals

in theory women may say you everything, coz they r afraid not 2 meet your expectations

[BubbaGump]

... in response to good in theory, posted by Lara on Feb 18, 2002

That writing style is just, oh so familiar.  Did you go to the Kiwi school of English composition?  Learn to write girl.

[MNKenr]

... in response to I think your name must be Lara Spyke!, posted by BubbaGump on Feb 19, 2002

Bubba.

I was in Kiev last October. I work in the computer industry. While in Kiev I met a guy working at a local Internet cafe that spoke great english. He was interested to learn about the computer industry in America. He offered to be my translator just so he can have practice with English. So I used him as a translator when I needed one.

The point is he self studied English. He learned it from Movies and TV. He was a younger guy (21ish). He English sounded similar to Lara's. A lot of coz, U, ic, and tons of slang.

Spyke is not the only one to talk like this.

MNKen

[jj]

... in response to A Newbie Speaks (kinda long...), posted by unsure on Feb 18, 2002

You can spend it on better things...

Try forst the Free listing...  and some of the user pay sites.

dateing.ru
kiss.com

there are many more... Many of the women listed on various sites are also on dating.ru.  You will need translation but again you can use the internet to help here too.

[oldbutspry]

... in response to Save your money, posted by jj on Feb 18, 2002

Ok, I've checked out the dating.ru site.  It seems pretty good.  So I found a woman who's photo and description I really liked.  And I just tried to send her an email and got it returned because the mailbox is full.  I really shouldn't be surprised by this, eh?  I'll try resending the message later.  I kind of wonder, though, if I will ever get through.  She's been listed for 6 months and I would think by this point she is involved or would be fatigued to the point of never wanting to see another email.
Anyway, I suppose this is the natural result of giving out free addresses.  EVERYONE is likely to write the attractive (or even not so attractive) girls since they have nothing to lose.
I'm just wondering if I'm wasting my time trying this.  Have you actually written to the girls in the free section?  Do you get through most of the time?  Yeah, I could pay the $50/month but that defeats the save-your-money premise.
Did I miss your point?  Am I supposed to post a profile of myself on the site?
I do appreciate your help.  I feel like I'm learning a lot going through each little step of this process.

[unsure]

... in response to Save your money, posted by jj on Feb 18, 2002

I checked out this site.  It seems rather interesting.  Then I got curious and checked out the section of men.  Omigosh!  What are most of these people thinking?  Dressed in T-shirts, with the worst expressions on their face, etc!!  Or worse, with no shirts or tank tops!  I'm not ragging on these people for their looks - just the fact that so many people took so little effort to make any sort of good impression.  The contrast is striking. Even the "freebie" women are mostly dressed in some sort of elegant or pleasantly feminine attire.

I sincerely hope I'm not describing anyone on this board and I doubt I am since being on the board requires some minimal effort in and of itself.  Is there something I don't know?  Are all these guys putting these photos there to avoid scammers?  Or are they all lame and clueless and just don't know any better?  I guess I should have read some of the profiles to see but I was in shock just browsing the photos.

I've always thought that you should dress so as not to look out of place with the person you wish to attract/be with.  I guess I expected to see a bunch of guys in business suits (and a few were).  Or maybe a shirt and tie.  Mind you, I didn't browse but about 10 or 12 pages - I figured this was a representative sampling.

Are these the sorts of guys/photos these women are hearing from?