... in response to Opinions please, posted by aonnnn on Dec 18, 2001First of all I assume that you are legit - and I apologize but a little voice in my head said smart troll and I will explain later - and is it not a pain in the butttt that we even have to have a word called troll -----------
But let me tell you how I feel for what you have been going through in trying to understand all of this. RW's translation is pretty clear don't you think?
However, You need to focus on another side of this. God was shining over you the day your fiancee accidently sent you that e-mail. I mean would you ever proceed with the K-1 process with a woman whereby you knew she did not love you? Of course not if you have a brain - and I assume you do.
In this case == clearly you are a ticket to a new life only - plain and simple.
Thank your lucky stars you found out now and not later when she was back home with you and she leaves you and the INS now wants you to support her.
Now why did the troll question come to mind? I do not know it just did. So, I used an electronic translator with your message. To me, it came out quite clear in the translation that she did not love you - there was no question. So, that even makes me wonder more. Why would this person even have a doubt about this lady being sincere ?
There are only two explanations that I could come up with. You are a troll with a whole new tactic - if so, I take my hat off to you for your creativeness or
You may be too trusting - to the point of not being able to see red flags of much less significance than this one and then even having to question one that hits like a 2x4 right across the head. If this is the case, and of course I would not know just from one post, I urge you to self evaluate your trust factor and your willingness level to question little red flags. I say this because, I would be surprised if there were not red flags prior to this that should have raised your suspicion.
If you want to help yourself as well as others who might be of the temperament to ignore red flags - look back and think about this and let us know what in retrospect were red flags.
I would hate to see you join the ranks of what I have termed the La La Land Patrol.
If you are too trusting, I think you need to frequent this board to help you gain perspective.
But there is good news. You learned a lesson and there are soooooooo many wonderful women over there - it is very hard not to find one that is right for you if you are patient. Hey, the road to getting there has plenty of women like the one you hooked. My advice - keep fishing and when you get what you think is a good one on the line do not punish her from paranoia from this experience but just keep your eyes open - as red flags are usually there to protect you.
Again, sorry for what you have gone through. Time will heal your wounds, the wound would have been much more costly had she not screwed up in sending to you that e-mail. You are lucky.
Good luck to you
