It has been a while since I posted on the board. The combination of stress at work and settling in with Yelena have made it difficult to focus on posting. I am an attorney in Massachusetts and my business is driven by mortgage closings...so it has been crazy...thank God.
After two weeks of waiting for our K-1 in Moscow, we arrived home together in Boston on October 17th. It was my intention to marry Yelena sometime shortly thereafter, but due to illness on her part and a desire to let the dust settle, we "waited" until November 7. A few friends joined us at a civil ceremony and the deed was done.
As we walked out of the Justice of the Peace's office, Yelena told me in her broken English, "your freedom finished!" We laughed and have had no real regrets ever since. I say no "real" regrets because after 44 years of singledom, one can't help think about all that has passed and all that might have been. Never the less, I am very heappy and I know that Yelena is too. We are very, very good for each other...and we love each other the right way/the real way.
Yelena has been taking English classes M-F in the mornings and going to the Gym in the afternoons. She has turned out to be a great cook She loves food and cooking and I am eating dinner at home 4 to 5 nights a week...on a real plate (she won't let me use plastic anymore.) She is very happy. Her biggest frustration is that she is not as fluent in English as she would like to be...but that will come.
I must point out that every moment is not blissful...we live in a real world with real problems...and marrying a foreign woman can be emotionally demanding. Stress at work, etc., will always be there and it can make it difficult at times to give a new wife the attention that she needs, or to make her understand an American man's difficulty with daily life when she is comparing it with life in Russia...but Yelena and I are sensitive to each other's needs and we get better with each other every day.
I am posting my short story to let others know that finding a wife from a foreign country is a reality. And while it may not work for some, it definitely works for others. There is no real secret to this success. Yelena and I are compatible, respectful and in love...and we were at the right time in our lives to accept the responsibility that goes with marriage.
