Very Hot Girls on Dating Sites

[Maverick]

Are they all hookers?


Are these sites (FilipinaCupid and Cherry Blossoms) even legit?


I did make attempts to research this on this site, but I seem to be getting conflicting answers.

[InnocentVixen]

I used to be on that site... nope, not a hooker, no prepago here, no golddigger or desperate to get out of my country. But I did see plenty of those, then again I am not in the Philippines so who knows over there?


Nah, I am joking, you are just not used to being around semi-decent looking women and you think they are hot, while they really are not so hot in their own country, it's the exotic factor or the glamour shots (just a guess).


So in short, yes, some are real and serious about finding a good husband.

[Tanuki]

While I didn't use those sites you listed, Date In Asia was the site I used, I am sure they all have their share of folks trying to scam. In my search I met a few that made me question their true motive but, what that said, I also met some very nice and what appeared to be genuine ladies.  You just have to be cautious in your search and don't just go by the picture. If they didn't take time write anything in their profile I moved on.  Actually, I had some pretty strict criteria that I followed while looking at profiles on Date In Asia.  If it didn't meet that...  It was onto the next.
 

[robert angel]

There's going to be a percentage of girls on those sites who don't really have marriage or even a BF-GF relationship as a primary motive for being there. Some are obvious, some are not--there's some very slick operators and even rings of people operating with ill intent. That said, I'd guesstimate it's between 10 and 20 percent of the women that are 'iffy' at best. There are even more who are damaged goods, beat down by life, and women with strange personalities, women with materialistic more than romantic motivators, women not neccesarily compatible with marrying a foreign--if 'any' kind of guy.
 
Maybe it--the women as a whole you see on these sites, are a microcosm of available women in general, I don't really know--hard figure to pin down. But in the same breath, I'd venture to say there's probably at least as high a percentage of flakey, 'damaged goods' kind of guys on the male side of the coin. There's guys who want a sexy, hot young submissive kind of gal who'll take care of their every whim and not complain if he's a cold, slovenly bum. There's a lot of guys right here who seem to carry a pretty persistant, bitter attitude about women from their own country. Can't say I don't see their point/s to some extent and yes, I can be cynical, but ruminating over such unfortunate characteristics does little good for anyone.
 
Male or female, the real challenge is taking the time to learn the 'game' how to sort out the good, the bad and the ugly, knowing when to pursue and when to run.

[whitey]

Well said Robert.

[Maverick]

There's going to be a percentage of girls on those sites who don't really have marriage or even a BF-GF relationship as a primary motive for being there. Some are obvious, some are not--there's some very slick operators and even rings of people operating with ill intent. That said, I'd guesstimate it's between 10 and 20 percent of the women that are 'iffy' at best. There are even more who are damaged goods, beat down by life, and women with strange personalities, women with materialistic more than romantic motivators, women not neccesarily compatible with marrying a foreign--if 'any' kind of guy.
 
Maybe it--the women as a whole you see on these sites, are a microcosm of available women in general, I don't really know--hard figure to pin down. But in the same breath, I'd venture to say there's probably at least as high a percentage of flakey, 'damaged goods' kind of guys on the male side of the coin. There's guys who want a sexy, hot young submissive kind of gal who'll take care of their every whim and not complain if he's a cold, slovenly bum. There's a lot of guys right here who seem to carry a pretty persistant, bitter attitude about women from their own country. Can't say I don't see their point/s to some extent and yes, I can be cynical, but ruminating over such unfortunate characteristics does little good for anyone.
 
Male or female, the real challenge is taking the time to learn the 'game' how to sort out the good, the bad and the ugly, knowing when to pursue and when to run.

Definitely good advice.


Thanks!

[Gato4Astrid]

In answer to your question about "very hot girls", yes and no.   
Some of them:
1 - are 'cam hookers'
2 - use fake profiles, fake photos  (photos of models, actresses and even ladyboys!!)
3 - want to know you, and are waiting for you to send them money
4 - are ladyboys!
 
If you are looking for "very hot girls", then you are in competitions with hundreds of other men.  To be exact, hundreds of DESPERATE men who are going to send them money by trying to win them!
Many of these "very hot girls" seem to prefer older men - for example 70 years old men!   VERY SAD INDEED!
 
Now, are you going to continue to look for "very hot girls" ?  If so, it is not impossible to do it but the chance isn't good either. 
 
Good luck
 
 
 
 
 

[dewey4350]

In my opinion filapino cupid is thats where I meet my girl. I met a lot of girls there. I even went to see some of them as well. i was also lied to on that site. There is a lot of good on that site willing wemon to meet, date and marry. Yes there are some, not so good ladies . And yeah maybe some boys that look like ladies -LOL. I made a series of 5 questions I would have each answer and if they got 5 right I was very interested. I would keep some that got 4 right. Trust me I left my cell phone on and when I got emails and requests from all the ladies. My phone actually died from the hits of interest. I only stayed on that site until I had a series of ladies that met my concerns. I was honest with them that I was talking to other ladies and that when I came over I was going to meet other ladies. I liked the one that had 5 questions of her own after she answered mine. She was the last one I met and that was two years ago. I have been over there (trust me nothing replaces going over there) four times going on 5. I am waiting any day now to start her papers to come here. I only stayed on that site for like 8 days and I closed my profile. It does work it can work. I can't wait to get her here. I am so ready and by the way we have talked everyday twice a day sense we met at Filapino cupid. Be patient there is a lot of good with the bad.

[Maverick]

Thanks for the responses, guys!


I actually ended up paying for a month's subscription to Cherry Blossoms (happened before I knew about Filipino Cupid) so I'm staying there for now.


I already met some nice girls, some of which I didn't click with. One, in particular, I've been talking to for about 3 hours a day for the past 3 days (I know this is a bit much, but no other girl seems to match up to her so far).


Again, thanks for the responses! Yes, getting bombarded with messages is a bit overwhelming and not something I'm used to here in the States. 

[dewey4350]

You do realize there are several free sites too.

[Maverick]

You do realize there are several free sites too.

I didn't realize that before I paid for Cherry Blossoms, no lol.


Since I already paid for it, I might as well ride it out (I only paid for a month so it's all good). 

[dewey4350]

just becarefull lots of them will want you to pay to look at them naked. If they can talk on a PC they can send you a picture or two. Most can send you a photo of their phone also. Be aware of the glamour shots. Don't send money ask them if they have tattoos. Thats a big no no for me. Especially over there. Don't know what your looking for but ask questions most will bury themselves if you give them time. I am telling you the gays are very clever - make that one of your questions- LOL. Several will have to go to the wifi cafes thats usually a good sign that they are genuine. Most can talk on there phones as fast as I can type. Very techie when it comes to the net. Hang in there and don't get there names mixed up......

[JamesDonut]

I made a series of 5 questions I would have each answer and if they got 5 right I was very interested. I would keep some that got 4 right.

Sounds like you had a great roadmap in place.  Would you mind sharing your questions?

[beleshazzar]

I would also like to know what is a good list of questions to ask. Also a list questions for myself as far as what i am looking for and what i like , thanks.

[Bob_S]

I would also like to know what is a good list of questions to ask. Also a list questions for myself as far as what i am looking for and what i like , thanks.

First and foremost, you should ask yourself what kind of woman's personality do you think you would be compatible with.  A lot of guys might think you go first and foremost for looks.  But if you actually intend to marry someone, in the long run that hot twenty-something will not always be a hot twenty-something.  You will hopefully grow old together.  And while time will take its toll on her looks, you can be pretty sure that her character, her personality, her charm, her intelligence, her morals will all stay the same when you are 80-something and your hot twenty-something has matured into a dignified 60 or 70-something.

So, understanding that all people are individuals, and everyone is different in their own way, each culture will have a more common type of personality archetype than another.  Do you prefer strong willed?  Demure?  Stoic?  Ambitious?  Persistent?  Fiery?  Affectionate?  Passionate?  Think carefully, because however they are in one facet of their personality, they most likely will be in other aspects as well.  You can't say you haven't been warned when that hot passionate sexy woman also views throwing dinner plates or sharp objects as a normal part of marriage conflict resolution.

After you've done some serious soul searching, only then should you consider what physical type are you attracted to.  There may be several cultures and racial makeups that have the personality type that you are compatible with.

After all that, then think about what foreign country holds your interest.  When you marry a foreign spouse, it's not like buying a foreign-made stereo that has compatible plugs for you outlets and instructions in slightly broken English.  A spouse brings their entire background, culture, history, food, language, and world-outlook.  You don't have to love 100% of everything about it.  But there should be enough that you can speak glowingly about it, because it will become part of your life for the rest of your days.  Goodness knows there's a good deal of bloody savagery in my wife's country's history, but there is so much good about her homeland that I would be happy to move there permanently if I could find a job that pays the same as I could make here.  But as that's not likely to happen even if by some miracle I achieved native fluency in her language, I'll have to be content with occasional visit to my MiL.

So, just some thoughts to consider before you start out on this adventure.

[robert angel]

Sometimes having a set up 'list' of questions can actually backfire on you. I think it's better to 'find out' over time, in a round about way, seeing if she has lot of the things you want in a woman, among other things you're curious about. Don't be too 'clinical'--be smart and logical, being emotional is usually unavoidable, but don't show your whole hand of cards.
 
If you ask her five or ten questions straight up, chances are she's going to figure out exactly what kind of answers you're looking for and quite possibly, will 'tailor' the answers to maximize the answers pleasing you. And do the same think for next schmuck.
 
The hotter looking the girl is, the sexier and more revealing--'racy' she is, the more  high maintenance I think she'll probably be. She's used to that pedestal and it can only get higher in the USA. If she's got a pretty high opinion of herself  back home, just wait until she smokes the competition back in the states with her 'hotness'!
 
I'd rather pick a nice looking, down to earth gal who's educated and who I know with a little makeup and a 'party dress', will dress up really, really nice  and can be a 'hottie' if I want. Someone still be able to hold a conversation with me and I my family. Someone who when they get mad, won't make a scene in public, not often lose their cool at home either and most importantly, gets over being angry FAST.
 
Besides, seems the hottest ones usually don't have a bachelor's degree and are probably used to be treated differently, because they're such a 'hottie'--'such a looker'.
 
Like the lines in Bob Seger's 'Hollywood Nights' song:
 

She had been born with a face that would let her

Get her way

He saw that face and he lost all control

He had lost all control.....

Be careful what you wish for!!!

[robert angel]

The hotter they are--and they can definitely control how 'hot' they appear on their profile, the more I'd worry at first.
 
I think a little modesty in a woman goes a long ways--leave something to be discovered--something to the imagination.
 
Add on other things, such as under 'Employment' they list "Other", "Hotel, Tourism and Travel, Hospitality" and I wonder even more. If they're already in the tourism business, why do they have to look overseas?
 
Lack of even a high school education, iffy employment at best, yet she's in an expensive bikini with designer shades, along with shots of her in hotels. beaches, with jewelry and all, makes me a bit wary as well.
 
Somebody's paying for all that and I bet she's used to it.

[bcc_1_2]

Sometimes having a set up 'list' of questions can actually backfire on you.

[/l]

While getting yourself "right" and thinking about what you want is important... the people that treat this like an interview have some pretty limited social skills.