Why not just get married in their country?

[stnmasn]

Yes B .....I can also say that I have experienced marijuana use as a very big negative with some of the calenas I have met. I have also met other calenas that were relieved to find out that I do smoke marijuana,,,,they thought that It made me "normal"  and they were pleased. 


Yes there are exceptions,,,,,,,  what you consider exceptions may not be exceptions...its hard to know....as we know the women of colombia will say what they think you want to hear.


 
I  agree that if one is not a pot user or a drug user.... the available field of quality women is much larger....you can attract women who are against drugs...whom are MANY probably many more than the other category .. I   agree B.......... and women who are not against drugs  ,,I have found,, often are going to be fine with a man who doesnt approve of drug use




I know this is a controversal stmt but..... "i dont consider marijuana is a drug"


I'd like to add i dont do any drugs period,,,,,,,,,i do smoke pot.......I dont drink..


The marijuana culture in the world is HUGE


And my use of the word BS definitely  wasnt necessary,,,,,,,,,but i still stand by my statement about not having to cut down......unless of course stevie cant handle su mota,,,,,,,,  jajajajajaja    jk stevie  jajaja

[stnmasn]

I apologize if i am hijacking this thread   whoops

[Stevieboy]

yoyo stevie...hey i agree with most of what you have said above BUT are you sure you are serious?  What are you looking for in one of these latina babes?  Based on your writings, I can't imagine you being too serious about things....I think IF you are smoking as much weed as it seems you are, you are not going to find many babes that are looking for a family lifestyle with somebody who partakes too much. 


You may have to cut down bigtime.  From my experience with the colombian ladies, marijuana use is not thought of very highly...but hey I know there are exceptions...and you might be drawing from a different category of lady then I did.


Either way, good luck with it all.   


Fathertime!

.
Well lets keep what this site PL is about first in perspective. It's about grown men looking for wives outside of where they're from, NOT about how to be a grown man and whether a woman would appreciate it. Of course women generally are wary of pot smokers. They think pot smokers are lazy and won't work. She doesn't have to be from Col for that. There's many things women don't like, worldwide, especially infidelity, that, is unforgiving. As for the big stereotype of pot smokers, not everyone lives with their parents, wears the same clothes from day to day, and has several empty pizza boxes stacked up in the living room. Some pot smokers work hard, own businesses, and believe it or not, even go to church. Oh yeah, and are conservatives. Well, libertarians anyway.  FYI, I'm not as big a pot smoker as I joke about here. This site is sometimes too uptight and we're all guys, remember?         

[Stevieboy]

Yes B .....I can also say that I have experienced marijuana use as a very big negative with some of the calenas I have met. I have also met other calenas that were relieved to find out that I do smoke marijuana,,,,they thought that It made me "normal"  and they were pleased. 


Yes there are exceptions,,,,,,,  what you consider exceptions may not be exceptions...its hard to know....as we know the women of colombia will say what they think you want to hear.


 
I  agree that if one is not a pot user or a drug user.... the available field of quality women is much larger....you can attract women who are against drugs...whom are MANY probably many more than the other category .. I   agree B.......... and women who are not against drugs  ,,I have found,, often are going to be fine with a man who doesnt approve of drug use




I know this is a controversal stmt but..... "i dont consider marijuana is a drug"


I'd like to add i dont do any drugs period,,,,,,,,,i do smoke pot.......I dont drink..


The marijuana culture in the world is HUGE


And my use of the word BS definitely  wasnt necessary,,,,,,,,,but i still stand by my statement about not having to cut down......unless of course stevie cant handle su mota,,,,,,,,  jajajajajaja    jk stevie  jajaja

.
.
You're not hijacking. I say welcome. This is a site for men about men with a common goal. Not everyone's dik swings in the same direction. As for cutting down, I would say that I'd have to be a heavier smoker to cut down. I drink more beer than I smoke, and I drink once a week usually, only because my hangovers last longer these days. And yes, I get high easily. I don't like to smoke past the high point of laughter. It has to be for laughing with friends or before watching a funny movie.       

[htown]

Traditional latinas who consider themselves respectable 9 times out of 10 are not gonna be cool with smoking pot.  I've found if they like you enough they might tolerate it, but it is definitely a negative.


My mexican girlfriend is very proper and she absolutely hates that I smoke.  Of course she hates alot of things I do and she's already had to accept that I'm kind of an a**hole so it is what it is.


Now the partygirls who live kind of loose and wild will probably have no problem with it, but it's still rare to find one who actually likes to smoke pot.

[fathertime]

.
Well lets keep what this site PL is about first in perspective. It's about grown men looking for wives outside of where they're from, NOT about how to be a grown man and whether a woman would appreciate it. 

I will have to disagree with this point.  The website can be used for both, and other things too.

.
   But some FYI, I'm not as big a pot smoker as I joke about here. This site is sometimes too uptight and we're all guys, remember?       

Well it doesn't sound like you are a big user then.  With all the recent drug references it was starting to seem like it was a daily ritual. 
BTW:  It really doesn't matter to me what you do to relax.  I just wanted to toss it out there for you to ponder, because I do think habitual Marijuana use will take a lot of good woman out of the equation for you.  I also realize that people like their vices, myself included so keeping things in balance is crucial in terms of having a good marriage and decently adjusted kids, etc. 


I'm no authority on marijuana or the % of young colombian women that use it, and it appears to fit into Stnmasn's family lifestyle, so I don't see why it wouldn't work for someone too then. 

I apologize if i am hijacking this thread   whoops

You didn't hijack the thread, I brought the subject up so if anybody is guilty of the hijack it would be me, you were merely disagreeing with what I said. 
Fathertime!   

[Stevieboy]

Traditional latinas who consider themselves respectable 9 times out of 10 are not gonna be cool with smoking pot.  I've found if they like you enough they might tolerate it, but it is definitely a negative.

'


Now the partygirls who live kind of loose and wild will probably have no problem with it, but it's still rare to find one who actually likes to smoke pot.

.
True that.

[Stevieboy]

I will have to disagree with this point.  The website can be used for both, and other things too.



Well it doesn't sound like you are a big user then.  With all the recent drug references it was starting to seem like it was a daily ritual. 
BTW:  It really doesn't matter to me what you do to relax.  I just wanted to toss it out there for you to ponder, because I do think habitual Marijuana use will take a lot of good woman out of the equation for you.  I also realize that people like their vices, myself included so keeping things in balance is crucial in terms of having a good marriage and decently adjusted kids, etc. 


I'm no authority on marijuana or the % of young colombian women that use it, and it appears to fit into Stnmasn's family lifestyle, so I don't see why it wouldn't work for someone too then. 

You didn't hijack the thread, I brought the subject up so if anybody is guilty of the hijack it would be me, you were merely disagreeing with what I said. 
Fathertime!

.
Could you please explain to me how you separate the quotes so that you can answer each? Do you just write "quote" witch brackets before and after each paragraph?
.
To answer your question about me being serious about finding a serious relationship, Yes, of course. But I'm also serious about certain freedoms I as a man expect to keep and she should accept them as well. I can bend if it makes her happy, but if it's not a real problem and she just likes to complain and be bossy, I'm not one to bend that way. The mother of my child hated that I played golf every sunday with my friends. In the beginning of the relationship she thought it was cool that I was active, then she changed and got jealous of golf. So, I'm gonna nip that [snip] in the butt in the beginning from now on and let it be WELL known of any of my habits; which ones I will quit, and which ones I won't. I think most men would be better off if they did that before getting hitched..

[Alabamaboy!]

FT we are going to do the same thing this summer. Our son will have a huge first birthday party in Colombia and it is going to be a blast! The wife is already making a long list of family and friends who will be coming. Just like our wedding over there. It was a ton of fun and cost a fraction of what it would cost in the US. But most importantly she had her friends and family there.

[SkyNorth]

We Americans (and maybe Colombians to) really need to get a handle on facts about a medicine that today could be of great benefit to our friends and family.  My mother is living in severe pain today.  And I am no dopey or pothead, I have smoked pot in college 15-20 times.  But I am confident she could get some real relief and would greatly improve her quality of life by using pot.  The drugs she is taking now are going to destroy her liver and kidneys long before her mind or body goes.  Basically, her cure is equally as bad as her disease.  And the drug company is laffing all the way to the bank.  A month supply of their dope is $5000.  If she would use pot.  I would risk buying the stuff on the street to give to her myself.  But she is a good Baptist woman (that's another story) and will only take the poison the DR. gives her.

[Researcher]

  Others may have a different experience from myself but from what I have seen Colombianas view drug use as a pretty big negative unless they are into it themselves. I think it would be more difficult to find a "non-smoker" of marijuana in Colombia willing to accept someone who does smoke. It seems to me to be simply a matter of how drugs and violence as well as other aspects of drugs are viewed in Colombia. More people seem to be negatively impacted by drugs there. Just my perception of the matter.

[Researcher]

All the talk about the difficulties, cost, and red tape for a K1. Why not just get married there? Ok, let's stick to Colombia.

I got married in Colombia. As far as the immigration process it is pretty much a toss up. Both ways are not that easy. Lots of paperwork, waiting and government crap to put up with.

[bcc_1_2]

eh I'm not a pot smoker, but if people want to do that in their own homes... I obviously don't think it should be illegal (pretty obvious from my past thread). I do however think some ladies could have a problem with that. And kudos to the posters telling you just that while you complain about thread hijacking. You might not want to hear it... and we can talk about pot as medicine... but the reality is a lot of chicas might not be down.

[fathertime]

FT we are going to do the same thing this summer. Our son will have a huge first birthday party in Colombia and it is going to be a blast! The wife is already making a long list of family and friends who will be coming. Just like our wedding over there. It was a ton of fun and cost a fraction of what it would cost in the US. But most importantly she had her friends and family there.

cool buddy, the birthday party is one of the better things we've done. 
  the bounce house was a big hit, and the professional photographer took a big album of pictures...those two things were some of the 'must have'type of things in my opinion. 


Fathertime! 

[fathertime]

.
Could you please explain to me how you separate the quotes so that you can answer each? Do you just write "quote" witch brackets before and after each paragraph?
 

I merely quote the paragraph and then quickly delete the parts i don't need and am left with the sentence that i want to quote...you can do that over and over again.

.
To answer your question about me being serious about finding a serious relationship, Yes, of course. But I'm also serious about certain freedoms I as a man expect to keep and she should accept them as well. I can bend if it makes her happy, but if it's not a real problem and she just likes to complain and be bossy, I'm not one to bend that way. The mother of my child hated that I played golf every sunday with my friends. In the beginning of the relationship she thought it was cool that I was active, then she changed and got jealous of golf. So, I'm gonna nip that [snip] in the butt in the beginning from now on and let it be WELL known of any of my habits; which ones I will quit, and which ones I won't. I think most men would be better off if they did that before getting hitched..

as somebody said already, it is best to just be upfront with things and then there are no potentially unpleasant surprises. 


i hear you about compromising yourself out of enjoyment in life and of course I would NEVER advocate doing that.
 
Fathertime![size=78%]  [/size]

[Stevieboy]

I merely quote the paragraph and then quickly delete the parts i don't need and am left with the sentence that i want to quote...you can do that over and over again.

 
Fathertime![size=78%]  [/size]

,
I don't get it. That's what I did. I clicked the "quote" button at top right and erased what I don't want, but after that, I don't know how to repeat the process.
.
As for speeding up the marriage/ residency process, I called INS dept and the rep I spoke with there said marriage in her country speeds up the process for a visitor permit (not visa) to stay in the US while her residency green card is processed. Does that sound familiar to anyone?

[Ray]

As for speeding up the marriage/ residency process, I called INS dept and the rep I spoke with there said marriage in her country speeds up the process for a visitor permit (not visa) to stay in the US while her residency green card is processed. Does that sound familiar to anyone?

 
It sounds like you were accidentally connected with the janitor when you called CIS (no longer INS).
 
There is no such thing as a "visitor permit" for your spouse. When you marry overseas, you have a choice of either a CR-1 immigrant visa or a K-3 temporary visa.
 
The K-3 visa allows your spouse to enter the US while waiting for the green card to be processed. The CR-1 visa allows your spouse to enter as a resident with the green card processing already complete.
 
Since the actual processing times are very similar, it isn't really any advantage to go with the K-3, but it's free to file so it wouldn't hurt just to have it as a backup in case the CR-1 gets hung up somewhere in the system.
 
Ray
 
 

[stnmasn]

We had our sons baptism in cali and the celebration in my inlaws finca in the country......  it was wonderful and all her family was part of it....it wasnt over the top but it was super nice and much more affordable for what we received down there...... than we could have afforded up here....claro


those types of things can help create good will within the family towards the extranjero. or at least that is what i have experienced

[htown]

,
I don't get it. That's what I did. I clicked the "quote" button at top right and erased what I don't want, but after that, I don't know how to repeat the process.
.
As for speeding up the marriage/ residency process, I called INS dept and the rep I spoke with there said marriage in her country speeds up the process for a visitor permit (not visa) to stay in the US while her residency green card is processed. Does that sound familiar to anyone?

Jeez dude, it's really not that complicated.  A 30 second google search will tell you everything you want to know.


" K1 Visas are generally preferred (over the Spousal Visa and k3 visa) as the visa of choice for engaged international couples as they are considered the easiest, quickest, and least expensive route."

http://www.k1-fiancee-visa-law.com/fiancee-vs-spousal-vs-k3-visa/


What business are you going to start in colombia again?

[htown]

Here's an idea for you stevieboy.  Rent you an apartment in nuevo laredo and have her live there until her visa is approved.  Austin is only a 3 hr drive to laredo.  You could drive down and see her every weekend or whatever your work schedule permits.  Colombians don't need any visa to go to mexico.


I don't know if nuevo laredo might be too dangerous for you.  You could also look into piedras negras.  Same distance from austin but not as much crime.

[mambocowboy]

Here's an idea for you stevieboy.  Rent you an apartment in nuevo laredo and have her live there until her visa is approved.  Austin is only a 3 hr drive to laredo.  You could drive down and see her every weekend or whatever your work schedule permits.  Colombians don't need any visa to go to mexico.


I don't know if nuevo laredo might be too dangerous for you.  You could also look into piedras negras.  Same distance from austin but not as much crime.

True. One of my wife's friends is just up and moving to Mexico to live with a Mexicano, no visa needed. But if a Colombiana has any family connectedness at all they'd never accept her going to live by herself in Mexico while she waits for the gringo to have the Visa approved. Besides, she needs to go to Bogota for her medicals and for the interview in order to have the VISA approved...

[Stevieboy]

 
It sounds like you were accidentally connected with the janitor when you called CIS (no longer INS).
 
There is no such thing as a "visitor permit" for your spouse. When you marry overseas, you have a choice of either a CR-1 immigrant visa or a K-3 temporary visa.
 
The K-3 visa allows your spouse to enter the US while waiting for the green card to be processed. The CR-1 visa allows your spouse to enter as a resident with the green card processing already complete.
 
 
 

.
She basically said somewhat what you did. I didn't write it down as I was driving while she was talking.   


 

[Stevieboy]

True. One of my wife's friends is just up and moving to Mexico to live with a Mexicano, no visa needed. But if a Colombiana has any family connectedness at all they'd never accept her going to live by herself in Mexico while she waits for the gringo to have the Visa approved. Besides, she needs to go to Bogota for her medicals and for the interview in order to have the VISA approved...

.
I would NOT take htown's advice on that. I'm not a virgin to immigration situations with regard to Mexico, just Colombia. Just putting questions out there not just for me, but for other's that need to know.

[htown]

.
I would NOT take htown's advice on that.

  Why not exactly?  You don't think it would be nice to have your woman a 3 hr drive away while you wait for the visa?  Anyway it's just an idea that may or may not fit into your schedule and budget.

I'm not a virgin to immigration situations with regard to Mexico, just Colombia. Just putting questions out there not just for me, but for other's that need to know.

Immigration situations are pretty much the same.  You'd have to do the same exact thing to marry a mexicana as you would a colombiana.  Visa requirements and wait times are the same.




Another idea would be to just bring her over illegally.  Then once she's with you in austin you can marry her and fix her papers.  It would be pretty easy actually, cost about the same, and be way faster.

[htown]

But if a Colombiana has any family connectedness at all they'd never accept her going to live by herself in Mexico while she waits for the gringo to have the Visa approved

How do you know?  Are you the expert of all colombians who have ever lived?  If it was me and I wanted my colombian fiance to live in mexico I guarantee I'd convince her and her family to go along with it.  Of course your budget would have alot to do with it. 

. Besides, she needs to go to Bogota for her medicals and for the interview in order to have the VISA approved...

Guess what bro.  There are things called airplanes that fly back and forth between bogota and other places in the world, including mexico.